Who's going to start dating thread No57?

[akaWisey]

Or am I going to be 'one'

Definitely Juliette, they'll have everything you need.

Nope, no hats required for me, ever again, I am resolutely cynical and flinty-hearted.

Thank you everyone, I know I don't keep up with the thread but I try, if I kept up as much as I want to I would get sacked.

OWW, hope I can take a leaf out of your book re getting back in the saddle.

I could really do with a meaningless fling right now. Does POF still have 'Intimate Encounters' I want the best I can get but obviously just in looks not personality and it doesn't have to be tonight, just soonish. Wish the YM from a few weeks ago hadn't taken the huff and deleted me off fb .

ha ha no hats here EVAH!

do believe in love, being in love is good, feel very "open" to a progressive relationship if it comes along with right guy,

but the thought of a public/society/legal commitment again - no!

ha ha scrazy my screen faces the wall, if it faced the centre of the office I would die!

"think" POF stopped intimate encounters but someone correct me as I'm not 100% sure. you can get a fling from normal dating section though, no?

and I'm back. So, even when I do a trolley dash at the smallish Sainsbos it still takes over an hour. Thank goodness I didn't do Tesco

ha ha Juliette you got lots of nice grub for the weekend?

Yep all done.

I have been lurking awhile as nothing much has changed for me - following Lorna, OWW, & Juliette discussion re sex with interest. This is REALLY my focus now, cannot get enough. Meet Up Guy seems to be enjoying it & quite inventive himself, but next time I see him - probably tomorrow - I am going to ask him if he thinks I am depraved or if he finds it unsettling. Have been reading him extracts from Henry Miller & Anais Nin ( the best) in bed. Bant's view on uninhibited women would be appreciated.
On a related matter - the kids! Mine are 19 & 21 & am having to schedule our trysts around their presence. DD is here at the mo & had to make up a story about builders arriving early on Mon so we have Sun night to ourselves. No way could we desport ourselves with them in the house. How does anyone else deal with this?

Moan I am 23. If my mum were single I would totally understand that she wanted to date and would make sure I am out of the way for her to do so. Surely they are old enough at this point?!

Moan I'm going to face this tomorrow for the first time. I can't imagine dtd with DS who is almost 19 in the house and awake (all night it seems), I wouldn't feel relaxed at all. Mine has just finished his exams and is here ALL the time. No other place to go and I don't want to give him any impression that he is not welcome here, this is his home and he does come first but I think after all these years of not having anyone here, it's time he understood that I may want to have some private time with a bf. Teens seem to think they get privacy but it is not returned as parents are just there, part of the furniture or in service. I am actually going to tell him I'm going to want some privacy with Dutch whilst he is here that's going to go down well

my view on uninhibited women? aw shucks...

well, one man's 'uninhibited' is another mans 'freakish nymphomaniac' and another mans 'okayish'. Personally I prefer someone who pushes my boundaries a little bit, but not too much. If they smile wickedly and bring out silk handkerchieves, I'm fine. If they stroll in with a ball gag and gimp suit, I'm not going to play along. But if they think I'm a sick perv for wanting to go out on the balcony, then it's not going to work either.

One ex thought it was unseemly to do it in the garden (after several years, still no luck there), another one wanted to find places we could get caught.. I preferred the second one, others would prefer the first.

One got embarrassed about talking dirty, another one initiated it (although English wasn't her first language so she did come out with some weird stuff when being inventive)

I can't speak for other men though. I'd be pleased with someone who thought it was okay to read erotic literature out loud.

Actually, as it's been a couple of months since Buffy, I'd be pleased with.. just.. someone..

Moan if Meetup Guy is enjoying himself, why ask if he thinks your depraved. Unless he has dodgy views on women, what does it matter what he thinks. Your sexuality is yours to own and express and if someone doesn't like it they can politely decline, suggest something else or stfu.

Bant I agree talking dirty in a foreign language has it's pitfalls. Fine line between erotic and falling about laughing. How about 'I want to put my canoe in your river'? Yes, really.

NOT uttered in northern Europia I hasten to add.

Lorna, will try my luck in RL first before POF.

Waving to everyone on the thread.

at canoe in river and dtd with a 19 year old in the house. I had the misfortune of hearing my parents two years ago... Was uncomfortable to say the least :o

I hate dirty talking, as kinky as I may be, I am crap at it. Mr Distant was a very .... vanilla.... lover but to my surprised I actually really enjoyed all the kissy sweetness for a change.

Oh dear I want to message him

Btw, I had a quick lurk at work and was it you Kin, or another poster who made me really lol about facebook stalking, then I had to answer the phone and nearly cracked up. Sorry still no time to look back etc.

Well I've had a lovely chat with my mate on the blower, poor mate, but she still put up with me, got a coffee arranged for tomorrow and text YM to ask how he was (no reply!!!) Oh well I tried, POF IE here I come.

Decided not to go NC with LM, you cannot be in each others lives and realistically go no contact, too painful, it's good advice for quick affairs but not for real involvements, you need to let feelings fade gradually. We were right for each other in some ways, but not every way and we both need to work through it, even together.

SaR my sister once told me that my mum (so naice and more catholic than the Pope ) had asked her if she was 'having orgasms' in her new relationship as 'it sometimes takes a while' - times about five trillion. I've never got over it.

Scrazy NC and not going NC both carry their own individual pain, with NC at least you don't know they're going out, having a 'great' time and haha 'the secretaries know me so well'. I fully understand why you'd want to keep in touch though, it's just a question of weighing up the toll each option is likely to take upon you.

Scazy you can also go NC until you feel enough time has passed for you to not to get thrown when you see or hear from him. It doesn't have to be 'forever' and you may find you are not so bothered a few months down.

Kin please tell me that didn't happen, how does anyone recover from that?

Juliette, thanks, our situations sound similar, al though my DS is only with me part of the time.
I have a complication related to divorce as I am about 2 weeks away from filing first petition, based on his adultery, therefore am keeping mine under wraps to avoid complications, hence the sneaking around at the mo.
Bant I thought that is what you would say -depends on the man. Years ago I dated a guy with a low sex drive who found any female interest in sex threatening; he was also rather religious. I think I am average, but not repressed, so I say what I want/ feel.
Re the depravity bit, I think I may ask if he is comfortable with where we are at- perhaps he would like the occasional night in flannel pjs & cocoa ( I have banned nightwear!)

Re depravity - I'm still finding out what I like as everything was defined for me in my last very LT and only real relationship. Mr Lovely is doing a fine job of expanding my horizons

On the talking dirty front he loves it when I talk dirty and encourages me to have a glass or three of wine because it makes me filthier apparently! This, however, is nothing really new. I had fellas before telling me that my voice is very sexy, even in a non-romantic setting. In fact, years ago, I used to work with a supplier who told me regularly that he would ring me just to hear my voice and would proposition me on a weekly basis (very male dominated industry...)

I think it has something to do with the fact that I have quite a 'proper' accent so hearing dirty talk is a bit of a juxtaposition. In a man's head anyway. I used to find it very cringey with the ex, but I love it with Mr Lovely. I guess that tells a tale in itself - years and years of marriage with the ex and dirty talk made me want to cry. He never elicited the responses Mr Lovely does. Oh well. It's all about the future now

I'm afraid, Juliette that it did happen, my sister was down here visiting and we were walking to the school to pick up the children when she told me - I actually stopped in my tracks, exactly like this .

I hope today goes ok.

Have a lovely day everyone, I'm hoping to firm up the arrangements with Talent later.

Fnarr at 'firming up arrangements'.

Oh dear, it's been toooooo long....

Kin I have had similar conversations with my mum. We're quite an open family I think being a nurse, she doesn't hold back on these subjects and it really doesn't phase me at all.

Cant stop thinking about Mr Distant. Pathetic really.