Dating thread 55, everyone welcome!

[lubeytoobooby]

Woop! Lubes is BACK :o

newbies, daters, those taking a break, online dating real life dating or otherwise, and the loved up.... all welcome!

Off we go -chit chat away.

(I might even dip a toe back in myself)

Been with Mr R&R about 5 months Juliette Had a few downs. Plenty of ups

Secret Sex to me is a journey. I was with my ex for over 25 years. Our sex life was better at the end than at the start.
You are well rid. Undeserving wanker.

re his character Secret, if he was a nice guy he'd never have said anything so unkind.

Mind you it may that women are more likely to be careful with a mans ego in this respect than vice versa?

There were times when I could have justifiably said 'frankly my dear you were rubbish'
It's not as if I knew them well enough to care to much about hurting them, I'd no intention of seeing them again so it's not as if they'd get the chance to be cruel back.

And yet I still couldnt bring myself to say something so wounding

I've just been running through some 'first times'. Everyone has people they'd forgotten about right? Also normal to have forgotten about different continents/countries phases in your life, yes?

well certainly some people were more memorable than others! :o

SS agree totally with what everyone else has said. What a wazzock. Please don't let this dent your confidence in any way at all, you are worth way, way more than this kind of treatment. Horrible man.

Juliette I wish there were enough to forget any

Thank you all for taking the time to reassure me. I am pathetically grateful. And, I'm a bit embarrassed at causing Snape so much anger!

It's my own fault, I appear to be far more naive than I'd ever realised. There were a few things over the weekend that I prickled at - not in a good way - but dismissed as my me being too sensitive. Maybe I'm just to keen to prove to myself I'm something that I'm not, or - even worse - too desperate to have a man in my life

But that's it now. Headspace cleared - you lot plus sister cannot all be wrong. He is a knob. I am well rid. I will move on!

Too keen, obviously.

SS I think I am really naive too, worry about my judgement and my willingness to give people (not just men!) the benefit of the doubt. And I know just what you mean with the bit about proving yourself to be something else. I want to be all insouciant about sex, able to have fun wtihout getting all emotionally tangled up, but really I'm not like that, not sure that I am comfortable with even trying to be that kind of person, so after this one (which I'm assuming is not really going anywhere) I am going to get back to normal boring unsexy OWW. I want a man, and I want to have sex, but I think for me I'm going to try to build up a proper relationship first. (But it can be so tempting sometimes . . . difficult to know what to do).

I have lived in the same area all my life. I have possibly walked past men I have shagged with no recollection at all

Oh FFS.
Just got a text. Would I consider being platonic friends. He likes how I think and wants me to teach how to bake!

Answers, please...

SS and OWW, I feel exactly the same. I quite envy people who are good at NSA and FWB, and up til the weekend I thought this was what I wanted and could handle too. But it's not me, I invest way too soon with men and if/when I sleep with them then I am already way more emotionally involved than I have admitted to myself....

Was about to agree to all sorts of things with cute joiner last night, ahead of ever meeting him, because I wanted to keep his interest. And because I'd really love some hot sex, it has been a while....

Caught myself just in time for once, and read a bit of "Why men love bitches...." I know there's a lot of crap in there, but it helped me to remember that I am the prize.... Even if I don't believe it, I'm trying to fake it til I make it..... Sorry, I am a walking cliche today!

Secret, friends??! He hasn't exactly shown himself to very friend,u so far, I bet he is crap at baking too. Who needs friends like that?

*friendly

SS I'd just ignore him. A cutting response is very tempting, but don't even give him the time and headspace it would take to think of one. What a tit.

Secret Tell him you haven't the time, you are too busy cooking up something someone hot

I'd ignore him Secret. He isn't worth a response I don't think.

Probably best to ignore. I couldn't resist it myself.

I thought I could maybe reply he could find baking tutorials on t'internet, where he obviously learnt his sexual attitudes.

But silence is probably best.

Personally I'd be very tempted to respond

Thanks, but no. I'm afraid your personality didn't work for me.

Secret, he insults you and then asks to be your friend wtf
sounds like he thought you might try and win him over after he brushed you off?
Up to you but I think he deserves a put down

I'd go with bant's response .. Brilliant!

Maybe. 'You like how I think. I like a man THAT thinks'.

Secret, is he a professional tit ? Because if he isn't, he's in the wrong career.

nora I may have to steal that one

Fuck him, I would go with what Bant said.