Dating thread no 52

[BillMasen]

The first one started by a bloke?

Right, I'm on for coffee this afternoon with Merlot. The fact that she's told me she wants three kids, asked if I spend enough time in England to be serious, am I looking for a committed relationship, all very serious - this all makes me think she's not quite going with the flow of dating, she wants to meet a husband nownownow.

I told her there may be no chemistry, how about we just see if we like each other before discussing everything else and she's okay with that. I think she may possibly be a bit full on.

But she's not bad looking from the pictures, intelligent, well travelled. She might be more relaxed in person and just nervous about OD.

Hmm

Ooh Bant she sounds a bit intense - I am reminded a little of the Artist. I'd never dream of asking that sort of question before we'd even met, probably not even the one about what type of relationship. That's probably a more fluid situation than the children one - type of relationship will probably depend on the person you meet, how you get on, both your circumstances etc etc and it's entirely possible to start out with one intention and it changes into a different one as things go on.

Not sure I would like the very blunt approach either. There are ways and means to get this information without asking directly - I tend to do a "Thank god my children are growing up, enjoying a bit more freedom etc etc, I'd never cope with going back to those baby days now" spiel as part of general chat about family/kids, and that makes it all very clear without labouring the point (I hope).

Hope it goes alright but sounds like you're already a bit wary. Fingers crossed she's more relaxed and easy going when you meet her. Good luck.

Good afternoon all from sunny Netherlandia.

I'm currently lying out the back in Dutch's field (not a euphemism) watching butterflies. Yes, I couldn't make this up.

Today I will mostly be taking it easy. Although taking it easy is what seems to have made it necessary to visit a local physio who's confirmed I'm officially broken* so I've also been told to take a course of pain killer suppositories and exercise well if he insists

*back trouble

OWW - I'm reminded a bit of the Artist too - but I'll give her the benefit of the doubt as she may just be new to OD and think it's the way to communicate online. It'll cost me the price of a couple of coffees to find out if I'm wrong.

Juliette. I can't believe you've done your back in from 'taking it easy'. Not after all the strenuous activity you seem to have got up to..

All sounds fantastic juliette (apart from the back pain) .. When do you head home?

bant merlot sounds like a bunny boiler .. Are you sure you want to meet up?

Kirsty - if I don't like her in person, I don't have to. Ahem. Show her my bunny.

Oooh.. But what if you do???? ;)

Bant maybe she's just a no nonsense woman but keep your bunny close

kirsty Not sure, maybe maybe Sunday.

Kilty sounds like a good'un

Then I take it slowly. The Artist was 42 (I think) and didn't say she wanted babies, she was just extremely anti-contraception. Merlot I don't know much about her yet apart from that she's basically saying 'don't bother meeting me if you never want to have kids' and then clarifying it with 'maybe 3'

I'm open to the concept of more DC. She's only 32 so probably not in a rush. She may just be filtering the dross on OD by being upfront about things. We'll see.

I am knackered in a good way. Spent too much time at Mr R&Rs this week He is an over user of 'lovely' not complaining.

Out with mates tonight and tomorrow night. Having more fun than I ever imagined having this close to 50

Juliette She who dares wins

Looking good OWW and Kirsty

The only thing about Kiltykilty is that he has never even lived with someone and is looking for someone to settle down with and maybe have kids .. I am just looking for a bit of fun, don't want to live with anyone and at 45 don't want another child

So as long as he doesn't meet the future mrs Kiltykilty soon I will be ok

The crush on the delivery guy died last night. I ordered and he turned up. I opened the door and he was wearing a bright yellow hat that had eyes attached, a mouth and flappy side bits. The attraction has left it seems.

I'm having no luck online what so ever

nameless has overdone the sun and has cancelled this evening. I'm going to go home and sulk change all the bed sheets in the house and scrub the kitchen floor. then buy a new plunger and un-block the ensuite toilet.

so a for those on dates tonight.

[wetfish] at woe-is-me post.

Who's out tonight then (apart from Juliette on the longest first date ever and Bant having bunny-less coffee)?

No date for me. But my No1 fan will be out tonight. Lots of harmless flirting and shots. Developing a taste for Jager bombs

snape you need to move back to Glasgow .. It's chucking it down and freezing .. No sunstroke to be had here!!

Hope nameless feels better soon

How long is the polite amount of time to wait at a coffee shop?

I'm guessing 15 minutes us acceptable, or when I've finished my coffee

If she has your email/mobile half an hour is ample.

She phoned after 15 minutes to ask where I was. Turns out there are 2 Starbucks on the same road..

So I walked down, met her.

No

Any chance of a virtual hand hold ? Just received a message from Spud, terribly anodyne but it's made me feel a bit fragile.