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The train has departed Loserville - Next stop Happy Town.

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LoserNoMore · 23/04/2013 19:06

Just went to post on my other thread but it's full already!

I'll attempt to link it but I'm on my phone so probably won't work.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1726699-Last-train-to-Loserville-Part-2

Excuse the cheesy title, my brain won't work. Just going to read last few replies on old thread.

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LittleEsme · 30/04/2013 21:51

How are things LNM?

I hope you're ok.

JaxTellerIsAllMine · 01/05/2013 07:01

saf Im always leaving kisses - and then just before posting I delete.

Grin

LNM how are you doing my lovely?

CabbageLeaves · 01/05/2013 07:07

Overwhelmed ? I hope you come and have a little underwhelming with us :)

lazarusb · 01/05/2013 09:12

Hope yesterday went a little better? Thinking of you Smile

imtheonlyone · 01/05/2013 16:37

Hope you're ok Lnm? How are things?

Thanks
Areyoumadorisitme · 01/05/2013 19:10

Hi LNM, hope you're doing ok? Lots of us are thinking of you Thanks

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LoserNoMore · 01/05/2013 19:26

Ah thank you everyone for thinking of me. I've just been really down these past few days. Just when I think I've hit a low another one comes along even worse. I'm ok though, just been getting on with it at work. Doing what I can and if they don't like it then tough shit. Ex has the girls tonight, he asked if I was going out on the pull again Hmm Little does he know I think he's put me off men for life.

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themidwife · 01/05/2013 19:30

I hope you told him to mind his own business!!

Sorry you're feeling low today Sad

Loulybelle · 01/05/2013 19:32

Glad your ok LNM, he just cant stand it can he, idiot he is.

JaxTellerIsAllMine · 01/05/2013 19:34

he is jealous! What an utter idiot he is.

LNM - maybe it is midweek blues, I have had the day from clumsyville today, everything I have done has turned to shit. Puncture on car, which I couldnt sort myself, had to get RAC to 'rescue' me... then the tyre is absolutely shot inside, so a new one needed and because of the type of car I have it needs Allroad tyres, which only Pirelli make, and are phasing out, so it costing loads. Then cooking, nearly sliced my finger off this evening, went to close dining room window, knocked a vase and flowers off windowsill and it spilled all over me and wooden floor... I think an early night for me is in order.

Hope my crappy day has cheered you up. I just swore loudly at myself and nearly had a toddler tantrum. Grin

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LoserNoMore · 01/05/2013 19:43

Thanks, I'll be fine, us usual. Bloody have to be eh?!

Ouch, jax. Hate days like that, sometimes an early night is the safest bet, least you're out of harms way!

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Areyoumadorisitme · 01/05/2013 19:57

Hi again

Your "Do what you can and if that's not enough - tough shit" attitude to work is good. You're not actually superhuman even though at times you almost have to be. At the moment work comes lowest in your to-do/ to think about pile.

You are doing brilliantly, there are bound to be some shit phases and I'm sure you'll come out of it. Sorry I haven't got anything more constructive to day but thinking of you and hoping you get a good night's sleep and tomorrow is better.

Take care

JaxTellerIsAllMine · 01/05/2013 20:10

yeah, I was going to have a bath but I will just skip that part, dont want to end up in A&E! Grin

Just think, it is nearly the weekend, so get some nice plans in place.

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LoserNoMore · 01/05/2013 20:20

Thanks areyoumad, the work situation was really getting to me. There is nothing worse than a job that fills you with dread. Like yesterday, I had asked weeks ago to leave at 3.30pm for an opticians app. My boss emailed me at 3.15 with something urgent for me to do that took me 45 mins, like a mug I stayed and done it. Just made the appointment. I'm not doing it again.

That's the best way, Jax. If you're anything like me the bathroom is a dangerous place!

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Loulybelle · 01/05/2013 20:25

I can freak you all out and say i nearly always fall asleep in the bath.

swallowedAfly · 01/05/2013 20:47

well you are past hump day (wednesday) now lnm so it's downhill to the weekend and i hope it flies by. try and get an early night if i was you.

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LoserNoMore · 01/05/2013 21:20

That's so weird SAF, I have never in my life heard the phrase hump day until today and you are the 3rd person to say it today! Freaky.

I'm a nightmare for having an early night, I just think the sooner I go to bed the sooner I have to get up and go to Hell work.

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LittleEsme · 01/05/2013 21:44

LNM - I think that. As tired and as desperate I am to curl up with my hot water bottle, a part of me just knows that another day at work comes sooner.

I somehow 'knew' that you were having a tough couple of days - judging by your radio 'silence' that is. It's going to happen. I wish I could make it better for you.

((((hug))))

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LoserNoMore · 01/05/2013 22:00

Thanks LittleEsme . Hope you're feeling a bit better now Flowers

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CabbageLeaves · 02/05/2013 07:24

What Esme said ..

I wish I could wave a wand over work for you. I think coping with eejit ex. (predicted text makes that ejected...how true) is more than enough without work stress

swallowedAfly · 02/05/2013 07:33

rule of three. you'll remember it forever now Smile

i really appreciate what hell at work is like from the past. am lucky to be very happy and well treated (as in mostly left the hell alone tbh which kind of suits me) in this role but i had dreaded going back to work due to past experiences.

without stressing and making it a whole job in itself just casually keep glancing now and then through job sites and papers and see if anything jumps out at you. i kind of believe in opportunities coming to us when we are open to receiving them and looking expectantly for them to turn up. something perfect will come along i hope.

PyroclasticFlo · 02/05/2013 07:45

I'm with you on that SAF - if you ask for the right opportunity and really believe you deserve it and that it will come to you, it really will.

As 'woo' as it may sound LNM if you honestly ask someone 'up there' (even if you're atheist, it still works!) for help, ask them for the perfect job that is interesting and well paid and plays to your strengths and gives you what you need, you'll get it. Remember to say please and if you want to get really 'woo' I always say please send me a coincidence (like the 3 hump days, which we also say in our house incidentally!) or something that draws my attention and 'waves' at me so that I know to follow it, and remember to say thank you to them upstairs when it comes. It will.

So sorry to hear you've been feeling low, I'm not surprised, anyone would in your shoes. I hope today brings you something unexpectedly lovely and that you allow yourself to receive all the support that everyone here and in RL would like to give you. Flowers

swallowedAfly · 02/05/2013 07:49

i think half the battle is not jumping from the frying pan into the fire but waiting for the right opportunity to present itself. i had been offered a place on an MSc to take my counselling qualifications further and it all sounded good and everyone was all yeah great thing to do ra ra ra about it but i just had this niggling feeling that it wasn't the right move for me and after much wrangling turned it down without any clue of what i was going to do instead. the day after i turned it down i glanced through the job ads idly and this job was there with the most ridiculous job description that could have been tailor made for my ambling experiences both life and professional and that i was pretty sure no one else could fulfill all the criteria for. i'd never seen a job like it and without ascribing it to any woo factor it was as if it had been written for me.

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LoserNoMore · 02/05/2013 09:18

Flo, I'm always asking someone 'up there' for help, Grin it'll come one day!

Dd2 is off sick today :( but on the plus side, I get to stay at home. Dd on the sofa watching a movie and I am armed with cleaning products, stripped all the bed covers and ready to blitz the place. Be done cleaning for lunchtime and join dd on the sofa for the afternoon.

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lazarusb · 02/05/2013 09:20

I'm SAF too - gut instinct is there for a reason. I'm sorry that you're going through so much crap at the same time. I'm sorry the people you work with seem to be completely devoid of empathy and basic human emotion. As for your ex, I'm a bit sorry that there wasn't a long line of men at your door ready to spend the evening shagging you & making you feel nice (IFYSWIM?!). He really is an entitled twat. Don't let him put you off men forever - there are some nice ones out there when the time is right!