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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Off On A Journey Far & Wide, Full Of Support, With No Reasons To Hide.

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Mouseface · 23/06/2013 23:19

Hey, I'm Mouse, one of the Brave Babes on this Bus. :)

We're heading to sobriety, in various different ways, in our own different ways, some of us are there, some not quite yet.

We're a group of non judgemental, mothers, wives, partners, sisters, daughters, girlfriends, and of course all of the male equivalents that run alongside those 'tags', but most of all, we are, or we have been, just like YOU. :) Real people with real concerns about how much we are drinking all of the time.

Our relationships with alcohol are varied, and you'll find most of us are wanting to do something about it..... desperate to stop the cycle of drinking, stopping, drinking, stopping, drinking more, stopping for shorter periods of time and then the reverse, doing ever so well and then 'something' happens and you're back to square one, a place that sometimes gets a little crowded, one little square filled with lots of people who all want out.

Sound familiar?

You're never alone here. Ever.

Come and take a seat, post or lurk. We won't bite but we WILL look after you, SUPPORT you, if you want us to. :)

And for those want to know how we've ended up where we are today, about three years on from THIS THREAD RIGHT HERE

To our last thread JUST HERE

It will be lovely to meet you so why not take a seat and have a gossip about all things booze related but also, DCs, husbands, wives, in-laws, out-laws, and everything in between.

There's always a seat for YOU xxx

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ThisIsMyTime · 23/07/2013 08:33

Hi every one thanks for yesterday couldn't of made it through without u lovely baby's still Feel a bit uneasy today but no where near as bad as yesterday hopefully will keep getting easier now day by day

Pink01 · 23/07/2013 08:44

It will get easier Thisis, just stick with it. Plan for tonight, go and get some fat coke and chocolate, a book or a DVD or something so you can already think through what you will do and how you will manage.

One really useful thing I learnt on here is that the craving do pass so when you are in the middle of one, recognise that it won't last forever it will go away.

The breakthrough for me was surviving my first weekend without drink which was so so so hard even though I have actually done it many times before, in more recent times that has been when I fall down and drink again.

I've now done 4 weekends booze free and every time I think wow I did it! I still get a buzz from it. A different buzz from booze but still a buzz Smile

Lonnika day one of our sober summer for me. I'm ready for it! I'm beginning to realise that I used to think I was relaxing when I drank but only now alcohol is properly out of my system am I realising that I was never truly relaxed, it is a nice feeling now to sit down in the evening as feel chilled out naturally, a totally different feeling.

Anyway enough from me Smile

greeneyed · 23/07/2013 08:47

Morning babes! Still not boingy, effects of this low carb diet, i still feel dreadful, hope it passes soon or I will struggle to keep it up. Feel like I am making myself ill at the moment. I am eating enough even though I am forcing myself to eat as I feel nauseous, I am eating lots of veg, nuts and berries to make sure I am getting some carbs. I was such a carb addict, i think it is a complete body shock! Happy side effect is that I have zero desire to drink! :)

Well done this you are awesome! The first few days are the hardest. If you can white knuckle ride it for a week it will be sooooo much easier I promise.

purps 80 ebay items! Blimey well done I have so much to ebay but never get around to it. mouse I hope you and nemo are okay x

Love and luck to all babes today xx

Pawprint · 23/07/2013 08:49

Hi all - well done to those who abstained, those who slipped up - today is another day.

Pink I feel ok today. Just irritated at myself. Thanks for asking.

greeneyed · 23/07/2013 09:27

I am thinking I am going to have to eat a banana or some chocolate before I literally keel over or vomit everywhere. Low carbers help! (Sorry for thread hijack)

obrigada · 23/07/2013 09:34

Am not a low carber Green, but if you feel that unwell you should eat something.

greeneyed · 23/07/2013 09:37

Hi obrigada thanks for your comment, i will have some carbs if this doesn't pass in the next hour or so. I am eating, i've had a bowl of strawberries, rasperries and blueberries this morning, loads of almonds and half a pack of smoked salmon. I'm also rattling with vitamins and minerals.

Pink01 · 23/07/2013 09:45

Tbh Green I did a low carb (Dukan) once and I found it unmanageable. It was horrible. I was working at a different school at the time to the one I am in now and I can remember feeling so weird and out of sorts sitting in a lesson. Like being under water. I realised I couldn't do my job properly so I stopped. If you feel you need carbs then you do, your body is telling you! We need some level of carbs to function X

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obrigada · 23/07/2013 11:05

Ouch Isindie, not a great start to the day!

Fairenuff · 23/07/2013 11:23

Morning purple Smile

I once left my sunroof open, one that slides right back and the car was drenched from a downpour during the night!

If we had storms I must have slept through it, didn't hear a thing. But it is cooler today and pleasantly sunny.

I cannot stand the heat (sorry sun-worshipers) and am so glad it's cooled down. I can't get anything done when I'm too hot and I'm grumpy with everyone. Unfortunately for me I'm going to Spain in a few days and it's going to be 32+ degrees. I will have to live under a rock in the pool like some weird, lurking shade dweller that comes up for air every now and again Grin

Still, at least I can sleep. I used to wake a lot during the night, thirsty or sweating and feeling groggy. Not drinking has given me the best sleep ever, it's worth persevering with that if you don't usually sleep well.

Paw today is a brand new shiny sparkling day. How do you want to feel tomorrow morning? Pleased with yourself? Well then, you know what you have to do today. You can do it Smile

green I'm another one who cannot low carb. It doesn't fit in with me naturally. I find low gi much easier and more balanced for me.

Isinde you are in good company - hope the electrics aren't affected? Everything else will dry out.

Pink you rock!! Grin

Fairenuff · 23/07/2013 11:34

PS I have just noticed the mn logo at the top left of the page - the baby's wearing a crown. Nice one hq Grin

greeneyed · 23/07/2013 11:34

I've found half a packet of extra stong mints in my bag and eaten them all. 98% sugar. :) feel a bit better

PurpleWolfe · 23/07/2013 11:40

Green How are you feeling now? If you do need to have a bit of a carb input - complex carbs would be best. (I've been doing well but just found a small packet of gummy Magic Rings in the cupboard ..ommmmnom!). Yes, at least 80 items - all children's clothes Boden, Monsoon, Joules, Ralph Lauren etc. It was bloody hard work but I got £330 for our holiday so it was worth it. I'd only take them to the charity shop otherwise.

Isinde Poor you! Hope everything is salvageable? Faire I did exactly the same with a Freelander we'd just bought - only 3 years old. Yes, I was the worse for wear, too. The car was drenched, the digital clock never worked properly again and some of the other electrics were iffy after that. XP never forgave me - don't blame him.

Well, Babes this manic (but welcome) 'Spring Cleaning' continues in the Purple household! I have a space under the stairs (that are in the living/dining room) that has been the home for camera equipment, shoes, photo magazines, shin pads (!), books and more - for at least two years. Today, I just pulled the chair out and shifted the lot! For the first time, I ventured into the attic to store my tripod, backdrop and other photo stuff. It looks sooo much better. Whilst I was at it, I 'accidentally' sorted the porch out too. Threw non-fitting shoes out, sorted out all the coats etc and gave it all a good clean. Bloody hot, bloody pleased! x

Pawprint · 23/07/2013 13:26

Oh heck Isinde - what a nightmare.

I'm ok today, didn't sleep well because of thunder and booze. Today I will not drink.

obrigada · 23/07/2013 14:32

Go you Purps with the spring cleaning, oh to have the energy

Mouseface · 23/07/2013 16:46

Afternoon. tis me, Mouse

Greeny - Post about your feeling sick etc FOR HELP and see what is suggested? I get that but it will pass, it's your body adjusting to your new way of eating. You do needs some carbs, but the right ones.

You should be eating no more than 20g of carbs per day as a rough guide (I think, Crabby will help me on the actual figure) but pop over to the thread and tell them what you've had and how you feel. Sorry you've felt shitty xxx

Sorry I've not been around much, life here has been hectic and Nemo is on day 2 off the summer holidays. How I am not mainlining vodka is beyond me, it really is.

He's not sleeping, which means I'm not. My new meds that the GP has added to the rest are knocking me for 6 even though I've had them before, just not alongside the morphine I guess? I am so wobbly, sleepy and shaky. No appetite at all...

My friend came round this morning and told me that I looked amazing! I asked if she'd been she'd been to specsavers?! Grin But then when I weighed myself, I have lost a couple of pounds....... Hmm

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Mouseface · 23/07/2013 16:48

Purps - cleaning will keep you busy, I'll PM you my address! Grin I can't even wash my car or vac anymore because of the pain Sad but you seem more positive of late :) xxx

IsinDe - twit! Grin

Obrigada - how are things with you? Feeling a bit slugish?

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Mouseface · 23/07/2013 17:05

Welcome to the new Babes and a big hello to Time :) Keep going as best you can! Every drink you don't have is a drink closer to getting away from the claws, the grasp of the WW who loves the summer holidays if you have children.

She'll sit waiting for the squabbles, the fights between the siblings. She'll wait with her ice cold white, waving a glass at you and wanting you to give in to her, open the wine, just one glass to get you through the day........ just til DH/DP gets home or the kids are in bed.......

Well, fuck her. Tell her to bugger the buggery bugger off. You don't need her to get through your day and I am living proof of that. By now, most of you know the life I have and the way my days pan out, what's involved etc..... for me to tell her to fuck the fuck off is a HUGE personal achievement, so if I can do it, YOU CAN DO IT!

Really, you can. Plus, look at it this way, if you let the WW win now, she'll always know she can get to you this way, it'll be her 'in'. If it's dry and safe enough for you to do so, chuck the DCs out in the garden, washing up bowl/bucket filled with water, balloons/water pistols from the £1 shop, cups, whatever, water fights are great, mud pies, rock/stone piles for toys to fight it out...... anything really, they'll wash!

I know it's hard, especially if you are also juggling summer hols with childcare and work, walking into a war zone after a hard days' graft..... another in for the WW.

Sorry to bang on about it but I've wasted too many summer holidays in the past thinking about drinking and then doing it because I could. No any more!!! Plus, wine is FULL OF CARBS AND SUGAR!!!

I'm shutting up now, sorry! Blush

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Mouseface · 23/07/2013 17:16

Paw - I heard the rain but not the thunder, I was up in the night with Nemo demanding more feed in his cup so I missed the thunderstorm. Sad I love a good flash and bang Grin

Sorry you're feeling crappy today lovely, maybe not so much tonight? :) xx

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greeneyed · 23/07/2013 17:41

Well I'm still alive and have done my training :)

Thanks mouse i have definitely had more than 20gms of carbs today, there were that many in my mints and I had carrots, cheese and an apple at lunch as well as a mountain of nuts! I was genuinely scared though that I would pass out or vomit, my back aches and i thought i was giving myself kidney failure (bit hysterical :)) will keep trying to ride it out and add a few carbs in when I feel near death! Being able to do the training is more important to me than weight loss at the moment. I'll get there. Thanks so much for all your support and encouragement babes!

mouse it sounds really hard for you at the moment, i hope you get some respite soon. You are amazing, keep on keeping on.

purps will give you have the profits if you come around my house and ebay all my crap :)

ThisIsMyTime · 23/07/2013 19:31

Well day 2 going ok sweating on and off not sure whether it Is because of the clammy weather hope all you lovely babes are managing tonight stay strong u will feel better for it tomorrow I'm hoping I feel better tomorrow a still a bit shakey and nervous today

PervyMuskrat · 23/07/2013 20:45

Thanks for the welcome babes Grin

Pink you weren't rude at all!

As predicted, the insomnia was bad last night (not help by the thunderstorms!) so I've spent today at work being kind to myself and treating myself to a lovely cooked lunch. I need to lose weight but I've decided one step at a time (and I'm not sure I could hack a low carb diet - fair play to those of you who are doing so well on it)

Fairenuff, yes there is alcohol in the house but it's not normally as much of a problem in the week as it is at the weekend or other days off work. That's when I'm going to have to distract myself.

ThisIs sounds like we're at a similar place - have a Flowers from me

dementedma · 23/07/2013 21:24

Hi all
Brilliant thunderstorms just now - quite spectacular. All power has gone off so got all the candles lit. Very cosy.

ThisIsMyTime · 23/07/2013 22:05

Musk thanks I'm sure we are in the same place , A light has switched on which I'm goin to share with you ladies looking back after having my son had very traumatic birth and few days after ended up with depression several months later after few major life events, that's when the drinking started and I've realised that through my bouts of depression I've literally been on my own coz no one understands and I've also realised that my partner then husband now has not once hugged me and told me that things where going to be fine through my depressive bouts the alcohol was I feel deeply shocked and saddened that my husband literally hasn't done that does n e one else? Sorry for another self obsessed post x

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