Dating thread 55, everyone welcome!

[lubeytoobooby]

Woop! Lubes is BACK :o

newbies, daters, those taking a break, online dating real life dating or otherwise, and the loved up.... all welcome!

Off we go -chit chat away.

(I might even dip a toe back in myself)

That's commendable dedication to the scientific cause OWW.

Dunno Flipper I'm not on PoF, no corresponding movement on okc though.

I've had less today to be honest flipper. I have had days when I've had a lot and I think that's been because my pic has been at the bottom on the main page so perhaps that's why?

Well I asked about the date, no issues, likely on Sunday. :0) I only needed to know as child care is proving difficult at the moment with pain in the arse ex so I need to know what I'm doing in advance.

(Also I'm sure you've realised but I changed my name from toni2710 to t2710-just a bit more private but still completely uninspired unfortunately)

Hi all.

I loved Scotland. I love Mr R&R

We spent alot of time day dreaming about moving to Scotland. Happy days.

48 that's so lovely . How long have you and R&R been together now?

Brief bread dash as I am literally shagged out

oww I hope you're feeling a little brighter? Absolutely get what you're saying with regard to next-morning-doom & good-girls. Sensibly speaking, we know it's guff. It's 100% ok to do it like a itch scratch and when the emotional stuff gets added, I personally think it level-ups a bit. That's not to say that people can't have incredible, fulfilling sexual connections on a compatible genitalia level, but it's ok to want the swoon. :). The emotional stuff will flow, or it won't. He's doing everything right, just see how it evolves and enjoy what it is. :)

juliette ahahahahahahahhahahahahahahahahaahhahaahhahaahh!!

Ohh, kirsty onwards. I know it's tiresome, sometimes you just need to hoist that bosom and stare it out. You won't be fine, sweetie. you'll be awesome. :)

bant we've been dumped by Matt smith.

48 ahhhw! :)

Holiday very almost booked. V excited.

hi guys, thought i would check in and let you know whats happening. met up with mr online for coffee 3 weeks ago friday, then again the following thursday, and for lunch on the friday. since then we have been for dinner, and to the cinema, and he spent the day with me on sunday, met the kids who have al given a large seal of approval (even the tough to please 14 year old who likes to look after his mum), came to sainsburys with me, then came back, spent the afternoon and had tea with us. he went back to work today for 4 days so i wont see him until friday, but am really happy so far. it feels like so much longer since we met, but it truly is only 3 weeks. we have a lot in common which is good, and can talk about almost anything. he is only 2 inches taller than me, but doesnt mind at all when i wear 5 inch heels and tower over him. taking things slowly is proving difficult, but have managed so far, have not slept with him yet so thats a record. he is perfectly happy to wait until i am ready

cherry all sounds great .. I dropped TheBoy a whatsapp .. Been chatting all night he is so funny .. I realised when thinking back on the treadmill that rocky had no chat but he was gorgeous .. He also kept referring to my vagina when we dtd .. 'Your vagina is so sensitive' 'your vagina is so powerful' etch etc .. The vagina monologue indeed

Anyway meeting TheBoy for a drink after work on Friday .. Onwards and upwards and all that

Quick hello to everyone,
Kirsty - 'your vagina is so powerful' - seriously ? That would make me laugh out loud, also while I'm a huge fan of proper anatomical terminology, I'm not convinced it works it that context - ' I must warn you that I'm going to stimulate you until I cause your levator ani to contract repeatedly ' - 'ooooh baby'

Have a good day groovy daters.

I would start giggling if my vagina were being talked about....

I'm afraid I have to return my Jezebel badge, it seems I fraudulently accepted. Will not be seeing Bubbles again. Apparently 'the sex didn't work for him'

At least I know, I suppose

Pleased for you Kirsty, that you've found such an immediate distraction!

And that things are you going well for you cherry

Had the complete low down on all Mr Beards' health diagnoses last night....head to one side ...doing Kin's 'really? That's no way to live....'

Secret, he sounds unkind and tactless

I'd never say that to a man, even though it has often been the case, if pushed I would say that the chemistry didnt feel right, and really I think often if the sex doesnt work it's because you're just not compatible in that way.

Morning all,

Kirsty I'm glad TheBoy is on hand to take your mind off vagina monologue man - sounds like your treadmill epiphany helped too :)

Secret, sounds like you're better off without that one :(, sorry he turned out to be a shite.

As for those of you getting some serious sexy time, I am jealous! (Oh and 48 you brought the sun to Scotland with you too, thank you )

My joiner got back in touch on Sunday so we have been messaging away for last couple of days.... He says he wants to take me out on a date but hasn't actually set a day/time yet.... The banter is v flirty and I'm loving it, but leads me to think he is just looking for a shag n run.... Much as I'd love some (he looks v cute from his pic), I've decided to pull right back and see if he chases me for that first meet. Then we'll see! I am channelling insouciance.... Well, trying to

Secret so now he says that. I bet he wasn't giving that impression at the time . Even if that was the case, and my gut tells me it wasn't what sort of man says something like that? My first thought is that he has some serious ishoos and somehow gets off on being cruel. Knob.

Secret - you get to keep the badge, but you should let him know he's earned a 3 star FuckMonkey sticker.

What a tosser. The 'sex didn't work for him'?

Moron.

I wish I could be so certain of his 'fuckmonkey' grading (thanks Bant that made me laugh!).

It's almost like I want to take the blame - and accept I am rubbish in bed, after all it's not the first time it's been said - rather than admit I got it wrong when judging his character. As if my intelligence/insight are more important to protect - I thought he was on the level, therefore he must have been ergo he must be right

Not sure that makes sense, and probably far too much

Oops! on my part. I tried, it failed, move on!

And in that mode, I've been to buy my euros for next week's holiday!

And again, the word over thinking is missing at the start

Secret, you are not rubbish in bed....he just wasnt the right person to make you feel comfortable and relaxed.

Sometimes people can bring out the best in each other, other times people just dont gel.
Some people find it harder to feel relaxed and uninhibited, that doesnt make them rubbish in bed

secret i am actually aghast! what a fucking prize he is! he's projecting his inadequacies on to you. bell-end badge, highest possible A* grade.

Secret don't give him any more of your headspace. I really think this is about him, not you. As for your mistaking him for a decent human, knobs and screwed up little men don't have it written large, they put on an act, even to themselves

Secret - it's very rare, in my experience, for sex with someone to be absolutely amazingly out of this world when you don't know them very well.

I think some people are more or less inhibited and repressed, which makes them bad lovers for people who are on a different level. Once you know someone's level and have an emotional bond it makes things better. I've had times when the first time was only okay, but the second time was incredible. You really can't judge whether someone is good or bad when you've just met them. This is about him trying to blame his inadequacies, of whatever sort, on you.

You can, however, judge whether someone is a knobend. He is. Don't give him headspace, just accept he's a prick and move on.

This is about him trying to blame his inadequacies, of whatever sort, on you. This.

and this he's projecting his inadequacies on to you