Dating thread 55, everyone welcome!

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Woop! Lubes is BACK :o

newbies, daters, those taking a break, online dating real life dating or otherwise, and the loved up.... all welcome!

Off we go -chit chat away.

(I might even dip a toe back in myself)

Bill a couple of years of 8

Lahti eek! at least you've broken the ice

thingy Welcome, we all have our preferences so just do what feels right for you.

Hello everyone, I don't have a hope in hell of mentioning you all so please excuse me not even attempting to do so.

Juliette thank goodness you're escaping the caravan and going back to Dutchie's shagpad, there must be only so much mobile home fun to be had.

OWW Alpha bloke is sounding good that might mean he's quite assertive in bed, fingers crossed, eh ?. Did you say you're seeing him when he gets back from some work thing ?

Velvet I don't think I can say anything constructive about C, or at least anything that won't sound patronising or trite so know that I'm keeping my fingers crossed that you get exactly what you want and deserve.

Ike another one whose vote is for Falmouth man all the way, he sounds excellent.

Bant can you not just sweep French girl off her feet ? I do hope everything works out for you ( I must be getting dreadfully soft in my old age, I actually went a little teary eyed when you said that you'd marry her tomorrow).

No change with regard to Showbiz, Talent Show is flirting away nightly ( I'm quite fond of him ) and Spud is emailing every night, no romantic overtures whatsoever so my heart is quite safe. He still hasn't said why he wanted to get back in touch and I don't know if I want to ask.

Hmm yes Nora that thought had crossed my mind ... He is abroad for work after today for all of next week but he seems keen to see me when he gets back - no definite arrangements made though. Sounds like he is away quite a lot hoping that's not a cover for having a wife and two kids tucked away in Solihull

Good to see you have a fine trio there. Spud will declare his hand sooner or later, you know. Any plans to see the others?

Kin Showbiz and Talent Show are very like a lover you take from time to time. Except you haven't seen Talent Show naked yet . Spud, you are right not to ask. First step to insouciance?

We are home, I have had a hot shower and I can admire Dutchy across the room. My back didn´t take well to having Coffee on foam seating and I had never, in all my years of being semi intredpid seen a chemical toilet before. Nuff said.

Velvet hoping like mad that this one goes right for you, you so deserve it.

Bant what Kin said, maybe it's time to really go for it.

kin, the problem is I was her first love and broke her heart 15 years ago, so she remains resolutely unsweepable..

Saw CheshireCat last night at an expat thing. We chatted and I made her laugh a bit, she smiled and made my knees wobble a bit. It was a bit socially awkward as I met her friends and was trying to be polite and chat to them when I just wanted to chat to her, she met a couple of my friends but they were chatting in quick English so she was a bit bemused and shy.

Had to leave early (well, midnight) so didn't walk her home. Peck on the cheek goodnight.
FB messaged her today and she said she enjoyed last night. I think we're still on for dinner next week. That'll be second date, but 4th time we've met. I'm hoping for maybe a kiss on the lips..

Hope everyone is okay. I'd name check but I'm writing this in the back of a taxi and I'm getting carsick..

I'll catch up properly later but what sites do people use?

Sounds good Bant. What do you think would happen with your true love if you told her how you feel? Or have you done already? There could still be some feelings there if she's stayed in touch and is coming to stay.

Martini - Match and PoF, both work well for me although match is a little slower. No luck at all with okc.

evening all, haven't even had a chance to catch up on the thread, but all good here, new job is Manic yes a capital M and in between trying to organise house sale, house move and finalise financial settlement with Ex via Mediator who is paid a fortune but can't apparently divide an annual income by 12 to get a monthly figure without me doing it and reconfirming by email being ripped off in front of my eyes

OWW maybe Alpha Scot is what you need lovely? someone to take charge?! Kin be careful of Spud, i'm suspicious!

thinking of you all, glad Juliette is enjoying Dutch again, good luck with Cheshire Bant.

Can't name check everyone, but all back on track with Mr EA, he is on best behaviour and being a diamond again, will forgive one transgression

oh and Scrazy, pm if you want to be a fb friend, I am with OWW too

sorry for overuse of emoticons, too much wine to numb frazzled brain, yes I know it's not even 8pm!

I told her. She said no. I told her again, two years later, she said no. I got married and had kids, split up with my stbxw, told her again, she said no.

Martini. Match worked for me, POF and OKC were terrible. Then I moved and OKC was better, match not so much. POF still terrible

Great minds OWW he might spank you on the bottom with a Woman's Weekly . And yes, fingers crossed there's no Mrs Alpha and the wee Alpha bairns in Solihull ( he sounds promising ).

I'm seeing Showbiz the weekend after next for assorted rudery. Apparently.
Talent Show, hmmm, I might take myself up on a visit to his city and see how we get on in person. I suspect that his romantic whimsy might get on my tits ( and that I'll be too down to earth for him ).

Juliette in the style of Lady Bracknell - 'A chemical toilet ?!' I'm glad you are back in the world of Dutchy domestic sexy time because no sophisticated woman of the world should be expected to have carnal relations on a vinyl banquette.

I'm the dictionary definition of insouciant with Showbiz and Talent Show , Spud not so much (he doesn't know that).

Bant have you tried sweeping, hmmm ?

Fingers crossed for a snog with Cheshire.

Hooray for Showbiz, Nora, just what you need to keep your motor ticking over. Alpha Scot is a bit older too. This is so against all my feminist principles, but having someone to take charge a bit would be so blissfully restful and lovely. I am in charge at work and at home and it would be so, so nice not to be for a change. Do you think you want to see Talent Show again? I thought he got on your wick a bit last time ...

Just had text from the bloke I finished with earlier this week inviting me (I think) to send him rude messages. Hoping it was intended for someone else!! Haven't replied. Bit weird.

So glad all is well Tigsy and hooray for MrEA being on his best behaviour. Have a glass for me and sod the ex.

Oooh Alpha Scot has just texted me his email so I can keep in touch whilst he's in Solihull abroad

I don't really have any news, just waving at you all, hoping dates go well; sending well wishes to the waiters. (All will be well) I had a job interview today (14k a year uplift!) so please cross those non-dating fingers for me, I find out tomorrow (& then go for Friday night date night at namelesses, so the outcome doesn't really matter)

I clutch you all to my bosom!

OWW I'm quite well known for being a bit bossy and so liking an assertive man (on my own terms only) came as quite a surprise. Cough.
How much older than you is Alpha ?

Talent Show is a head in the clouds, musical type, he makes me laugh and is very silly but my tolerance for whimsy tends to be fairly minimal.

Loving all the new posters gossip

Fingers crossed Snape

Oh no Juliette chemical toilets. One very good reason I don't do camping.

Kin I am very strong willed. In the bedroom though I do enjoy an assertive man.

No news from me. All going great with Mr R&R. This is one journey that just gets better and better

Hello 48 lovely to see you and lovely to hear that things are going well with R&R.

Snape, fingers and toes crossed for you re work.

Nothing much to report, all going swimmingly for the moment, except Bant, I know where you are coming from re 'Marry her tomorrow'.

Loads of good luck Snape!

Ten years Nora. The other one I have lurking around at the mo is three years older. Not really interested in anyone younger, don't know why.

Showbiz is 13 years older, Talent Show is the same age as me but has his birthday in the 3 day range in December when approximately 45% of my exes were born.

I don't think I could be arsed with a young one.

Good luck snape

I am a little worried about the date with Cheshire next week.

Problem is, she's really stunningly attractive. Not that that puts me off, but when I was talking to her last night she kept saying ' I told you that last week' - and I realised I'd been asking her questions about her - where she grew up, favourite books, pets, holidays, that stuff, and none of it had gone in. I'd forgotten everything she'd said.

Normally I'm good with stuff like that. I think I was just gawping at her with my inner voice going 'wow wow wow' at how attractive she was and not actually listening. Which is slightly embarrassing.

And she didn't ask me any questions about me, or volunteer stuff about herself, it was basically me asking questions the whole time, then taking about me, then more questions.

I think she's shy. That's how it came across. Me coaxing information out of her, and her not being confident enough of her English to lead the conversation.

So, seeing as I'm looking ideally for someone confident and outgoing, is dating a quiet hottie a bad idea?

Nice to hear Everyone's news - I won't name-check as I have been out of circulation & still catching up. It sounds like many of you are in promising situations, so finges crossed for all.
My divorce is moving on -saw lawyer Mon & all good EXCEPT I cannot find marriage cert so have to order a new one ( from US ) & that is doing my head in! I had to send (by fax - who uses these any more?) notarised documents & they claim they cannot read notary seal - now what - keen to get this sorted - also have moved but at least have broadband in my name only - yay!
On dating front, well, what can I say - Meet Up guy & I get along like a house on fire & the sex is stupendous! He said to me he has had more sex in the last 3 weeks than he had in last 5 years with ex-partner. Very sad to hear as a nearly sexless relationship seems absolutely dreadful, but some tolerate this. There is far more to our burgeoning relationship than that, of course, but to me, a good sex life is essential.
I still get wobbles as he sees his ex regularly (visiting DCs) & she recently commented on his more upbeat attitude. I am convinced that she will make a play for him, hopefully to no avail. He says - how shall I put this?- that she was rather dull in bed, which we most certainly are not! I periodically read him extracts from Anais Nin's Delta of Venus, which he finds most stimulating!

Hmm. I've been thinking about what you said yesterday Juliette. I think the problem with me is that I have difficulty in not putting all my eggs in one basket! When I was last dating (in the mists of time) keeping your options open with more than one person was 'not the done thing'. And I think I still feel that way now.

So Mr Lovely is currently going to get all my attention (such as it is, with the other competitors for it!) and I'll see how that goes. I really like him and he appears to really like me - he mentioned date #2 last night but events conspired against us to actually sort it out.

Mr RL had - and passed up (for a perfectly valid reason) - an opportunity for a date a few weeks ago so I'm still inclined to wonder if its all game playing to him, in which case my comment still stands.

Besides, if I'm being honest, Mr Lovely makes my heart beat waaay faster than Mr RL!

Bant I can relate to that entirely - I'm sure Mr Lovely thinks I'm a bit stupid sometimes because I didn't always pay too much attention to what he was saying simply because I was paying too much attention to how he was saying it!