Dating thread 55, everyone welcome!

[lubeytoobooby]

Woop! Lubes is BACK :o

newbies, daters, those taking a break, online dating real life dating or otherwise, and the loved up.... all welcome!

Off we go -chit chat away.

(I might even dip a toe back in myself)

Can you put a link here Rose

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1775029-Do-I-have-any-rights-with-this

Hope it doesn't depress anyone...

Oh, and apologise for barging in all me, me, me.

I haven't had the time to keep up with the thread so not sure if anyone has any dates this weekend but if any of you did tonight, hope you had a good night.
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did anyone have dates this weekend? Other than martinis long drive for a kiss?

Spoke to the Translator last night, asked her (one more time) to go to dinner, and as I thought she said she'd love to, but only as friends - things are 'complicated' with her and the Dane, so that's all she wants at the moment.

I can't say I'm surprised really, it's two weeks since we went to the zoo and she hasn't found any free time since then to meet, so it was kind of obvious.

The CheshireCat is more up my street. She's a brunette who prefers dogs to cats and who eats meat. I know it's strange to classify people like that but I can't help it. I want to be able to cook for someone, something other than baked squash with beans. Still trying for a date on Tuesday

Went to my party. No message from him. I caved in and send one about 9:30. He replied a couple of hours later and said he had fallen asleep, was tired and will speak tomorrow (today). No mention of the fact I've driven miles! We shall see what today brings. Gonna be strong and not send a message today. I hope he doesn't just disappear as I quite like him. He took his profile down from pof and I asked him why. Said he didn't need it now. Oh mixed messages. Feel bad that I can't comment on everyone else's situations but I'm only justlearning all your stories

hmm martini - that's somewhat of a red flag - the taking down the profile thing. But people who are new to OD can get overly enthused about someone they've met.

It's not a bad sign in itself - he may be bowled over by you. Keeping a profile up is a temptation to look at the sweet trolley. It is somewhat putting all his eggs in one basket, of course, but as long as he doesn't propose within a few days maybe it's not so bad.

Not replying to a text or being overly grateful you drove miles isn't that bad either. Some people nap, especially when running around after DC all day. See how you get on today, be careful for signs he's overly enthusiastic and loves you after a week, and see how you go..

I am going to eat my tescos cottage pie for lunch (in a couple of hours) and then go and look at the flooding here with an ice cream. It's 30 degrees and my local train station is flooded. Kind of like a day at the beach, except without the donkey rides.

bant Thanks for the advice. Will keep posting. I know I fall in love too easily so reigning it in. We are meant to be meeting tomorrow night. I'll wait for him to mention it. I'm glad I didn't spend the evening at his house. Think it would've moved too fast. That boy can kiss. It's freezing here!

Bant I was wondering what floor your apartment is on. Flooding with 30c somehow seems better than flooding British stylee. The canals here are vair high from all the rain further east. Apparently it all ends up in Netherlandia eventually.

Martini I also think proceed with caution here, also it's tempting to get swept up in the moment but some people will take enthusiasm and spontaneity for a done deal.

Snape fact check. The GP are exP father of your DC's parents, so who are the outlaws? All will be well because Nameless is laid back.

Please excuse the typos, there was a small incident with a wood fire out the back, a bucket of some wine and my phone which won't dry out so I'm on a Dutch keyboard which doesn't recognise spelling mistakes in English

Juliette - I'm on the 4th floor but up the hill from the river anyway.

out of boredom, I checked the Hungarian for 'Tesco's Finest' - I brought some frozen food with me a couple of weeks ago when I get bored of too much fried pork etc. They do have Tesco here though.

As in Hungarian they add a 'k' instead of an 's' to define a possessive pronoun, my Tesco's Finest Cottage pie would be :

Tescok Legjobb Cottage Pie.

I've gone off it now

Saw Mr R&R last night, first time since we got back from Scotland. Both had lots of stuff to catch up on.

He had grown five days stubble as requested. Looked like a lovely bit of rough.

I have worked up a very healthly appetite. Bacon sarnies are calling me

Bant not to put you off even more, but your cottage pie probably does involve donkeys, even if you're missing out in the full day at the beach experience. What happened with Buffy btw, has she gone back to the States or did you call it off early?

Martini well done for recognising you need to reign this in. The words "falling in love" should be no where near your lips! The problem with these grand gestures is what can follow them? There is no right way to behave if a stranger turns up on your doorstep to kiss you so be prepared for contact to feel a little odd.

Squashed if that's how you feel definitely meet him sooner. Maybe I'm jaded or need to be reminded otherwise by longer term posters, but I can't think of any date that's gone stunningly well after someone's felt they had an amazing connection beforehand?

Meeting on Tuesday! Eeek!

I have some misgivings. He's a homebody and very traditional, I love to travel and eat international food. He is devoted to his two boys and spends most weekends Fri-Sun with them and I wonder how me and my children and his children would all mesh together, but that's jumping the gun. I am half expecting him to have had the snip when I would quite like more children one day. It's all going too well, he seems too nice and perfect (apart from him being a country loving homebody and I am an adventurous city dweller)

I have a feeling Tuesday is going to be interesting!

But if it goes wrong with him I am currently being chatted up by a 26 year old who'd like an older woman for kinky fun. He lives just round the corner from where I am meeting my date on Tuesday so if it all goes wrong with Nice Guy, I could still get my kicks with Kinky Guy ;)

Squashed ...ya gotta chill hunny bun thems the rules....good luck though...

banana - remember, something like 95% of first online dates end up with one person meeting the other and one or both of them going 'meh, shame'..

Especially when you're all keyed up and excited. Really. He could smell awful, he could have a whiny voice (don't know if you've spoken on the phone yet?) he could bitch and moan about his ex, be rude to the waiters, stare at other women - there are so many ways he could put you off, even if you do actually fancy him in person.

If it works out, fantastic - just remember not to get too invested. All of us have done it and come away going.. why did I get so excited about that person? I've done it too. It's easy. That's why we came up with The Rules.

It's a bit early to work out if your kids would like each other :) But I hope they do.

Hi all

squashed it is very easy to get carried away before you meet someone. I remember OWW telling me to beware the feeling of discord when you meet someone for the first time. The first 2 guys I met were absolutely nothing like I expected (and I fancied neither, despite being convinced that I would), whereas I was not at all sure about the 3rd guy I met (from the on line chat bit), but the second I met him I was attracted to him. All the stuff about 'I like this food, but he likes that food' is almost irrelevant, and will have no bearing on 'THE SPARK'. Sorry, that probably sounds very patronising, and it really isn't meant to at all! Am just remembering my wild overthinking and thought would share :)

bant, good that you know where you stand with the translator, and hope that cheshire cat date comes through, with snogs included.

snape eeeek re nameless meeting your family, I would be in bits. Thank goodness he is chilled about it though, will make it run smoothly. Just wanted to say that I was rethinking about your advice the other day, and one word really stuck in my head (you talked about the 'relief' of having found someone). That's really chimed with me, and it's helped me get some perspective on my emotional state of late and distance in my head re MrAttractive, so thanks again. :)

Juliette are you having a lovely time?

rose hope you are ok x

Am meeting up with MrAttractive tonight, looking forward to it but in a very measured type of manner, which is far preferable to my recent hysterical levels of emotion. Will see if I can maintain this after the flood of 'great sex hormones'!

martini I would be worried about a man who was happy to have a first date in his house with his children in bed, it just doesn't sit right with me at all. But I am quite an uptight person about this kind of thing, so its only my opinion! Hope it all goes well with him ;)

Oops, that was meant to be a smile, not a wink!

BillMasen - if you're out there, what happened with moongirl?

Hi All - just a wave as I read through and try to catch up.

hey it would've been our 2nd date but I understand where you're coming from. We got on really well on the first and felt very comfortable with each other. There was definitely not going to be any meeting of the kids.

Rose I'm sure you will get all sorted, it really is the last hurdle dealing with him, then freedom

Banana what Ike and Bant said

Hey I'm having a fab time, he is absolutely lovely. Yesterday was Coffee gardening in the sun and today has been ice creams and an age inappropriate amount of snogging by canals

Ah ok, sorry martini, really must read the thread next time!!!

Yay Juliette, I love a bit of age inappropriate snogging

Evening all!!

Well I have gone back on POF but kept my profile hidden and messaged a couple of guys I liked the look of .. 2/2 replied but one has just sent me a none too subtle message along the lines if should I bring my tool with me .. ( He fots kitchens) Not sure if I can be arsed .. Shame he is quite handsome and looks really fit

Fits kitchens rather

I had a realisation this afternoon that it's been 3 years almost to the day since I last dated. Maybe that's why I am getting carried away haha No I am overthinking things and I think trying to foresee problems is my way of keeping myself in check

If it doesn't work out, it's a good trial run for when the right guy does come along

And..ummm..it's really not helping that I am at that stage in my cycle where I am as horny as hell and have an urge to breed like a rabbit