Fresh Start, no more losers.

[LoserNoMore]

Just thought I'd start a new thread, general chit chat, moaning, skipping etc before I go to work and incase the other one fills up.

Cabbage - I'm gagging for a drink in the hope that it'll help me concentrate but alas, the strongest thing in the house is an old bottle of cooking brandy. I ain't that desperate . On second thoughts...

Well I've done some personal admin work but not employment work. I've also not drunk alcohol but have scoffed a huge bar of dairy milk with a cup of tea.

What's the awkward thing Esme? He farts a lot.... Picks his nose...steals from his classmates....copies their work

Fred needs to consider his diet, carry a handkerchief, spend time in a young offenders institution and sit next to a thicko I think I have a future in education. no?

Arf! YOU MUST BE A TEACHER! If you can help Cabbage, I'll be forever in your debt!

This pupils has potential to do well (Year 8 now) but disruptive behaviour and negative attitude to school is pulling this pupil down. He hates the place. His report is ok - I want to point out his good points but I also want to urge him to put this 'negative' phase behind him and to try and stay positive and do his best from now on. I believe in the kid, he's very down on all his teachers and thinks that they compare him to his older/brighter/well-behaved brother.

I have 3 DD and recognise that boys and girls respond to different sticks and carrots so probably have no idea but....If it were one of my DDs I would want a glowing report focusing on the good results which then went on to say and emphasise that he needs to recognise his own potential

Is he frightened of failure? Confidence building and making him see himself separate to the sibling... Erm Perhaps these are the sorts of things that need to be said face to face after he's had time to digest the report.

I always remember one teacher who told me I would make a success of my life. She didn't focus on my academic work but told me that no matter what happened in my exams she had a feeling that I was going to succeed in whatever I chose. Really looked me in the eye and made me feel she meant it. That is over 30 yrs ago and I remember it to this day

I hope to be that kind of teacher Cabbage. I work in a tough school and so many kids fail the academics. I adore them though, and I can see that their street-wise savyness will get them somewhere good in life. This kid just can't be bothered though - he knows he's quite bright, he just hates the school.

You are right though - I need to focus on what he's good at. I think I'll just leave it as it is.

I could not be a teacher :)

I would feel so frustrated especially as often its out of your control due to home life and many other factors.

LittleEsme

I know that my DS currently in yr 8 has moments of cant be arsed distraction and after speaking to his form tutor it seems that its the subjects he isnt keen on... hoping that now he has chosen his options for yr 9 he will be more focused. DS responds well to praise and confidence building so maybe this would work for your report boy too.

So maybe point out that chosen subjects for next year are important but not to give up on this year even though its nearly over

morning all, got DD off sick so today is a definite house day - just what I need. She is fast asleep and I am mning while waiting for second load of laundry to finish so that it can get hung out.

it's hard esme (ex secondary school teacher here). it would be a shame if x let his negativity and assumptions about school stand in the way of achieving his considerable potential and he could benefit from thinking about his long term goals and aspirations and focussing on how to get there? is it possible to phone the parents and have a chat prior to the report? might help actually if they're at all approachable to have this conversation with them and ask what they think would be the most constructive comment to allow them to tackle the issue with him?

sorry hit post too soon - thanks for well wishes.

if i was the parent (and i am sadly only too aware that i'm not typical and some parents wouldn't give a toss even if you could reach them on the phone) i'd want the teacher to talk to me first and work out what 'our' strategy was and what kind of report comment would best serve that strategy.

form group student or a subject group btw?

SAF - Good luck tomorrow, will be thinking of you. You'll have your amazing 'new' body very soon!

Hope all is ok LNM.

LNM Hoping your silence is due to a rubbish working week and not a wanker of an ex (one stress is one too many...two is erm...not good)

SaF - really hope tomorrow goes very well for you :)

SaF, form. His parents are not the best.
Anyhow, great comment which I will be using. Thanks.

More importantly, get some kip and good luck for tomorrow's Op. Rest easy, you've made the right decision.

Jax - thanks for your help too. It has helped getting another parents perspective and you've hit the nail on the head - he's playing up in subjects he hates but it's only a matter of time before he can leave certain subjects - he just needs to hang on in there.

LNM - you're V quiet. You ok?

SAF sending you lots of happy new boob vibes and luck for today. x

LNM I hope you are ok sweetie, you have been v quiet this week.

What Jax said

(I did at first read 'sending you new boobs' and wondered if she realised you had a surfeit of boobage and didn't want anymore)

LNM -what's on this weekend?

SaF, lots of soothing booby vibes coming your way . Hope you're ok.

LNM - any plans?

V quiet for a Friday night...

Alright, Ellen. Thinking of you.

Lmn was last on Tuesday at 9 pm. It's Saturday tomorrow, it's a long time. Hope all is ok even if she has had enough of talking to us or has nothing to add it would be good to know she's ok

I remember being newly split. Some days I just wanted to pretend it wasn't happening. A thread like this can be difficult as well as supportive.
I am sure she'll be back :)

Hope all is well LNM. This is contact weekend isn't it? Hope ex hasn't been playing up. If you just want a bit of space, that's fine but if you could let us know you're ok please?

I posted on here already this morning... and nothing! Gone!

Oh well.

busy gardening day for me - supervising mostly due to stupid back.

LNM Im worried...

SAF - hope you arent too bruised, arnica if you have some. for you, wont hug you incase its too ouchy.

hope everyone else is well, happy and enjoying the sun.

Turning out DDs room. Found a spring had sprung right through the mattress so its heading to the dump this morning. She has a midi bed and I'm selling and have got one off eBay that is low, iron (look) and far more grown up. She has announced that as she is now a grown up, (11 is grown up?) she will part with dolls and prams. Hooray!

Im supposed to be doing a bootsale tomorrow. Have asked DS to get games and 'stuff' together for him to sell. Have agreed he can come. DD is a PITA - wont part with anything, her room looks like someone has burgled it and forget to steal stuff!

Even when I have tidied it up, it still looks untidy. she is just 10, grown up in so many ways, but doesnt want to part with teddies/dolls just yet. Ive got rid of some books, but I need her to help me.

I have no children today so I'm sunbathing naked on a gloriously secluded cove with marine blue waves lapping at my feet. I have an ice cold pimms in my hand and a fantastic novel in the other. Bliss.

Bollox more like. I'm out the back marking school books. With a cuppa and a whole packet few custard creams.