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Original poster

newish partner called me a disgusting bitch....its got to be the end hasn't it?

120 replies

KidderminsterKate · 04/05/2013 19:53

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UniqueAndAmazing · 04/05/2013 20:33

x-posts.

scottishmummy · 04/05/2013 20:34

don't let him weddle back with apologies.keep your resolve.you deserve better
see you've got kids they deserve better.if he talk to you like that he'll talk to them like that.
you had a lucky early warning.jesus early on is the honeymoon best behaviour time.not you're a disgusting bitch time

pictish · 04/05/2013 20:34

Well the good bits would have got less and less and and the horrid bits awould have escalated....be thankful as fuck you've had the good sense and self respect to decline to put yourself through it.
Well done. xxx

Slobberedupon · 04/05/2013 20:35

Oops, am a slow Tyler, just saw your last post. Great news!

Slobberedupon · 04/05/2013 20:35

Typer even....

nevergoogle · 04/05/2013 20:36

well done!

flippinada · 04/05/2013 20:36

Good for you KK.

Kaluki · 04/05/2013 20:36

You don't want him round your kids ... For good reasons!

Dump him by text and find someone grown up who you can fart happily in front of!!! Grin

Isabeller · 04/05/2013 20:37

Well done Grin

Machli · 04/05/2013 20:37

Good for you. How long were you seeing him for?

nevergoogle · 04/05/2013 20:37

Hey, I collapse off the loo and shit and piss all over the bathroom while unconscious on occasion. Never once have I been called a disgusting bitch by DH.

Willabywallaby · 04/05/2013 20:37

What an arse. Even my boys will say, Mummy was that you?

VerySmallSqueak · 04/05/2013 20:37

Don't let him talk you out of it.
Don't talk yourself out of it.

If you get a little voice in your head telling you it's not really that bad,and that you overreacted,turn your back on it and get busy.It is really bad,and you haven't overreacted.

This is a head decision.

Stick to your guns because the future is brighter without this man.

NeverKnowinglyUnderstood · 04/05/2013 20:38

well done... was about to type.. agree with sugarpaste..

good on you.

qualitytoffee · 04/05/2013 20:39

bloody hell!! What a twat and an abusive one at that! Glad you got rid, and well done pet! (for sending that text) xx
Now listen, when he comes back with his platitudes, or excuses..please don't listen, hes shown his TRUE colours, and no amount of sorrys or whatevers will make this ok.

Madamecastafiore · 04/05/2013 20:39

If anyone shouted at me would be the end of the relationship. I would no more dream of going up to someone in the street who I didn't know or care about than I would shout at someone I had feelings for. FFS please do not let someone shout at you. You need to kick him out, show him how much respect you have for yourself.

Machli · 04/05/2013 20:41

I had a newish BF that called me something similar in front of friends. We all looked at him like this Shock. He apologised as we left but when I said "I just don't understand where it came from", he snarled "look I said sorry, no need to dine out on it forever!"

He got dumped.

Restorer · 04/05/2013 20:42

Madame, I agree in theory, but really you've never had a row with someone you love and respect, that resulted in one or both of you shouting? You've never ever shouted at a DC?

OP is absolutely right in this case, but to never, ever allow shouting seems a bit repressed to me.

colditz · 04/05/2013 20:42

My boyfriend likes to try to 'force' me to fart in from of him by jiggling my tummy when he sees me scuttling for the loo. He's never called me names about it, he thinks it's funny!

LadyBeagleEyes · 04/05/2013 20:44

FFS, why would you even have to come on here to ask?
Surely somewhere you have a twat radar where some things are totally unacceptable?

ChasedByBees · 04/05/2013 20:45

Totally the right decision.

flippinada · 04/05/2013 20:46

OP has already dumped this awful man (hooray again).

I would guess she probably thought "this really isn't on, is it" and was looking for validation - which she got in spades!

Original poster
KidderminsterKate · 04/05/2013 20:46

thanks

been seeing him for about 9 months or so

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Original poster
KidderminsterKate · 04/05/2013 20:48

that's exactly it flip pin

i,'ve known it all night and day

don't know why I apologised..was just shocked and wanted to placate him asap...... need to have a think about why I did that

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Machli · 04/05/2013 20:51

9 months. Yes that's pretty standard for abusive twats to start showing who they really are. Sure you feel pretty Sad but please try to remember that only a really nasty person would call someone they are supposed to care about such an awful name. That's hate deep down imo. You can't be with someone who hates you.