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The train has departed Loserville - Next stop Happy Town.

996 replies

LoserNoMore · 23/04/2013 19:06

Just went to post on my other thread but it's full already!

I'll attempt to link it but I'm on my phone so probably won't work.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1726699-Last-train-to-Loserville-Part-2

Excuse the cheesy title, my brain won't work. Just going to read last few replies on old thread.

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ScarletWomanoftheVillage · 28/04/2013 15:58

He's got a cheek! How he has the audacity to question whether you went home alone etc just beggars belief.

Stock phrase that is going to come in useful many, many times...

"It's nothing to do with you."

What an utter tool.

themidwife · 28/04/2013 16:03

The worm has turned eh LNM?!!
What an absolute cheek to be miffed that you went out & got chatted up on your birthday! Shock

DuchessFanny · 28/04/2013 16:10

De lurking to say I don't think I've ever been do pleased to hear someone went out dancing, drinking and getting chatted up !

Hooray for LNM !!

You're doing brilliantly .... Can I ask , did it feel a little bit good to see him jealous ? Grin

CabbageLeaves · 28/04/2013 16:17

A pretty low sort of person who destroys your family then begrudges you a night out.

I think you were a) not supposed to kick him out b) supposed to stay indoors weeping c) gratefully take him back or just be an occasional lay (I have seen this

Xales · 28/04/2013 16:18

You rock!

He is a twat. Seems your text re him letting down your girls because he was out with OW must have gone astray as it would be rather hypocritical of him to ask you what you did with whom otherwise!!!

Wait for the rewriting of history that you were messing around before now...

lazarusb · 28/04/2013 16:27

Ha ha! I think he expected you to spend your day indoors, dressed in mourning, crying into your tea. You are one hell of a woman! Good for you. I hope it felt good that he was jealous, it's made my day and I don't know either of you! Seems like being a knob will be his consistent setting from now.

Uppatreecuppatea · 28/04/2013 16:38

LNM - I've lurked from your first post. Think I am a tiny bit in love with your mojo!

You are an example of strength to all women.

Keep strong! There are so many of out 'there' who are rooting for you.

I'm a fan. Wish you were my friend.

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LoserNoMore · 28/04/2013 16:42

Ah thank you uppatree, that's so nice. Can never have too many friends.

Silly me eh, I should be letting him move back in by now, not going on nights out and having a good time.

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Areyoumadorisitme · 28/04/2013 16:50

How amusing! Was it just a little bit satisfying the fact that he is clearly jealous?! Haha, serves him right.

Still sorry you are going through all this but you are handling it brilliantly.

whitesugar · 28/04/2013 16:53

Well done LNM!! Total legend. You really are a great example to your girls and to the rest of us mums. I know it can't be easy for you dealing with this and there are no doubt a lot of low times at the moment. At least you can walk about with your head held high and be very proud of yourself. You have more balls than any bloke I have ever met. Look after yourself x

overtheraenbow · 28/04/2013 16:58

Lmn your text from ex twat had me laughing too as my ex called MEa hypocrite this weekend too, I did message back to say ' that's rich coming from you '

Change2013 · 28/04/2013 17:03

Another fan here, you are a fantastic inspiration and what a fool he is and I'm sure he is realising it now. I know things can't have been easy but so pleased you had a good birthday.

JaxTellerIsAllMine · 28/04/2013 17:49

I love your updates! Grin Brilliant, glad you had a good time with friends.

What a dickhead - asking you 20 questions! I hope you had a massive grin on your face when you made your retort.

Enjoy your foot spa and chocs, good for hangovers and sore dancing feet.

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LoserNoMore · 28/04/2013 17:59

Ah thanks everyone.

I did have a smile on my face when he was questioning me, it felt good! It'll be killing him not knowing. Oh but he did say remember word gets about, I'll hear what you get up to. Hmm Sad git!

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Loulybelle · 28/04/2013 18:06

Omg!!!!! LNM, you better stay indoors, incase one sad git tells another sad git that your nice and happy.

AndTheBandPlayedOn · 28/04/2013 18:14

Ha ha ha ha, I am so glad you had a fantastic birthday, LNM.
So he is finally thinking about you now, like you suddenly exist.

Brilliant response, too. You are an adult, acting like an adult. Something he probably won't ever quite "get".

If he comes back again (and I'm guessing he will because of the implied insult) with the "Not wasting any time" phrase: How many years were you married to him? That's enough time wasted.

Put that day in the bank, LMN. You can get along of mileage off of that one. [Grin]

cjel · 28/04/2013 18:15

Perhaps he s only just realised it all gets out!! trouble is it doesn't matter now You can do what you want!!!!

AndTheBandPlayedOn · 28/04/2013 18:18

X-post
Grin
It doesn't matter if he knows or not, it is still none of his business. Wink

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LoserNoMore · 28/04/2013 18:24

Yeah it's funny how he's suddenly taking such an interest in me when he went AWOL a few weeks ago and didn't give me a second thought. It's a bit late now to be interested what I'm doing. Eejit.

Well I've got my feet in the foot spa, chocolates are open and me and the dd's are just going to watch Ashley Banjo I think I have an obsession with this man

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Fairenuff · 28/04/2013 18:42

"Yeah you're right, word sure got out that I'm available now" said with big smile on face, would be the perfect response methinks Grin

lazarusb · 28/04/2013 19:00

Amazing! He saw you as a wife rather than the confident, attractive woman you are. He can't stand that other men can see that, or that you can be happy without him. I hope his ears burn off with all the gossip about what a catch you are!

ScarletWomanoftheVillage · 28/04/2013 19:27

Oh but he did say remember word gets about, I'll hear what you get up to.

He seems to be mistaking you for someone who gives a shit.

Twat.

Loulybelle · 28/04/2013 19:29

I wonder what he'd say if LNM was seen snogging some gorgeous, tall, dark and handsome guy, i'd pay to see his face tbh.

PyroclasticFlo · 28/04/2013 19:36

I've got a great big grin on my face reading your updates LNM, I'm so glad you had such a fantastic birthday and that ex is so jealous, bloody good for you! Enjoy your foot spa and chocolates and snuggles on the sofa with your lovely DDs, you really are an inspiration to us all Grin

LittleEsme · 28/04/2013 20:23

Ah Birthday Girl! Long time no speak. How's the head?!
I've had a catch up today - been thinking of you during my somewhat unexpected extended stay in hospital. Gutted that you had to see what you did, but I suppose it keeps a razor-edged sharpness to your focus. He truly is a tool of the highest order.

Anyway, enjoy your pamper session with the girls. I'm chuffed to bits that you went out last night and snorted out loud when you posted that you were put to bed, fully clothed at 9. Grin

Happy Birthday LNM. Thanks