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Dating thread 55, everyone welcome!

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lubeytoobooby · 31/05/2013 13:19

Woop! Lubes is BACK :o

newbies, daters, those taking a break, online dating real life dating or otherwise, and the loved up.... all welcome!

Off we go -chit chat away.

(I might even dip a toe back in myself)

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MirandaWest · 11/06/2013 21:49

I am procrastinating about doing various things. Including cleaning the kitchen (letting agent inspection on Thursday. I hate letting agent inspections).

pornstarmartini · 11/06/2013 21:52

Oh heck. It'll definitely be longer than the 3rd date. Need to wait till I can afford a bikini wax and new underwear. Any recommendations for flattering underwear that can cover my tummy? A camisole or would that just look weird? I'm so annoyed that it's my insecurities that stop me. I fancy him like crazy. I've lost 4 stone which is great but everything has been left deflated :-(

T2710 · 11/06/2013 21:58

I just had underwear on from primark! It went down well. I really don't think he'll notice your tummy and a camisole will come off anyway. If you want to do it, do it Grin you can always shave haha

grinchie · 11/06/2013 21:58

French knickers cover a tummy.

Pomegranatenoir · 11/06/2013 22:03

Martini you sound like me!! All I can say is when it is with the right person those things just don't matter. You just get lost in it. You will be fine as and when it happens

pornstarmartini · 11/06/2013 22:06

Ha. I'll get there. If he's willing to wait for me

Pomegranatenoir · 11/06/2013 22:15

I'm watching Dates again tonight. It's freaking me out a bit!!

Bant · 11/06/2013 23:01

Didn't go to speed dating. Spent the evening with the Finn, which has been quite nice, although now I've got to go home for an early start and she's flirting outrageously. Now she knows I'm quite attached to the CheshireCat..

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T2710 · 12/06/2013 07:31

I found a bit of fake tan does wonders for stretch marks too!

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JulietteMontague · 12/06/2013 10:27

Martini you just do it when you feel ready. The concept of a man 'not waiting' is one of those odd things we get told, I don't think I've ever known that to happen in real life and if it did then you wouldn't want him anyway. I dtd with Dutchie on the first date which is not my usual style but I knew I wanted to. Backstory is that he lives in Holland and I came over to stay with him for a couple of days which turned into a week. Once we'd met I knew right away it would happen sometime so didn't see the point in waiting. I´m currently here in a sodding caravan on what is only our second date Blush

As far as getting naked is concerned, what Grinchie said. Either men don't notice or don't care about our imperfections. You are the whole package, not just your belly. Just relax, wear something you feel good in and enjoy it.

JulietteMontague · 12/06/2013 10:30

55 I would wait until after the interview and see if he mentions it then. He will be focussed on his interview right now so is probably giving it his all. If you don't here anything about the date then, you can text and ask him.

pornstarmartini · 12/06/2013 10:54

pom I daren't watch it as I think it'll freak me out. I'm already convinced that everyone online is either married, a psycho or just out for sex

bant I'd like to try speed dating but really enjoying Mr policeman at the minute. Nothing like a bit of jealousy to up the ante

BRose Thanks for the recommendations. Never really done sexy underwear. Didn't need it before!

T2710 I've started using bio oil. Twice a day. Body brushing and Dove tanner. It smells awful though

brokenhearted I'd send a text but I'm terrible with 'no contact'. Maybe something along the lines of Good luckand you hope to take him out for a celebratory drink?

Juliette he's made it pretty clear that he's going to make me wait! Said he wants to get to know me first. Could be total crap. I love your back story. Are you in the UK?

MirandaWest · 12/06/2013 12:29

I want to know more about OWWs date :)

OhWesternWind · 12/06/2013 12:42

Really, don't worry about the body stuff. Mine is way, way less than perfect (especially that old stomach area) and I can safely say that none of the three blokes that have encountered it seem to have been put off in any way . . . I am a fan of nice underwear though too Rose, and I know Nora is as well but not just for stomach hiding purposes!

Title so it all went well on Sunday then?

Broken I'd just send a message tonight saying that you hope it went well (if you didn't send one to say good luck) and then take it from there.

Juliette how was the night in the caravan?

Rose how's it all going? House sorted?

Date last night was good, actually! He was much nicer looking than his photos - rare it works out that way round. He is quite an alpha male, very successful in his field, travels a lot on business, confident etc. I am not really an alpha female! Still it was good fun, he was very easy to talk to, positive attitude, no immediate spark but no immediate urgh either. He wants to take me for a ride on his great big motorbike . . . Lots of mirroring body language and stuff - not sure if he was doing it on purpose as I suspect he's not daft in that regard, but interesting whether done consciously or not as the will to make a good impression is there regardless. He has been on the site almost six months and this is only his fourth date. I am very surprised at how little some of these people seem to actually get out on dates (compared with me - this is what I mean about worrying about being a serial first dater). Anyway, we had a kiss on the cheek, all very civilised, then he texted to say he'd had a really good night and asked again if we could do it again, so I've said we'll meet up when he gets back off his trip in a couple of weeks.

Still feeling a bit low, but a little less low than yesterday Grin Thanks to all of you for being so kind (again) and helping me through the bad bits.

OhWesternWind · 12/06/2013 12:42

Miranda - your wish is my command!

Scrazy · 12/06/2013 13:10

OWW, sounds promising.

A guy I met a few months ago before I got back with my current on, resurfaced again. Wants to meet up, I politely told him I was busy but to get back to me maybe. They usually crawl back out of the woodwork eventually.

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T2710 · 12/06/2013 13:33

Martini are you finding its making a diff?
I watched 'dates' last night. Made for pretty uncomfortable viewing! At least none of none have been like that Smile

Hot guy, after an exchange of texts, said something along the lines of 'if ever you're out in town for drinks let me know and I could pop over and say hello (he lives in town)' what does that even mean?!? I just responded that I'm always out and about at the weekends so how about he gives me a shout if he'd like to say hello. So ball firmly in his court. Now to relax and not over analyse (as if Hmm)

T2710 · 12/06/2013 13:34

Broken, I'd text when I knew the interview was over. That way you can disguise it as a 'how did it go' text.

ALittleStranger · 12/06/2013 13:57

T he sounds like a wimp, can't ask for a drink directly. Even the real wet wipes manage that. I'd have replied and suggested making firm plans. You don't want to be out with your mates knowing he might swing by.

T2710 · 12/06/2013 14:14

Stranger we have dated, then kind of mutually decided to leave it (which appears to have been caused by confusion on both our parts).

ALittleStranger · 12/06/2013 14:44

Oh right, less wimpy then, more the general awkwardness of human beings being a bit crap. I'd try and meet up then.