The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Off On A Journey Far & Wide, Full Of Support, With No Reasons To Hide.

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Hey, I'm Mouse, one of the Brave Babes on this Bus. :)

We're heading to sobriety, in various different ways, in our own different ways, some of us are there, some not quite yet.

We're a group of non judgemental, mothers, wives, partners, sisters, daughters, girlfriends, and of course all of the male equivalents that run alongside those 'tags', but most of all, we are, or we have been, just like YOU. :) Real people with real concerns about how much we are drinking all of the time.

Our relationships with alcohol are varied, and you'll find most of us are wanting to do something about it..... desperate to stop the cycle of drinking, stopping, drinking, stopping, drinking more, stopping for shorter periods of time and then the reverse, doing ever so well and then 'something' happens and you're back to square one, a place that sometimes gets a little crowded, one little square filled with lots of people who all want out.

Sound familiar?

You're never alone here. Ever.

Come and take a seat, post or lurk. We won't bite but we WILL look after you, SUPPORT you, if you want us to. :)

And for those want to know how we've ended up where we are today, about three years on from THIS THREAD RIGHT HERE

To our last thread JUST HERE

It will be lovely to meet you so why not take a seat and have a gossip about all things booze related but also, DCs, husbands, wives, in-laws, out-laws, and everything in between.

There's always a seat for YOU xxx

thisis sorry you are struggling. Is your plan not to drink today? Do you want to give up altogether

Hello Thisismytime

You have posted before haven't you? How are you this evening? Hope you are feeling a bit better.

We are all here to support you.

Pink X

Evening gorgeous babes

Hope you are all well and happy tonight. I have survived trial by family,sober,and of course it was fine nothing like the Spanish inquesition I'd built it up into in my mind. I even attempted to be pleasant about them most of the time to dh. I was not so successful with that one. oh well!!

Very sorry to hear that babes are suffering. Today is a good day to be 'Day One'. Doesn't matter about slip ups or 3 day benders- that's over and in the past. Start again. Chuck the booze down the sink,call someone, do something else for the 15 mins the cravings last. At times in the past few months I've had to white knuckle it by climbing into bed with a cup of tea and just staying there until the cravings passed,which they always did.

Anyhow, mouse I sort of knew that sweetners were bad but not why.Going to be a banned substance round here!

Not managing to name check but best wishes and lots of luv to you all.

Just seen a quote I wanted to share :)

Life always offers you a second chance it's called tomorrow :)

Thanks lonnika very apt for me today. Thank God yesterday is over!

Despite the slip the weight is falling off me babes, though I know it slows up it's a very good incentive to keep off the wine!

Have a great day all xx

Morning feeling really low thinkin back to wen I went into labour 3 years ago and how my life was so perfect then alcohol is poisoning my body my life and my mind my depression is so bad just want to get out this rut today is day 1 hopefully of the rest of my life x

this things will get so much better. Have you thought through how you are going to avoid the WW and avoid tge cravings. One of favourite sayings is 'if you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always got' I know from your past posts you struggle to get past day 3 and 4. Is there anything we can do to help you past that?

My biggest piece of advice is remove ALL temptation. Good luck babe x

Thinking bout aa Jst scared of seeing n e on that knows me n e one been? Can't cope with this anxiety I just wnt to be normal x

ThisIs alcohol is poisoning my body my life and my mind my depression is so bad just want to get out this rut^

We only get one life. Before you know it, another 3 years will have passed by and where do you see yourself? Doing the same thing, continuing to poison yourself, risking your health - emotional, physical and mental?

Honestly, so what if you see someone you know at AA. They will be there for the same reason as you. Will they judge you, think worse of you for tackling this extremely common problem?

You don't have to be hitting the gin at 6.00am to have a problem with drink. You don't even have to be drinking every day or excessive amounts. You don't even have to be drinking at all. There are people in AA who haven't had a drink for decades.

No one will know which type of drinker you are and, more importantly, no one will care. They will just see someone making an intelligent and healthy choice to accept help.

If you met someone you know in A&E with their leg in plaster, would you judge them for seeking help? This is no different. Don't throw your life away on what others might this. It's your life, not theirs.

green I am very about the weight loss.Well done.

thisis- just go. Don't bother with the phone lines,just show up at a lunchtime meeting.Everyone is there for the same reason and knows what it's like to be new.

I've met someone who is a parent at the school I used to teach at. It's absoultely fine (unlike my spelling). She's well,we are both sober and happy. If you live near to Cambridge then I can meet you and go to the lunch time meeting.

Briliantly worded Faire - :). One things have learned in life - people are so busy getting on and worrying about their own life they don't care about yours :). Good luck this is - you deserve better for you xxx

Well done Green about the eyesight loss - Wise words from Guggenheim as well :)

Guggenheim that's so kind but I live in the north west so wud be to far just been on website n found a lunch time meeting tomorrow think I will go abstinence is the only way now I miss being happy x

lonnika eyesight loss?

ThisIs if you ring they can arrange for someone to meet you just outside and go in with you.

That is very true Ionn best wishes to you & well done.

I'm headed out to said meeting now. Just wanted to say that aa is not the only way, try SMART or hypnotherapy if meetings are more than you can manage.

Ha ha lon the eyesight loss was yesterday after the wine binge! Saw the PT this morning and actually I've only lost a couple of pounds in the last week though about 5 in total since quitting the wine. Calipers said I'd lost a good amount of fat around my middle which is the main thing.

Yesterday it was monumentally hard to stick to my diet and if it hadn't been for having to report in today I would have stuffed my face with pizza! I am determined to get fit and the only way I can do it is without alcohol. Drinking I would not have the motivation or energy to stick with it so I am abstaining for now. I think I am finding it easier this time because I have a goal and something else to focus on and fill my time. I really think you have to replace the wine with something or it just leaves a hole.

this you sound so sad :( I'm glad you are seeking out RL help, we are all absolutely routing for you - let us know how you get on at the meeting. As Guggs says if it is not for you don't despair or throw in the towel there are other options . SMART looks really good - Google it and they even have online meetings. Wishing you all the luck in the world x

Bus calling purps and baby hope you are both okay.

Green thank you I do feel sad at how my life as got to this point my work marriage friendships are suffering and I have no one to tell so I feel on my own im just ashamed of it all really x

Ps sorry for the self obsessed rambling x

This you deserve better :).
Eyesight loss - blimey - Weight loss obviously - :).

I am not mad obviously :).

Lon how long have you been off the booze now? What are the biggest changes you have noticed ?

ThisIs you are not on your own, you have us

Keep posting x

12 weeks AF Thisismytime. Biggest changes are my mood is more even - not as volatile, less anxious, have a kind of inner peace which I know sounds wired - have lost weight and generally look better. Biggest thing for me is that I do t wake up full of self loathing and anxiety like I used to - I appreciate things more - like staying awake past 11 o'clock (I kid you not - I was always half cut/ passed out by ten when drinking :( ) I honestly don't regret giving up Alcoa, my biggest regret is not doing it sooner :). Good luck to you - It def does get easier once you star to change your habits :)

Lon that's so inspirational I'd be made up with one week let alone 12 x

When I started I never imagined I would get to 12 weeks or even 12 days - def one day at a time - what is amazing now is how quickly th days mount up - first few days are the hardest but it will get easier - go for it !!!! - I have done lots of walking, taken loads of baths and washed my hair to keep me away from the old WW - hope AA goes well - keep posting x