Dating thread 55, everyone welcome!

[lubeytoobooby]

Woop! Lubes is BACK :o

newbies, daters, those taking a break, online dating real life dating or otherwise, and the loved up.... all welcome!

Off we go -chit chat away.

(I might even dip a toe back in myself)

Secret I find the whole idea of being 'good at sex' very odd....its like being 'good at eating'....sex is a basic function of the human race really....

Argh secret that has really annoyed me so goodness knows how you feel. What the hell gives him the right to say something like that? I'm fast losing faith in OD. I love Bants suggestion and I would totally reply with that!!

I endorse the bant approach... Alternatively, fuck him up.

' I can't be friends with you. My baked goods are not worthy of your magnificence, I can not sleep. I can not eat. My darling, being with you is why I was born. I think of you the moment I wake up. You are my last thought when I finally drift into fitful, exhausted sleep. I yearn, I perish, I pine...

Actually, no. Wait! You're a twat. Happy to help.'

Oh. Just booked my holiday with my boyfriend Eep.

Eep indeed. And also yay

Oh fuckety fuck. Just realised I have a date with the translator in an hour...

And with Cheshire Cat tomorrow night

Hi all

Sorry to jump back on thread after a few weeks away with a self absorbed post, but here goes....

Have been on a bit of a rollercoaster, was seeing MrAttractive for the last month, had 7 dates, including 3 of those being weekenders / overnights etc. Anyway, short version, I really liked him, thought he really liked me, couldn't quite believe my luck at having met such a great person after only a month or so online. Some of the time we spent together seemed really magical, for both of us, but neither of us were talking about love or anything. But just very lovely being together. Last night I was dumped .

Have been trying to be brave today, and see it all from positive perspective etc, but the tears have arrived, and tbh I am a bit heartbroken . Absolutely gutted. Back to my lonely unloved life with no affection, sex, male company, or new experiences. I feel utterly hurt and bemused and could cry for hours (I never cry). :(

Oh I'm sorry Hey that's awful, did he say why ?

That's absolutely awful, what's wrong with people at the minute. Poor you. What did he say?

Well, I'd been feeling a nagging doubt growing while we were apart (although times together were always great), and so I told myself it was just me overthinking / fretting. Anyway, he was quite dismissive in a text last night, so I texted to say (paraphrased) 'what's going on, are you backing off', and got a long reply saying (paraphrased) 'it was great to start with, we were so close, but the feelings have changed for me over last few days, sorry to hurt you'.

I dared to believe that maybe relationships weren't all bullshit and lies after the train wreck end of my long marriage, but no, apparently I was fucking bang on. .

hey sorry to hear that .. Sending you a hug

bant loo update please

snape go you and your boyfriend!!

I am now Facebook friends with TheBoy .. He looks about 14 .. Hope he looks more manly in person on Friday !!

Hey was thinking about you recently. What a horrible thing to happen, especially out of the blue like that. So sorry. It can be awful when you are starting to have a few hopes and dreams, even if you've not spoken about them, and then like you say it's a shock to find yourself back where you were.

Crying is probably the best thing for it.

Loads of hugs, sweetheart.

Hugs to Hey I am so sorry. It is going to hurt for a bit, but thank goodness it wasn't longer.

Some people are so flakey when it comes to dating. He'll be back, mark my words.

Thanks t Kirsty OWW and WFF, funny how internet hugs do actually make you feel better

I think I will go back on POF again in a few weeks, but not yet, as I just spent about 10 minutes on there sobbing, thinking 'i don't want this, I want MrAttractive'. Fucking hell.

Sorry to be so self indulgent, and sorry to see that times are a bit pants for several of us on here at the mo. x

Hey don't be fretting thinking you're being self indulgent, what makes it really hard is that it can take such an effort to allow yourself to trust and be open with someone again but you've been brave enough to do that. There will be more and better, have a little while being gentle with yourself. And a big hug and

Hey, sorry to hear that , have a hug from me too. I agree with others that a good cry is the way forward for now - better out than in. And yes, POF will be there for you when you're ready, and will live up to its name x

Thanks Kin and Django. All this kindness of strangers has inspired me to go and actually eat something, as all I've managed all day is a spoonful of porridge and a croissant. Chin up, tits out .

Maybe I am just a hardened cynic hey but I just think that the thing I have learned from OD is that there are indeed plenty more where the last one came from .. And so I don't get too bothered if things don't work out

Nae problem, Hey , I've been there, chuck x

I see what you are saying Kirsty, this has been my first experience of forming an actual relationship from an OD, and he was only the 3rd bloke I'd actually dated at all. This will definitely have hardened me up a bit for if/when I meet someone else again that I deem worthy to take into my bedroom :)

You will meet someone else when you're ready Hey but just for now take your time and don't push yourself into starting looking again until you feel it's the right time.

Even if nothing else, it's shown you that despite the horrible stuff with your ex, you are still able to be open and honest and loving with someone, and those things will stand you in very good stead when you meet a better type of man.

Oh Hey I am sorry. Sounds like you are bouncing back

Go you Snape I feel so much closer to Mr R&R since our holiday. Time to really get to know each other.

Thanks OWW, yes am trying to spin it positively that I could do all the open, honest and loving thing, rather than it being a sign that I am just doing everything wrong.

Trouble is, I don't think he was a bad sort of man, just that something indefinable I did turned his affectionate feelings into 'meh', which is never a self esteem boosting place to be in. Oh well.

Hello hey. I can promise you will feel better soon and there will be someone else just as good or better before long. Likely in different ways, but I find the good ones just keep getting better

Thanks Lubey, I hope I will experience the same :)