Dating thread 55, everyone welcome!

[lubeytoobooby]

Woop! Lubes is BACK :o

newbies, daters, those taking a break, online dating real life dating or otherwise, and the loved up.... all welcome!

Off we go -chit chat away.

(I might even dip a toe back in myself)

We've made plans to meet the week after next, we're both so excited!

I really wouldn't go to his house Porn if you have misgivings, trust your instincts

If his kids will be there (and you trust that's true) and you let someone know where you are - and you let him know that someone knows, you'll probably be okay.

I would never recommend this for a first date, and personally I'd feel very weird having someone round to mine when the DC are there, if they haven't met and I don't know them well, but if you feel okay with it, do it.

I do trust what he says. He hasn't pushed for me to go round. It was more a case of not being able to see him Monday, so he suggested tonight. He is going to check if his lodger will be there or not. I'm gonna go for it. Half hour drive but I can let a couple of friends know where I am. No alcohol involved.

The kids will be in bed. I won't be meeting them!

Poo of course you can't write someone off because they've messaged someone else. People like and message lots of people at any one time and that is absolutely fine. Given that you're friends it's likely you'd both be his 'type' based on the info you can give on a profile.

squashedbanana this alone is not a red flag in my view. Answering messages can be tiring, if I wanted to go to bed I wouldn't want to have to start pumping out information. But to be honest I get annoyed if someone asks too many questions pre-meet anyway.

velvet apologies if this isn't helpful, but you're posts make me so sad. I can't help thinking it would be better if you took control and ended things with C, or at least made it clear to him that you will have to if he can't give you what you need.

I'm a little jaded by OD at the moment and thinking of taking my profile down for a break, but I'm worried about it sending the wrong signals to someone I am dating.

Porn I'd be very uncomfortable going to someone's house for a first date. Even if it's not a hook up and there are practical childcare arrangements in place I just don't think it sets the right tone. It's either too lazy or too intimiate. But I'm childless and everyone I date is so I don't pretend that any of my views are applicable to you.

Thanks for input. Decision made. Lodger is in tonight so at least I don't have to decide. Hopefully all able to meet Monday now.

Oh god. Someone tell me that I am insane. I am about to drive 30 miles so I can kiss him on the doorstep. Turn around and drive 30 miles back. It started off as a joke but now I actually want to do it.

Have you gone Martini?

Just getting ready. Mental?

martini do you feel it is mental or right?

Both!

Leaving now! Update later

Probably too late but are you sure this is giving him the right signals?

Arrggghhhh like him so much! two more weeks of texting before we have arranged to meet. I don't want things to fizzle out before we meet up as text messages aren't conducive to flowing conversation and I don't want two weeks of this just to meet him and find out he only has half a mouth of teeth or is married.

Thinking of saying friends have cancelled on me one day this week and suggest we meet sooner, too eager?

Banana sorry I am sounding like the voice of dooooom tonight, but try not to get too emotionally involved before you meet. The real person is in my experience never the same ad the online persona which had so much input from your own imagination. Much better to meet sooner and see if the reality matches up to expectations, so I think doing something this week would be a great plan. Go for it and good luck!!

Did it. Oh my god he is seriously seriously hot. Lovely house. He can read whatever signals he wants. Sex is not on the agenda for a while. If he likes me then he will understand why I'm making him wait. But. ... he makes me melt. Was worth the drive

Pornstar- what was the joke? You had to drive over there, kiss him on the cheek and leave? Call me blonde but I don't get it...

As for me, life is beyond crap right now.

awwww pornstar!!!

Western, I am going to go for it!

Sorry to hear that Eternal :(

Shit! Shit! Shit! Shit!

Nameless possibly meeting at least 2/3rds of children tomorrow & possibly DD when she returns from France with her grandparents (who I regard as my parents, XPs DM& DF.)

Fuck! Fuck, fuck, fuck, fuckity fuck. Significant-ex-after-DCs-dad (SEADD?) met them 18 months in, never met ex-out-laws, even though we'd gone out for 6 years (?) I never met his mother. Nameless will be ultra-laid-back & I am hyperventilating.

We were messaging. I said I wanted a kiss. He said come and get one. I said see you in half hour. He said you're joking and there we are.

Sorry to hear you're having a crap time

It was totally worth it. Wanted him to see me dressed up. Left him and on my way to a party. I won't message now and will wait for him to contact. Walking round shop with stubble rash, nice. Had to pick up wine

adventuress!

go martini!

I want to meet this guy and get it out the way, if he's a let down, one week of anticipation won't be as bad as two weeks of of anticipation if it all ends in disaster

And if he's not a let down, the sooner I meet him the better!

Ah I see now, sorry head is absolutely mushed today. Just wrote a thread in the main boards, really need someone above to give me a break.