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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Off On A Journey Far & Wide, Full Of Support, With No Reasons To Hide.

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Mouseface · 23/06/2013 23:19

Hey, I'm Mouse, one of the Brave Babes on this Bus. :)

We're heading to sobriety, in various different ways, in our own different ways, some of us are there, some not quite yet.

We're a group of non judgemental, mothers, wives, partners, sisters, daughters, girlfriends, and of course all of the male equivalents that run alongside those 'tags', but most of all, we are, or we have been, just like YOU. :) Real people with real concerns about how much we are drinking all of the time.

Our relationships with alcohol are varied, and you'll find most of us are wanting to do something about it..... desperate to stop the cycle of drinking, stopping, drinking, stopping, drinking more, stopping for shorter periods of time and then the reverse, doing ever so well and then 'something' happens and you're back to square one, a place that sometimes gets a little crowded, one little square filled with lots of people who all want out.

Sound familiar?

You're never alone here. Ever.

Come and take a seat, post or lurk. We won't bite but we WILL look after you, SUPPORT you, if you want us to. :)

And for those want to know how we've ended up where we are today, about three years on from THIS THREAD RIGHT HERE

To our last thread JUST HERE

It will be lovely to meet you so why not take a seat and have a gossip about all things booze related but also, DCs, husbands, wives, in-laws, out-laws, and everything in between.

There's always a seat for YOU xxx

OP posts:
greeneyed · 02/07/2013 07:25

Faire wise words as always :) maristella sorry for all you have been through. Tiredness is a big trigger for me. I'm shattered in the evening so have a glass of wine to pep me up a bit, end up feeling worse in the morning and the cycle goes on. We should listen to our bodies and have a rest when tired as opposed to drinking. Just 5 hours sleep for me last night so need to read this back at 7pm when i'm knackered and the WW comes calling!

Have a good day babes xx

mummytolucas411 · 02/07/2013 07:26

Going to join while I am in the right frame of mind!

I definitely drink too much and have for a couple of years but recently (cannot believe I am admitting this) I've found myself having a glass or two of wine when I wake up. Not that I run to the fridge to get it or am shaking until I get it, but I certainly feel more relaxed after.

Yesterday I told myself no, and I am going to try not to drink for 10 days, which for someone who hasn't gone more than a day without a drink for a long time, seems like a very long time!

Ladame · 02/07/2013 08:00

Good Morning all babes - have a good day and be kind to yourselves.

Mummytolucas411 welcome to the bus, there will be someone along in a bit to give you your ticket and wise babes to give you counsel Grin

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greeneyed · 02/07/2013 08:18

Welcome mummy well done for taking a big step and admitting it. Stick with one day at a time for now and don't look too far ahead. Do you have a plan to keep away from the wine. For me the biggest thing is not to have any in the house. How will you react when you get stressed or tired? Do you have some alternatives at hand, i.e chocolate or nice walk? Good luck babe. You absolutely can do it if uou really want to :)

greeneyed · 02/07/2013 08:19

isinde mind if I join you, I'd love to pop to ladame's sounds lovely and I hear she's a great cook!

Ladame · 02/07/2013 08:24

I couldn't think of anything I'd like more Inde and Green lovely babes. Come over, the sun is out and we can sit in the garden. Strong hazlenut coffee, croissants and camembert and tiny sweet yellow tomatoes, charantais melon. ALL BABES welcome!!! ((sigh)) and wanders off thinking just how great it would be to see you all) ...

greeneyed · 02/07/2013 08:29

That sounds heavenly! Alas off to the office in the rain..

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aliasjoey · 02/07/2013 09:51

Morning babes sorry not to read back... it's been busy in RL and will be for the next couple of weeks (DD leaving primary school, performances, special assembly, a prom for 10 year-olds !)

Welcome mummytolucas and well done for being brave and making the first post - great advice from green about not looking too far ahead, just deal with One Day At A Time

Edinbugger · 02/07/2013 13:31

Afternoon babes - and welcome mummy :) I'm with green on the subject of keeping booze in the house. I just can't have it in or I will drink it no matter how many promises I have made to myself about having a day off. I'll do anything to keep the house booze free - I've given bottles of wine to neighbours, poured others down the sink. We're having a party here in a couple of days and I wont let DH buy the booze until the morning of the party - or I'll drink it. Course we're all different. I'm constantly in awe of the babes who manage to keep a bottle of white in the fridge but I just don't have the strength. Do you have a plan for today?

greeneyed · 02/07/2013 15:26

Mummy how are you doing? Have you managed to stay alcohol free today. If you haven't (or if you have) keep posting we all post regularly about our up and downs -sometimes we can give the wine witch a good kicking sometimes she beats us and we need to try some new strategies, the babes will come in with new ideas. Hope all is well drinking or not x

Ladame · 02/07/2013 18:19

Mummy Hope you are doing ok today. Even if you're not, keep with us all, keep posting, it doesn't matter if you can't achieve what you have wanted for today - we all understand x If you have had a good day, come back and tell us x One day at a time. Remember HALT, identify your triggers; Hungry, Angry, Lonely or Tired, or even just Bored. BHALTI (but then I identify everything with food Smile
All Babes have a good evening. Inde Careful on that train my gorgeous curly-haired friend. Mouse Hope you're not in a cell having comitted Illhusbandicide Grin

greeneyed · 02/07/2013 18:51

I LOVE bhalti.

Bored
Hungry
Angry (i substitute this for Anxious in my case)
Lonely
Tired
I ? Perhaps irritated?

Ladame · 02/07/2013 19:27

Ill just a bit, maybe to feel a bit better?

Indecisive perhaps not committed?

Insomnia Because you feel that you can't sleep?

Babes, any others?

Edinbugger · 02/07/2013 19:59

Ignored?

greeneyed · 02/07/2013 20:08

Definitely Irritable for me tonight, I am a right ratbag. Day 2 always hard. WW here and despite all my advice earlier I have red wine in the house. Grrr distraction time, will paint nails then I can't touch anything!

Edinbugger · 02/07/2013 20:59

The wine witch is here tonight in full force. She tailed me round the supermarket and I nearly caved cos I was BALTI on all fronts for most of the day. And breathe. Jeez. When does this get easier?

Pink01 · 02/07/2013 21:03

Hello babes

Stick with it Green you will be so glad in the morning. And thank you for the drinking quiz link the other day, it has really frightened me and therefore given me some motivation!

Day 9 here and feeling pretty good but very knackered after a long day at work. The kids won't settle in the evenings at the moment as it is so light outside so bedtime is becoming a bit of a task which I am not used to any more!

Mummy welcome to the board and you will get lots of good advice here and support. How has day one been for you so far?

Pink X

Pink01 · 02/07/2013 21:04

It will get easier Edin. Well done for not caving in. How long have you been on the bus for? Sorry I don't think I know you very well (yet Smile)

greeneyed · 02/07/2013 21:16

Thanks pink and big well done. Yes frightened me too but in a good way best to be aware of all the facts than sticking my fingers in my ears going la la la! Have seen the bitch off for tonight and now have nice nails and flip flop ready feet :) Well done Edin . I have it on good authority it does get easier :)

dementedma · 02/07/2013 21:28
Fairenuff · 02/07/2013 21:57

Oooh la la a trip to France. How exciting Smile

How are you doing Edin? WW buggered off yet? Well done greeney, good strategy there. I used to do a Face Pack Friday, kept me on the straight and narrow for a bit.

Welcome to mummy, come back and let us know how you're doing. If you are drinking, we have a very friendly, non-judgy dog in the sidecar who understands all our problems and still loves us unconditionally, as dogs do Grin

(Oh, yeah, and we have a tendency to stretch the truth about about imaginary wildlife on our imaginary bus but, hey, it passes the time).

Baby how's things with you? Any progress, have they decided to close the file and leave you in peace yet?

Hi to all - ma you ok?

greeneyed · 02/07/2013 22:04

Gosh sorry baby your meeting was yesterday wasn't it? Hope you are okay.

Thanks Faire ,yes think I should go out and buy some beauty products, face pack exfoliating then fake tan would keep me busy. Any recommendations for products anyone?