Who's going to start dating thread No57?

[akaWisey]

Or am I going to be 'one'

I cant see how it constitutes an invasion of privacy the internet is a public space!
hacking into someones e-mail would be an invasion of privacy

I agree with T - essentially you're arranging to meet a stranger, it's only sensible to be reasonably sure that what they've told you is accurate. I wouldn't have a problem with anyone looking at my public details online.

Stranger it is an invasion of privacy but it's up there and people are careless with their own data. It's always wise to googe yourself occasionally to see what comes up as other people like employers, sports clubs, are also careless with your data.

I suppose my point is that you can't choose what is put up about you online and I'd rather give someone the opportunity to provide their own context etc.

But maybe I'm just exceptionally lucky and haven't been burnt by this approach yet.

If I can't fine someone when I google them, I am suspicious.

Sorry it's Shitey McShite in Rose World - are you still having problems with your ex ? ( I rarely look at the rest of Relationships - it depresses me )

And Juliette I do google myself, and there's a reason I haven't copied and pasted my google footprint into my OD profile! None of it's bad except for a couple of photos but it's not what I'd choose to promote to a date.

Ooh Snape reportage needed!

Rose, I'm just going by how naive I was at that age:o
pretty sure that if I was Hungarian and an English bloke who was fabulously wealthy (compared to local standards) showed an interest I'd be pretty easy to win over

even so I'm sure he's 'overstating' his 4-5 women a week total

I have stuff up there which is old but vair annoyingly hanging about. Again, nothing bad but it's not great when you find stuff by surprise .

Poor thing Rose:(
really hope things look up soon
(I also try not to look in 'relationships')

Rose I saw your thread early this morning, I haven't looked this afternoon as you were already going through hell. I'm so sorry, you've done so well to get this far and you will shake him off eventually. Please try not to let it send you off course if at all possible. And (((hugs))) sweetheart.

You poor thing Rose, I'm sorry for whatever horrible things are happening in your life, it must be awful.

' When you are early twenties you get easily blinded by a bit of 'bullshit' that would be spotted a mile off by a woman who has had a bit of life experience.'
exactement Rose!

Problem is, if I extrapolate forwards in time I'm going to be 60 and looking back at myself in my 40's cringing at the dumb things I did

Love that phone number Facebook tip. I've just found the guy I'm speaking to on POF!! Thanks for that

just wanted to share with a load of strangers that I had a great first date last night with someone who I REALLY fancy! Is there still a 'no sex till third date' rule???? Not that I am seriously going to leap on him, but it's been months and months since I've met someone who er, gets the old juices going

you can make the rules to suit yourself :o

A bit spooky perhaps......further to Mr. Bant and his Hai Karate-using new-found friend from earlier in the thread, this little nugget is in today's Guardian.

www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2013/jun/24/pickup-artist-sexual-partners-bad-advice

hello all

Re Bant & pick up artist that is not new. I knew a guy yonks ago - short & looked like a salesman - who would more or less do the same thing - strike up conversation with a woman & a few sentences in, ask for sex. He got yes for an answer mor often than you would expect. Another male friend - now long married - just really focused on the woman & asked lots of questions. In case you hadn't noticed men excel at talking about themselves, so to do otherwise makes them stand out & also seem more caring.
On another note, a lot of the Meet Up crowd are ex Oders.

re: seduction guy

It seems a bit "trying too hard" to me? I get the vibe of someone who has been rejected in the past, and now needs to "make a point about how desirable I am"?

When in my 20s i knew a few guys who were a bit OTT like that...

"oh yeah, my girlfriend is a really cute japanese girl and I am also cheating on her with this hot spanish girl aren't I cool?".

Of course we all have our wild years and men like pretty girls, but there was something of the "doing it so I can prove i am an alpha male type" rather than "doing it cause i REALLY enjoy it and the company of the women i am with".

Men who think of women as "conquests" are still replaying the high school mentality of being nerdy kids with a grudge against all the girls who rejected him! Need to have some personal growth, I think!

(i admit i was a geeky girl, and had a few years in my 20's of "collecting male admirers just to show i have the power", but much happier now i just "look for what feels good to me" and I feel attractive even when I have no prospects).

Even if you don't want marriage and babies or a solid partnership, surely good sex with one lover is better than a series of ONS's? you can develop things, trust each other to go a bit wild etc etc....and you know you're making the lady happy if she is coming back for more...