Dating thread 55, everyone welcome!

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Woop! Lubes is BACK :o

newbies, daters, those taking a break, online dating real life dating or otherwise, and the loved up.... all welcome!

Off we go -chit chat away.

(I might even dip a toe back in myself)

Hey ho .. Yes I am fine ( or I will be)

Kirsty fucked up indeed, he was the one who was keen to meet up so often too. A text before now would have been helpful though . I'm a bit pissed off on your behalf, I hope you are ok with it all. As you say, at least you know and can cross him off your list.

T and Flipper I am beyond excited.

Kirsty, I am sorry. He is a coward though, he should have texted you rather than go silent then only explain when you contact him. Sighs, bloody bad manners, and it annoys me. Hope you have other blokes to focus on.

(If you feel you can) brush the experience off, one less to test run!

Hm, sorry about that, Kirsty, but it does explain the mixed signals you were getting. WFF is right about the lack of manners.

Hope you feel better soon oww, I too struggle with the 'good girls don't' mantra.

Had to give myself a good talking to in the mirror at his on Sat! Started off with 'what the fuck are you doing here, you've known him less than three days' then I had a revelation - I'm not a girl, I'm a woman of nearly 50, what do I care what people might think! God knows what he thought I was doing in there!

Still found myself thinking of excuses lies to tell any friends who might ask, though.

kirsty hope it's not knocked you too much

I think I'll be on the sofa for a while .. Got my divorce underway and my house purchase underway .. However may arrange to meet TheBoy next time he is in Glasgow as he has been in touch

I got the all clear from the sti clinic a short while ago. As it happens, Dutchy had texted me this morning to tell me he had just received his. So I texted him back to let him know exactly what I was going to do to him that I hadn't done already. Except that it wasn't him, I had texted back the sti clinic .

Thankfully, the number didn't accept texts, but I imagine there is a special room somewhere that all the misdirected rude texts in the world go where they are kept forever.

juliette what with your Dutch physio story, I can't wait for your next medical snippet

Oohh gosh Kirst I bet you felt like ramming the lol down his throat. Oww everything is kool for skool dont start analysing the shit out of it (but i DO understand the essence of what you are saying sometimes shagging screws with your logic).

Am thoroughly enjoying POF at the mo. Bit in love with both Mr Beard and Mr Falmouth. Mr Beard builds round houses and viking boats for kids...a man of action who shoots, does archery and rides big noisy motorbikes. He is looking for a lovely lady to spoil though, I think, I would probs be a bit much for him with my wicked ways.

Mr Falmouth is a fun guy goes to pop up sewing nights and skateboards and is just a sweet n jolly chap. Nice chats with both and they are full of praise and sweet words. Dont want to go spoiling it and meeting the buggers.

The gentleman who has lost his wife to breast cancer is also very sweet but havent chatted much to him and cos he lives closer we have decided to meet up next week for a drink. POF at its best but sure the wind will change soon enough

Oh no Jules...hahahahahahahahahahah..........

Ike have you got them in a holding position? What with the men-in-the-village, clearly word has got out about your allure . Do meet them, they sound like they would be great friends if not lovers.

Secret no, please just no. I'm not taking big pants, I'm asking for aren't I

Juliette that just made me giggle away to myself .

Juliette thank god the number doesn't accept texts!! You just made my day with that

Kirsty - it's things like that which make me think that I will never understand (some) men. I hate the going silent thing, I really do, and I'm sorry you've been subject to it.

Secret I'm still impressed by your impulsive weekend of bedroom frolics.

OWW I understand why you're feeling the way you do, god knows the 'nice girls don't' thing was drummed into me but please don't be harsh with yourself.

Ike you got it goin' on, girlfriend, I like the sound of Falmouth particularly, they're putty in your hands.

Juliette that made me arf, have you told Dutchy ?

Hello Flipper Miranda and Twinny, and everybody else (it's a fast day, I've not got the strength to type everyone's name, also got dd lying with her head in my lap, suffering with her period I think )

Oww - just relax and enjoy the afterglow without the guilt. And good luck with the fettling.
KW - at least you know. He could've been more communicative but at least he was honest.
Juliette - I'm sure they've heard worse

I'm very much avoiding the sweet trolley due to impending dates with the Translator (who has big emotional stuff going on in her life but hasn't told me what yet) and CheshireCat.

But I keep getting quiver suggestions from ok Cupid and just wanted to point out how not to write a profile..

In one, there is a woman whose entire profile description is about her sculpture and other artworks. Nothing about her. Apparently she's an artist, I can work out that much

She also mentions she hates New York. And she likes to work hard and, yes, you guessed it, play hard.
That's all.

This is the equivalent of me banging on about my job in software for three paragraphs, saying I like long walks on the beach and don't like helicopters. How much information can be garnered from that apart from my being somewhat self centred and prone to cliches?

89% match. Meh

I must confess to being a little impressed with myself, too Kin!

Now I just need a way to stop fretting that he hasn't replied to text suggesting a replay this Wednesday. I know he doesn't really do texting, didn't see his phone all weekend! But he did text, earlier yesterday to say he'd see me soon. The insouciance is starting to fray a tiny bit at the edges.

Frankly Secret I'm possibly the least insouciant person going, it sounds like you're doing pretty well to me.

Yesterday after my date, we discussed doing it again via text and would both like to. I desperately want to avoid being over keen (as I'm not with this one) but have other prospective dates for this week. Should i ask when he wants to do it again (we have exchanged texts again today) or leave it for a bit??

Is the only reason you aren't asking him because you don't want to look too keen T ? Because if that's the case and you really want to see him, I'd just say, life's too short to not do things you enjoy.

Feeling much better. So many people who understand - thank you all but isn't it crap that we have these Victorian double standards still hanging over us? Saw my mum after work, was paranoid that she would "know" - pathetic!

A man who is incredible in bed AND handy round the house - could be worse! I think he is going to be even better than LM once I have trained him a bit. Makes me realise how many years of rubbish sex I put up with ....

SS hope he's in touch soon. And yours too T - think I'd leave it a bit.

Love the sound of the Viking Ike!

Juliette and not long to wait now!!

Yes Kin. I suspect I maybe appeared over keen with the last guy and put him off a bit (even though he appeared more keen than me through actions Iykwim) and don't want to do that again. It's stupid really. Just want to know so I can plan my week. He did send the last text however, so ill give it a few hours then ask casually

Yes surely a man who is incredible in bed and handy around the house is some kind of mythical creature, a bit like trying to track down a unicorn. I'm really glad you're feeling better OWW , it's difficult to overcome years of conditioning but you deserve some fun.

T the thing is, I'm not sure that if a man's keen then you can put them off like that ( unless you send them a photo where you've photoshopped your faces onto Will n Kate's wedding pictures or something ) so I reckon you should just be direct with them.

T is there a reason you have to know now? If not, I'd wait a bit. He's already said he would like to do it so its only a matter of him asking you, so why not let him have that pleasure. If it gets to the end of the week though, ask away

Is anyone else getting a lot more traffic than usual on pof today? Has the sun brought them all out?

I am going to have to test him out and make sure that last night wasn't just a one-off - purely in a spirit of scientific enquiry, you understand.