Lady. sometimes its not as cut or dried as that. I can only act on my own experience, but i put up with an abusive twat for years. I was called a cunt, a vomit maker and a lesbian fancying fucker amongst other things... He lived in London and i had my DS and my own home here, in NI, so i normalised things because it was a long distant relationship.
Of Course, when my marriage ended, my self esteem was on the floor and i would have gone with ANYONE to prove to other men that i still "had it"
Now, i know differently, age and a great self esteem now has made me very intolerant to abusers, plus a great bullshitometre! 
This poor lady is going through rubbish now, and she needs our support x