Dating thread 55, everyone welcome!

[lubeytoobooby]

Woop! Lubes is BACK :o

newbies, daters, those taking a break, online dating real life dating or otherwise, and the loved up.... all welcome!

Off we go -chit chat away.

(I might even dip a toe back in myself)

hey I mean this with ultimate kindness - it's lovely to see you happy, but be wary of the roller-coaster relationship... I think it's good to have met to talk things through and it's also good that he could tell you when he was having a bit of a wobble, just be a little cautious that this does not define your relationship. I've known very strange people who enjoy the drama of highly volatile realtionships - if this has been a simple misunderstanding, tehn all well and good - however, if it is the start of a dump = despair, get back together = euphoria cycle, then that sounds exhausting.

for you though. i love infectious happiness, me. :)

That is very good advice snape and I am honestly bearing it all in mind. I am hoping that it was just a misunderstanding, but having been through a fairly soul destroying marriage breakup, which can be summarised by 'No I really do love you' followed shortly by 'oops, i've just had sex with another 20 something' repeat ad nauseum, I am very aware of this possibility.

We did talk very frankly about a few other things that I think were really useful, basic misunderstandings about some fundamentals, that all seems a lot clearer now.

Will have a day of followed by some more sober pondering .

Very glad you've taken it in the spirit with which it was intended hey (& really don't want to give you a buzz-kill, because happiness is fab, isnt it!?) I think the main advice, as always given on thread is take opportunities to step back and have a look at your relationship from outside - ensure everything is where it should be and whilst it is very tempting to be swept along in the romance and relief that you've found someone, particularly after soul-destroying break-ups, there should be an element of cautious protection of who you are and what you want and need from a (new) relationship, because that is important.

getting a bit older maturing as a person brings (hopefully) a better appreciation of who you are, what you want, what you can offer and less opportunity to be fucked over. And part of that is talking about the useful things and ironiong out misunderstandings :)

Can we have another badge? - a kind of sensible, acting like an adult badge? it won't be called a jezebel - in the spirit of not-taking any shit, could it be called a Germaine?

Hey really glad it's all worked out ok! Giddy happiness is fab, I've not had any for 5 years so tis but a distant memory. One day maybe. In the meantime I shall continue trying to flog what appears to be a particularly dead horse...

TheBoy has just cancelled .. A friend is arriving earlier than expected .. Think I will just leave it at that

Good news hey

God Velvet.... still nothing??? How can you stand it?

Departure gate

Yay Juliette

In an hour I can hold him, kiss him and anything else just about decent for an arrivals gate. I am at excite con 10

Fabulous Juliette Have loads of fun!

Have a great time Juliette

Have a lovely time Juliet. I'm off to namelesses to watch the 2nd half of the George Harrison documentary have sex :)

Juliette (tsk!)

Agree completely Snape, I've had some counselling over the last few months to help me come to terms and final peace with my divorce, and I've learnt so much about myself, it's been very useful. Sign me up for a Germaine please . Enjoy your sex documentary....

Thanks Velvet, I truly am hoping that the giddy stuff comes your way soon x

Excited for you Juliette (and am waiting for updates to rub my thighs at , although am telling myself that there can't possibly be one as funny as the physiotherapist update, can there? )

Thanks Kirsty, hope you not disappointed about TheBoy

stumped I 'stand it' because I like him very much, and because its far, far better than the alternative which is another 4 years of never getting beyond a first date with anyone. And the evenings and nights when I do see him, when he holds my hand all night and tells me how lovely I am, are infinitely preferable to those ridiculous stream of first dates with horrible men who I was far too good for. So if you look at it like that, its very easy to bear.

Well, all is well with Tigsy and Mr EA, he arrived and gave me a big hug, apologised and said he had been very silly, we talked about our breakdowns in communication and how we needed to recognise the cycle we get into and stop ourselves when we feel it happening again. I believe all is well, he has never given me reason to doubt him before sp I have to take it at face value. I like the fact that when I told him that telling me on the phone was cowardly he came to see me face to face.

You are all so kind, supportive on this thread, honestly a lifeline of common sense and compassion. I hope I can give you all as much ad you give me, >

Tigsy and Hey so glad that things are better for you both, and really genuinely thrilled that Juliette and Snape are both having a wonderful time.

Yay Tigsy, that is brilliant news. :)

Brilliant tigsy

Ah, calmness is restored to the thread once more. Very pleased for Hey and Tigsy that misunderstandings are now ironed out, though echo Snape's caution.

Bant, sounds like game playing, or keeping at arms' length to me, but could also be just taking her time to get to know you. Ask her for another date.

So happy for you Tigsty

Fingers crossed all goes well Hey

High five Juliette

Caaaaaaan you feeeeeeel the loooooove tonigiiiiiiiiiiht!?

All is well.

Watched documentary, did not have sex, this is good. :-) lots of hand-strokey, cuddled up somewhat chaste kissing. it was still very lovely. He can't wait to go on holiday with me. Idiot.

Tigsy and Hey I really hope these were just blips but also what Snape said.ale sure you get what you really want for you. If you find yourselves on the back foot at all after these incidents then take some time to consider if its working for you.

Snape, great news on the DLA!

All is well in Dutchlandia, lovely hugs on arrival and much snogging all over. Home, sex rest and got up to have a few glasses of prosecco out the back (Priorities)

I love a bit of hand stroking snape

Yay for Dutchie Juliette, sex AND prosecco?

Have had several very reassuring, affectionate texts from MrAttractive this eve, am seeing him on Sunday

Morning all

snape and juliette

I have decided to tell TheBoy today that I am not going to give him another chance. We have been in touch on and off since march and he has cancelled twice .. I need someone more reliable to be on tap for sex as I only have a couple of free nights a week