The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Whacking The Wine Witch Round The Chops (With Barry The Squid).

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Hello, I'm Mouse :)

I'm one of the Brave Babes who's travelling on this wonderful, magical, mysterious Bus, trying to hold onto my sobriety for me, and for my family.

I do drink but thanks to this Bus, I've kicked the vodka addiction into touch and the evil WineWitch has been banished far, far away so I now drink in a controlled manner, One Day At A Time. :)

By that, I mean that just for today, I won't be drinking. Tomorrow, however, I will be because it's a very special occasion. The day after will be dealt with when I wake, and the day after that, the day after etc.....

We're a Bus filled with some fantastic posters, some who drink, some who don't touch a drop ever and some who are on/off drinkers who have lovely warm seats in the side-car, some are hanging onto the roof-rack by the tips of their fingers and trying their best to resist the dreaded WineWitch's charms night after night. But they are trying, and that's all that any of us can do, is keep trying, keep starting again!

So, if you think that you're drinking too much (you probably are) why not come and say hi? We won't bite - unless you ask very nicely, manners cost nothing .

There's lots of seats so pick whichever one you like and have a . Just jump in, we're not a judgemental pack of quiche makers

And here's a bit of light reading for you.... our latest thread and the very first one, the reason we're all here.

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venus hmm interesting post about people who don't like to ask for help - but feel absurdly hurt when nobody notices we need it! I am so guilty of that!

lonnika FFS I write all sorts of nonsense that no-one reads, but when I make a passing reference to quitting drinking completely, it gets highlighted! of course I didn't really mean it, it was only made to pretend to myself that I'm serious about taking control. Head in sand. Sorry.

Think I have cracked this sleeping thing :)
alias - sorry - good luck with whatever you do !
Day 15 here - I am not drinking today.

Have a great day - see you later peeps.

Morning babes. Mouse completely agree with purple that Nemo & your dd definitely got lucky with you as their maman. What a day you went through yesterday & sounds as though your little Nemo was a superstar huge hugs to you all xx
MA great news about your db, hopefully this will make a real change and you & your family can have The Richard you know & love back.
Just thinking for those saying they are "giving up" alcohol the Allen Carr book makes some good points that you need to change your mindset that you are not giving anything up but gaining a better life. I found it a good way to think about alcohol.
Lonnika amazing that you slept well, just makes all the difference to everything.
My wee boy woke up at 4 sobbing that he was afraid of the dark but on the plus side of that he has now slept til 8:30 & now playing in his room. (Usually wakes at 6 & shouts for me!)

Peace, strength & love to all amazing babes xx

Morning babes, sorry I never posted last night, I worked hard in the house yesterday and later on had a bath and promptly fell asleep. I'm so pleased Richard is settled and hope he has had a comfortable night, mouse you are an inspirational mother.stellai too am going to try a total approach, not just no wine but swimming, gym, skincare etc. my guilt at drinking leads me to punish myself by not buying clothes, getting my hair done etc. we all deserve to look and feel good so keep me posted stella xxxxx

lonnika no need to apologise, you just made me realise that my comment was a rather pathetic half-hearted attempt to pretend I'm making more effort, you were quite right to pull me up on it..

Morning, babes! Day 3.

Venus, yes that is very interesting. I know irl a lot of my social alcohol issues* are around using it to stop feeling inhibited - and in other words, demand attention. Then I get it - if things don't go too far, good attention - but even when I haven't done anything really stupid, I wake up the next day feeling guilty and exposed for crawling out of my shell even if everyone says I was being charming.
Of course sometimes things go horribly, indisputably wrong, too.

*I do not mean for one moment to suggest that I only have social alcohol issues. What I mean is: on the vast and wide-ranging gamut of circumstances under which I drink too much, focusing just now on Drinking When Out....

Ma, so glad R is being looked after. God bless the Sally Army indeed. Well done. And now - how are you?

Purple - sorry to hear they are pushing you from pillar to post. Sometimes don't you just wish you could get them all in one room so they can't fob you off by making them bounce between you? Good luck today. Easy for me to say, but - keep trying.

Green, purple, and babyjane - thanks for saying nice things to me. I didn't mean to be all, "VALIDATE ME!" (not that I don't like to be validated of course) but just to say to Purple, or anyone: please please try to use this place for anything good you can get out of it, even if that means you have to separate that from the bad feelings you can sometimes get from thinking "OMG I spent 25 minutes posting about xyz and it's just gone into the void". Purple, I know you have posted some really personal stuff about your past and honestly it meant a lot to me but I found it really hard to respond to because I felt so cosseted in my life compared to you. I mean if there is a hierarchy of pain, which there isn't, but if there was, I am basically just not allowed to talk to you. And many others on here.

So here are my first world problems:

house might fall through because mortgage people dragging their feet and vendor getting pissed off AAAAAAAAAAAARGH If we can't buy this house we are facing being kicked out with nowhere to go AGAIN. Please pray for my house.

dd2 not sleeping = me not sleeping

all these are nice problems to have of course. trying to buy a house we love; living with my beautiful little girls. It's all good.

And day 3.

sorry for epic post. have a good day all babes x

curry sounding positive today, sounds like your glass is half full, pardon the pun, fingers crossed for your mortgage x x x

quick wave to all the fabulous babes
mouse second what everyone else says and a big kiss to the bravest fish boy in the world.
Richard had a good night and is heading out with the work squad to plant flowers. From restaurant manager in 5 star hotels in Monaco, Hong Kong and Beijing, to planting flowers with the homeless squad. The road that alcohol will lead you down is an uforgiving one...........

Morning, tis me, Mouse

Purps and all of you who agreed with her, thank you for such lovely words. I feel very humbled because to me, it's what I do, I'm him "Mamam" and always will be no matter what life throws our way. So I'm very grateful for your kind words.

Ma - From restaurant manager in 5 star hotels in Monaco, Hong Kong and Beijing, to planting flowers with the homeless squad. The road that alcohol will lead you down is an unforgiving one...........

Never a truer word said on this thread. Alcohol controls you, not you it. It destroys things that you take your life to build, it ruins relationships, it takes your family away, children, friends, things that you always thought you'd have, can be snapped away from you by one little thing, something so simple, grown naturally, produced by thousands daily, sold by millions and depended on by hundreds of thousands of people just to get through the day.

Alcohol destroys lives, yours, mine, your neighbours etc and sometimes, you don't know just how bad it is, until it's too late to turn it all around.

For Richard - thank Jeff - today, it's not too late.

I've got to dash off as Nemo's nurse is due but will read back and catch up later on.

:) xx

I'm furious wit myself got to day 4 and then ruined both my days off through drinking of an evening fed up with this cycle something has to change

Thisismytime - sorry you are feeling low. Have you any irl help? AA? GP? Anyone to talk to? What can you do in the evenings instead of drinking? Baths, reading, chocolate?
I know how hard it is. keep trying but think about what you can put in place to help you.

Curry - fingers crossed for the house sweetheart, that is utterly shite. I hope some good news comes your way xxxx

Sorry you're not sleeping, It's just torture not sleeping. Big hugs xx

Just watched most(start & end) of video BabyJ, very harrowing. I wonder if in many years to come society will view alcohol the way it is now viewing nicotine? x

Hey lovely babes , how goes it? Thank you for the warm welcome (back) purple , baby , lemony , curry and Hi to everyone else on this wild bus.

I have managed to knock Day 2 on the head, am tired and crashing. Goodnight lovelies x.

clutter it really made me sad but also grateful that we are all in a position to turn things around. So when I'm feeling sorry for
myself in future I will remember to keep some perspective, also very importantly the video has eradicated any desire I have to drink, even just for the moment but hey I'll take that. chaste rockin day 2 here too, wine witch who? I don't hear her, I can't see her, she's running scared babes x x x x

Evening all, curry house purchasing is the pits. So many factors beyond your control. It's extremely stressful. I identified with a lot of your last post About drinking when out. I am drinking similar units at the moment c35pw (if i'm really honest with myself) i know it's not up there with 70plus but it's still a problem. I'm not going out as I feel too fat at the moment and don't want to draw attention to myself!

My health is becoming increasingly shit and not drinking this week has led to sleepless nights and recurrence of bladder problems brought on by anxiety. WW is doing her damnedest to convince me this evening that I actually function better on half a bottle a night. I am more than aware what a lush that makes me sound!

Anyway hoping I can keep her at bay for a few hours. Love and luck to all xx

Can someone link the video?

Love your post BabyJane x. - Greeneyed tell that WW to f@@k off. I have same bladder problems I think with my anxiety (need to run to the loo every 2 mins). -Sleepness nights will pass - xx Good luck xx

Thanks loninika, mahoosive wrestle with the bitch going on at the moment. Wine has moved from the garage to the freezer.

Hi green, don't think there was a link, I went to YouTube & typed in "drugged high on alcohol" x

Lol - Fight the b@@ch -

Ohclutter I am positive alcohol will eventually become as antisocial as smoking is now

God I hope so had bottle just finished but almost made total decision In order to stop thinking as things real difficult. Will be worse tomorrow. But hopefully better or else catastrophic ill keep you all up to day tomorrow!

Well nite babes end of day one for me big hugs to those who a struggling watched the full video of you tube was crying what a beautiful young man so wanted him to make it x