Dating thread no 52

[BillMasen]

The first one started by a bloke?

Dolly - don't cook anything too garlicky or spicy if you want to avoid weird farty/belchy noises and smells later. Casserole, spag bol, chicken & asparagus, that kind of thing should be okay. Feel free to ignore my culinary advice, I burn water.

Shave your legs if it'll make you feel comfortable. Any bloke that is put off by a bit of hair is probably a misogynist.

Wear something easy to remove if you want to remove it, but with the DC in bed is that something you want to plan for?

Oh and you have to tell us more about the bad stories. It makes us all feel better

Ha, thanks Bant that's a good tip, avoid garlic!!
Not sure I'm planning for clothes removal, I'm not averse to it but with the kids in bed may be a little seedy... One to ponder. He doesn't seem the sort to jump into something without encouragement so I will have to practice 'coy'
One bad date consisted of going to a pub with a SA guy with a really strong accent, we went out for a crafty cig after the first drink and he stuck his tongue in my mouth and kid of just, kept it there and wiggled and jabbed it about for a bit. Not pleasant. Then I came over all faint and sick and felt like I needed to eat something, ordered bread and oil but my mouth was so dry I was chewing it for about 10 minutes and felt so sick I couldn't actually speak and had to keep going to the loo
Eventually I told him he'd have to take me home but I felt so embarassed I invited him in for a cuppa. Que more tongue stabby action and a clear desire to take things further IYSWIM. I ended up more or less tackling him to the door where I bid him a not so fond farewell. Then he never contacted me again, thank f*ck.
Bant your coffee date with Merlot sounds horrendous. She sounds like she's looking for a husband - which is fine but to be so blatant about it is a bit bunny boiler-ish.

Cod psychology alert here Wine but could it have been exactly because they were relatively normal and well-adjusted, so you couldn't play the role you wanted/needed to at that time (the fixing/understanding/rescuing stuff that started off with your dad), so you were pushed into a different role that didn't fulfil your "fixing" needs and so the relationship didn't give you what you needed at that time ...?

But now you know and understand what's been going on, you can step away from Ishoos Men and have something great with a lovely, normal bloke who will treat you wonderfully. That's what I'm hoping will happen, anyway!

God, you can tell I've been on the rum ..,

Hi Dolly, it's encouraging to hear about your success, was in from OD or real life?

I 'know' you on here from ages ago, when I had a different name, I sent you something through the post, hope you got it (cryptic!). So it's absolutely lovely to see you here moving on. Me too! (only without the success, yet, but I've only had one date so determined to not get despondent until at least date 3)

Dolly you cook something very easy, that takes no faffing about at all, you wear something that always makes you feel gorgeous, and I'd say, yes, shave your legs if that's something you do but don't if it's not.

Thank you for the moral support, Spud's message came up on my mobile while I was waiting for my order at the chippy (classy) and actually made me feel sick. He said that he didn't expect or deserve a reply, mentioned a current news story that we'd be cracking poor taste gags about if we were actually fucking talking and remarked on my new profile photo, taken at Halloween and with me wearing a long blonde wig.
I've not replied, mainly because I have no idea what I'd say, probably ' Oh hello, long time, no see ! How've you been ? How's work ? New car still behaving itself ? Oh I meant to say, make sure you fucking choke yourself on one of your beloved fucking wheaten farls and by the way, no it's not normal, it doesn't happen to every guy and it is a big deal' ( with thanks to Friends ).

Dolly I am having a date round at someone's house on Sunday - he's probably going to cook pasta, which is fine with me. Just do something easy that you're confident about, then it's one less thing to worry about.

I'm not worrying about what to wear as I hope it will come off post-pasta. Something casual, probably jeans and a nice top (and nice underwear but not any of the serious stuff yet).

It will be great, so glad you have someone lovely. Tell us more ...

If anyone watches the Walking Dead

is the funniest thing I've seen in ages. I had to stop watching because it made me need the toilet.

That may have been too much information. Sorry.

Trying hello! Thank you so much for the book you sent, it has helped no end to explain things to my DD. The kindness of strangers! So glad you are moving on too.
I met the guy I'm dating through OD, it was my last day of subscription and I'd decided not to renew, so I bit the bullet and messaged him with my email address. All going great so far, I have high hopes but in a non desperate way, as really, my life is pretty great at the moment, and he is just a rather nice bonus
OWW I think pasta is a great shout, even I can manage not to screw that up, right??! He's 38, separated, 1 child (2.5yrs old) good job, seems stable in himself (so far) very handsome, genuine and self deprecating. Ticking all my boxes so far, hoping he ticks a few more after Tuesday So what number date are you on with pasta man?? OD or RL?
Wine thanks
Kin hmm, something that makes me feel gorgeous - will have to work on that... trying to rebuild my self esteem after EXH left for younger skinnier blonde

I am so pleased for you Dolly , your date sounds rather lovely! I am not jealous at all, oh no, not me

Nora as soon as you said about him going on that he doesn't need/deserve a reply, I knew him for what he is ie a proper tit. I'm assuming a wheaten farl is poncey bread? Double tit. (Nothing against nice food except when people start getting precious about it). You are well rid. Still a bugger to deal with. Hope the chips were good though.

Dolly date three for me too - lovely man off PoF. Very good so far, seems really, really nice. Had a bit of a kiss and that last time and bloody hell he did it for me so I have high hopes for Sunday. Gorgeous kisser, the type you could just kiss for hours as an end in itself, so I hope the other stuff matches up.

Wheaten Farl? I love your reply Kin, but just send it to yourself as a reminder of how funny you are. No reply will be the most hurtful reply to him.

OWW I am with you on the kissing thing. Date 2 for us was dinner at his, as he had his child sleeping upstairs. At the end of the night there was a kiss and a grope and oh my, my legs went wobbly Am looking forward to that. I did witter on for ages about cheese and bloody biscuits, you know when you can hear yourself going on and you're thinking 'Stop! Just stop talking about cheese FFS' so it's remarkable he even wanted to kiss me. Perhaps he was just trying to shut me up....
All the best for Sunday, looking forward to hearing about it!!

Kin how are you feeling now? I think not replying will have far more of an effect on Spud than even the most cutting reply. It is horrible when they contact you out of the blue like that. I know if the lovely Ex contacted me, I would either burst into tears or be sick, or indeed both, simultaneously

I have discovered Muller Light Greek style yoghurts (coconut flavour). Not quite as good as chocolate, but really rather nice. It's taking my mind off all the stuff I can't eat, and all the alcohol I can't drink sodding diet

It's Irish bread,OWW he's wedded to his carbohydrates but did once tell me that he loved me more than mashed potato, apparently this was the ultimate accolade .
He is a tit.
I'm sorry to say that darn sarf chips are never up to scratch, and no cheese and onion pies down here either

Dolly 'younger, skinnier blonde' how very clichéd , clearly an unimaginative tit. You will look lovely.

Oh I'm very sad alright Velvet, thank you. What happened with lovely ex that you're not together any more ?

Diets are a bastard, I find those rice cakes with plain chocolate on top are almost convincingly treatish.

Hope you're not feeling the winedoom, Snape

Sorry you're sad Kin. Contact from an ex out of the blue when you are doing ok is a head f*ck. And he probably knows it, which is why he did it. He wants to get on your radar. Block him! easier said than done

Oh Kin thanks, the rice cakes with chocolate are AMAZING! Thank you for reminding me...I have just checked and I can have 2-3 of them know what I will be buying at the supermarket tomorrow

The lovely Ex is a bit of a long and tortured tale but the upshot is that he wasn't able to give me the relationship I wanted, so I ended it. And fast forward 5 years, and I'm now ever so smitten with someone who also can't (yet/ever, delete depending on how positive i'm feeling) give me the relationship I want...pattern emerging anyone?

You're allowed to feel a bit sad re Spud. Wine? Chocolate ricecake? Or can I entertain you by the fact my 14 year old son is now FAR more worldly wise than me and told me what a Hungarian gas mask is tonight.

I've just had to google that Velvet - good to know that romance isn't dead...
My 17 year old ds reckons that the reason he can't get a part time job is because he's 'too intelligent' - that'll be right, son.

You are the only other person I know who likes those rice cakes, I love the ones with the really thick dark chocolate.

Perhaps Cuthbert will come good, once he's realised that you're not like the women he's had relationships with in the past.

Hello everyone.
I'm new here. Been on mn a while but have never posted. Recently split with ex fiancé of 7 years and now getting into the world of 'OD' (getting up on the lingo ). We have a 18mo ds, still see a lot of each other, but I needed to get myself back out there.

I'm on pof and so far only had one date. He was lovely but unfortunately not my type (and the 'few year old' profile pictures led to a bit of initial disappointment) but on the plus side, it got my first date out if the way. Have one with a seemingly very gorgeous chap on wed which I'm looking forward to, and potentially a few more in the pipeline, but we'll see.

Well I've written too much, this was supposed to be a brief intro. Have enjoyed reading a bit about how your dates are going and feeling a lot less alone in this.

Hello Toni, yep the first one is a bit nerve wracking, it sort of gets easier and sometimes it's quite entertaining. 'Very gorgeous' sounds good, fingers crossed for you.

And it's always better when they don't have the mad stare of a serial killer or an item of novelty headgear, like the people okc has just recommended for me.

Hi Toni

What is it with the serial killer stare Kin? It seems to be a favourite, often combined with 'here's me with my children'. WTAF?

Yeah, I had one Hey where he was doing a David Brent, 'look at me, I'm a fun guy !' nose touch with one hand and finger pointed at the camera with the other - bizarre.

I actually just received a pretty disturbing message from a guy into BDSM. Him and his gf were looking for a 'daughter'. And I have pretty struck filters on my pof account.

Well I hope he turns out as good as the pics, but I'm being a realist. Haha.