Not important, but is this a red flag?

[sillymillyb]

Only been on 2 dates with this guy so not invested at all - he is a police officer on duty in a busy part of town tonight.

Have just received a text saying he is playing "spot the skank and whore"

That's not ok is it? Or is it and I'm overreacting?

My gut reaction was that I didn't like it, but I can't work out if I'm being precious! Think ill stick with being single, this dating malarkey is hard work!

BTW - just make sure you have got the right poster wont you when you are posting things that are allegedly from me I'd hate for you to get it sooooooooooooooo wrong in saying I am one and the same - thanks

Gosh, how depressing. Dump & run, obviously.

Great post from rootypig at 22:40.

so women who are out dressed up and having a drink are skanks and whores? if that really is a common perception amongst police officers then that might explain the low conviction rates for rape? the skanks and whores drinking vodka whilst wearing short skirts must be asking for it. disgusting way to speak about women

I didn't say anyone deservered anything - whatever they were wearing did I?!! I said it was way OTT to LTB when he has to deal with the Jeremy Kyle holding pen of this world.

Right I really am going now.

BTW you're wrong again about me and another same/similar user name - make sure you have your facts - EXACTLY RIGHT with what you post PUBLICLY

forumdonkeySat 11-May-13 22:32:50

Remember hes an adult, a grown man who is responsible for his own actions. You couldn't make him stop and be the loving caring man he should have been and equally you didn't/couldn't make him do all those vile abusive things he did to you.

Keep this in mind and stay strong. He is his own man, made his own choices and they were his actions - the consequences are his and his alone.

donkey

"I didn't say anyone deserved anything"

except you said twenty minutes ago

"Right I'm off to bed but quite frankly it's a 'term' and quite frankly some people 'earn' it."

So tell me, what makes a woman a lady, and what makes her a skank and a whore?

Well if it's ok to write off people like that, Forum, then it's acceptable for me to write you off as a mindless, nasty, offensive misogynist.

Might not be true, of course, but you won't mind about that. Just an opinion, a laff, innit.

Above is a post from forum donkey from another thread and the tone is completely different.
Does anyone else think there is something wrong here or is it just me.

Agree it doesn't sound like the same person Darkest, but am woefully ill informed about how MN nicknames work, are they unique? or if a person NCs is their old name 'vacated', and available again, iyswim?

That said, some days I am a ranting loon and other days all lovey dovey. Though always, always lefty

No names do not become available to someone else. If I were to name change then even if I never used it again this name would be reserved to me. Likewise I cannot name change to something anyone else has used.

Oh that's good to know!

God poor OP has run for the hills, her thread has gone doollally! Sorry OP. I hope you sent him something rude and deleted his number. Good for you, thinking about role models for your DS.

Now I am joining the mysterious donkey in the land of nod - this 30 year old is having a very lady-like early Saturday night with a hot water bottle. I'm sure the police would applaud me

tooodleeooooo

I am NEVER mysogynistic and i am a feminist I am also always lefty If anyone sees my account posting the opposite it WONT be me thats posting.

When I read the original post, I was literally open-mouthed in shock. That comment is absolutely disgusting. How could he share that with a woman he has just met?

What is even more shocking is the attitudes of some of the other posters. What chance have women got if comments like that can be supported or defended? I absolutely despair. And these posters have children.

If I was too start a new relationship I would want to see some more positive traits in the new date than him using the same twatty language as is used by other people in his profession who happen to be twats. I think there is a perfectly reasonable case to be made out for preferring to take up with somebody who is not a twat.

Just remind yourself OP: you don't have to gratefully rush into the arms of any man who offers.

If his language is already irritating you at this stage it's unlikely to get any better as he gets more relaxed around you.

Even if you do think the comments are reasonable, why on earth should OP not "leave" if she wants to (skimming past the point that they're not even really together yet) - if she loved dogs and he said oh god no, I can't stand dogs - that would be a perfectly acceptable reason to say, never mind was nice meeting you. Dating is a discovery phase, it's not "let's leap desperately on any man who shows an interest. At this point it would be reasonable for her to leave if she didn't like his taste in clothes!