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The train has departed Loserville - Next stop Happy Town.

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LoserNoMore · 23/04/2013 19:06

Just went to post on my other thread but it's full already!

I'll attempt to link it but I'm on my phone so probably won't work.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1726699-Last-train-to-Loserville-Part-2

Excuse the cheesy title, my brain won't work. Just going to read last few replies on old thread.

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swallowedAfly · 03/05/2013 19:08

she is an utter twat. i'd consider making a complaint about her as she's stepped over so many lines of late. would have loved for you to vomit on her shoes.

quiet night here too. still time to have a bustling house full of family (3 children sounds bustling to me mind). also have you noticed how much younger divorced/widowed young women stay? you can have a houseful of kids and grandkids and friends lnm. i'm not going to say 'you will meet someone' malarchy as it kind of does my head in when people say that to me as i'm not even sure i want to and certainly don't think it would be some kind of magic wand. it's that kind of thinking that gets people into a mess.

Loulybelle · 03/05/2013 19:12

Eh what a bitch, i could be a deaths door as a lone parent i have no choice to the school run.

Quiet weekend for me, DD has deserted me her grandparents, and no man to chat with.

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LoserNoMore · 03/05/2013 19:19

Ah thanks LittleEsme. My ribs are killing me from heaving.

Saf, I had a Tesco bag in the car in case I threw up on the way. How I would have loved to have vomited in it and chucked it at her! Bitch. The house has been very quiet recently, need to fill it without people and bring the fun back. That's the mission from Monday.

Ex has contacted me asking to see the girls tomorrow. I e told him no, I want to spend the whole weekend with dd's. he had all weekend last week. Apparently I'm not being fair Confused Was meant to see solicitor this morning.

Good news though, I had totally forgot I had a new bed coming, just received a text telling me it's coming tomorrow. Better get my tool box out. I guess men do have their uses...

Ps. Just want to say thanks again for staying with me on this thread and all your support, I think I love you all a little bit and I haven't even had alcohol.

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LoserNoMore · 03/05/2013 19:20

Loulybelle, at least you have us.

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PyroclasticFlo · 03/05/2013 19:35

Sorry to hear you've had the lurgy LNM, when you do feel up to eating remember the rule of bland beige foods (dry toast, banana, rice etc) and clear liquids. Hopefully you should be ok if you've not been sick since 2pm.

What a cow your boss is eh? Karma will bite her on the arse sooner or later, you mark my words.

Have a restful weekend and look after yourself, get your strength back so that next week you can start filling your house with friends and fun again (((hug)))

lowercase · 03/05/2013 20:28

I know what you mean LNM, I would love a big clan about me, as it is we are transplanted all over the place, don't have close relationships with any blood members, I am totally single parenting my two.
I fought my position for many months and years, having expectations that were rarely met, being disappointed, frustrated, angry.

Gradually I surrendered and got some acceptance around the situation and started to build myself to be the parent they need.
I am very lucky to have made some fantastic friends, and have found the best way for me is to lead a somewhat spiritual life, churchgoing, meditation, affirmations etc. get me through moment to moment.
If you are seeking, I recommend eckhart tolle.

I am actually in the extraordinary position of being grateful for the crap thrown at me, because I love the life I have today!
Many of us through the other side will testify to that.
The death of the old life gives birth to a new one.

Fairenuff · 03/05/2013 20:44

This is mn at its best. Compassionate, intelligent women, sharing their experiences and strength. People underestimate the power of mn and slag us off in the press but, when the going gets tough, we can stand our ground and fight for our rights. Go us!! Grin

LittleEsme · 03/05/2013 21:21

Not sure about the intelligent bit, but I can say TWAT with gusto. Grin
I've had cause to think and say it quite a few times on this thread.

I am actually in the extraordinary position of being grateful for the crap thrown at me, because I love the life I have today!
Many of us through the other side will testify to that.
The death of the old life gives birth to a new one.

Liking this a great deal - I see strength in so many ladies on your thread LNM. And I see strength in you. You ARE a force to be reckoned with and good times will come. I believe that.

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LoserNoMore · 03/05/2013 21:31

"The realm of consciousness is much vaster than thought can grasp. When you no longer believe everything you think, you step out of thought and see clearly that the thinker is not who you are."

lowercase I just googled him and that was the first thing I found. I keep reading it and I think I get it. I'm going to give meditation a try. My friend started a few months ago and she said the difference in her is amazing. She had a stress headache for days, no amount of painkillers would help, she meditated and it went almost instantly.

Thanks Flo, I could really go a Chinese but I better not risk it. Think I'm over it now but stomach is still a bit delicate.

Has anyone actually skipped recently btw? I spotted my skipping rope wrapped round my washing line earlier thanks to one if the girls.

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Loulybelle · 03/05/2013 21:32

I need to get a skipping rope, good exercise innit.

LittleEsme · 03/05/2013 21:36

My rope is wrapped and looking forlorn in my kit bag. I'm out of puff climbing the stairs and I have visions of my lung plopped out and gasping on my kitchen floor when I think of skipping.

I'm going for a long walk tomorrow with DD's on the advice of my doc. My chest is sounding good and is clearing nicely.

So - get ready ladies. The skipathon is on the horizon. LNM - unwrap that rope from your clothes line!

LittleEsme · 03/05/2013 21:38

Louly, then step this way, my friend. Step this way. I happen to know a rather good bit of kit for a very reasonable price. Linky anyone??? I'm a self-confessed technophobe.

Loulybelle · 03/05/2013 21:40

When i get one, gonna have to stash it away from DD, or that'll be on my washing line aswell.

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LoserNoMore · 03/05/2013 21:43

I'll sell you one loulybelle, 11p and it's yours.

Just kidding LittleEsme, I'm raring to go, honest. I did laugh at the thought of your lung on the floor. Glad you're feeling better.

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Loulybelle · 03/05/2013 21:47

ooooooo red, me likesy....

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LoserNoMore · 03/05/2013 21:48

You might not get red. I did but others got black and blue I think.

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Loulybelle · 03/05/2013 21:51

Meh, i just want a fun way of exercise,

i have on of these

I look like a drunk uncle dancing at a wedding on that thing.

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LoserNoMore · 03/05/2013 21:55

I had one of those, think its gathering dust in the shed.

The Shred is really good. It's on YouTube so doesn't cost anything. You won't be able to walk after the first few timed but it works.

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Loulybelle · 03/05/2013 21:57

Im gonna go and search that now.

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LoserNoMore · 03/05/2013 21:58

30 Day Shred, level 1. Enjoy Grin

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Loulybelle · 03/05/2013 22:13

I shall LNM, i'll be a hot mumma in no time lol xx

CabbageLeaves · 03/05/2013 22:28

Well my quiet evening has not been uneventful... Family stuff.

I agree that it's the rough stuff that forms you into a person who makes the most of what you have.

I really admire gutsy women. That's you lot

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LoserNoMore · 03/05/2013 23:40

Anyone up?

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Bessie123 · 03/05/2013 23:51

I'm up. Have been lurking on your 3 threads, I think you are amazing and your ex a complete wanker - can't believe what he has done to you.

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