Dating thread no 52

[BillMasen]

The first one started by a bloke?

OWW yes he is still lovely on Skype, it feels like we've had a lot of long dates already, a lot of finding out about each other chats, grinning flirting and testing the waters. It can't be the same as being with someone in RL so I'm holding back on getting attached sort of. It's clear we really like each other, I know from experience that by this stage that he will be as he is on Skype, there are no distractions and an intensity that does expose someone a fair bit. He hasn't run away from my morning impression of Russel Brand in pjs either

Velvet this is all sounding different with C now. Hats all round?

Sounds like there has been some excellent dating going on this weekend :)

I am getting birthday presents both for my sister who will be 30 soon (am getting her 30 mostly small presents) and Mr Nice who will be a little older than 30 on Wednesday. He isn't getting lots of presents but is getting a few :)

I've trying to read and keep up with you lot, and have largely managed it!

OWW woo hoo to Indie see we all knew he would be a good 'un, snogging is good, chemistry is good, and normal is excellent

48 good luck with your Mum, I know it's been a real struggle. I had a little chuckle at the thought of your and Mr R&R trying out bad kissing styles.

Velvet I have always thought C, wasn't a messer arounder i know it's not a real word but i like it, but really scared of commitment and involvement, and that being understandable given his past. I think, to use one of my very favourite phrases, softlee, softlee catchee Monkee, good for you that present better be good though!

Juliette have a wonderful time, I'm excited for you!

Miranda what is Mr Nice getting for his birthday then?

waves to *WFF, Snape, Bant, Kin, Ike (stop lurking love, I like to laugh at your posts) and anyone else I missed.

As for me, been so busy, sorting out house sale, trying to find somewhere to live, no luck as yet and it is quite stressfull and trying to resolve all finances with twunt of a STBXH. However, GOOD NEWS is I have a full-time job! was offered it this morning so I have woop de doo and despite the fact I would rather not work at all, the income from a full-time job will solve so many things and it's one thing ticked off the 'to do' list. love Mr EA a little bit more each day, he is a bloody stalwart. He cuddled me in bed last night and whispered in my ear, you make me happy and I wasn't happy before I met you. My tummy flip flopped.

Tigsy that last bit 'you make me happy and I wasn't happy before I met you. My tummy flip flopped' is exquisitely wonderful. I am all twinkly thinking of such a lovely thing to have happened to you!

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I have done away with the green.

Congratulations on the job Tigsy - great stuff. The stress will all go with time and at least you have lovely tummy-flipping MrEA to help get you through it. He's a star.

tygsy well done!

juliette 2 more sleeps ??

Kirsty 2 more sleeps until I go to Hollandia

Well I've just had a massive huge great fuck-off out of the blue wobble about LM. Crap.

What set you off OWW ?

Sex!!!

Sex ?

The thought of doing it with someone else ?

Well not just sex but it started with that then got onto a rose-tinted maudlin bollicks train of thought. Stupid.

No I'm quite keen on doing it with someone else, was thinking about various people I've done it with to pass the time on the M6, as you do, and just got a bit sideswiped by it all.

Oh it's not stupid, you loved him. Maybe the success of your date with Indie feels like leaving LM behind for good, do you think that's what it could be ?

I think the sadness comes in waves, sometimes it retreats and you almost forget about it, then it lies in wait and ambushes you when you least expect it

Yes, that could be it. I would have LM back in an instant, but only the non-fucked-up nice version who doesn't actually exist. I've been fine about this for weeks until today!

I absolutely know how you feel, it really is a quite enormous pile of shite. If only there was some kind of magical solution to the problem, it'd make life a damn sight easier.

OWW, I know how you feel. There isn't a non f---ed up version. Well done for trying to move on, something I didn't manage to do and am dreading having to try again sometime.

OWW and Kirtsy Thrilled for you

OWW Think this wobble could be the next step on the moving on road. I never shed a tear over Mr OZ for 2 months. Balled my eyes out after first date with Mr OZ.

Juliette Did I mention Mr OZ was have Dutch

Tigsy Great news. Things are coming good.

My mum is much better.
Had to do mercy dash to Mr R&R after hospital visit. He was in bits. Bless him he adored his Tiger cat.

Should read first date with Mr FU

And Mr OZ was half Dutch. Do not type when in a hurry!

Tigsy, that is tum flipping stuff indeed.

OWW it's normal for strong new feelings to trigger strong buried feelings . Just let the feelings come, it will all be good .

One of the guys I was chatting with has asked me on a date, but tbh I'm not interested. He is quite attractive, but there is no sparkle in our chat whatsoever, it's all very bland. How would you lot respond to this? I don't feel that I can just ignore, because we did chat for quite a while last night. Would you just say, 'thanks for the offer, but I'm not sure we are right for each other'. I feel a bit callous.

OWW it's all part of the healing and moving on process still hurts like fuck though, it's the grief and mourning for what was good in the relationship and what you hoped it would be and didn't turn out to be. I think Kin is right about the waves, they keep coming when you least expect them and then suddenly one day they aren't there anymore and that's when you are over it ..... you've done brilliantly and you will carry on being brilliant, because .... you are brilliant! when are seeing Indie next?