The train has departed Loserville - Next stop Happy Town.

[LoserNoMore]

Just went to post on my other thread but it's full already!

I'll attempt to link it but I'm on my phone so probably won't work.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1726699-Last-train-to-Loserville-Part-2

Excuse the cheesy title, my brain won't work. Just going to read last few replies on old thread.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOUOOOOOOO!

Pamper yourself today, go get your hair/nailes/feet done. Buy a huge cake and get some friends together for your day. Go out for dinner and drinks and have a laugh.

good things to do on your own include: cinema, shopping, hair/beauty/whatever treatments, turkish baths type affairs - have a swim, sauna, jacuzzi etc.

will try to think of more.

but i do think you should treat yourself to doing something.

i'm having a hot stones massage next friday on my day off as my back has been sore for ages and i never treat myself to anything like that (i also found out i get it half price through work).

Happy birthday LNM

Happy Birthday LNM

Hope you managed to sleep ok and that you do something for YOU today!

Thanks for the birthday wishes.

Don't know what to do today. Probably best to start with a gallon of water!

Dd's called me about 8am to wish me happy birthday. They told me they're going shopping for my present today, bless them.

I'm not bothered spending the day on my own, it's only a birthday.

Right, none of this. What do you like doing and eating? Your mission is to do it and eat it by midnight tonight.

Happy Birthday LNM.

I overdid the food and vodka last night. quarter to 2, honking me guts up.

Happy birthday x

De lurking to say

Happy birthday to you
Happy birthday to you
Happy birthday to LNM
Happy birthday to you

Hope you have a relaxing day.

I think u shud watch magic mike to cheer yourself along ;-) with Pringles and red red wine! X

Happy Birthday
I hate celebrating mine so I usually slope off alone to the shops, buy calorific treats for lunch from M&S, new PJ's whether I need them or not and a new book.
Return home, run naice bath, dress in new PJ's, open book and graze on treats. Birthday perfection

Happy birthday LNM

Have a wonderful day and treat yourself to whatever you love and don't give yourself a hard time over anything, just for one day at least!

Maybe you could make a list of all the things you want to do for yourself in the coming year (that ex didn't like / didn't let you do / that you've never had time for) or write about how you'd like your life to be by your next birthday? I always try and mark my birthday like that, doing something positive, seeing how far I've come, giving myself a pat on the back for doing something no matter how small. YOu've done something truly AMAZING this year - imagine how this next year of your life could pan out?! Onwards and upwards, and be kind to yourself, you deserve it xx

Happy Birthday Please try & do something nice for yourself - you deserve it

Happy Birthday from across the pond, LNM.
I imagine you should ignore his birthday, whenever that is...but it would be fun to design the "his shit hat on his head" hat and give it to him without explanation.

Order something for yourself from Amazon. Did you get the new linens for your bed yet? Egyptian cotton.

Hope you're having a good day to yourself. For all your twatty ex knows, you could be getting pampered ready for a hot date later...

Happy Birthday!

I agree that EOW access is probably fair for both of you and midweek if he can. XH originally had DD every Sunday as she was only 4, but I hated never having a Sunday with her. Now I have two whole days with her, then he has her the following weekend 10am Sat to 6pm Sunday. I love having a whole weekend with her where i don't have to think about him turning up. He dropped EOW Friday nights due to work and has also dropped midweek access due to work. He won't have her in the holidays due to work. Childcare, holidays etc are all my problem not his and there is nothing I can do about it.

There is nothing I can do to make him a better parent. He keeps bleating on about how he does the best he can for his DD but in reality his best doesn't amount to any more than that.

Your X will possibly go down the same road and see less and less of them as time goes by. You deserve quality time with your DC as well as him so don't let him get what he wants. And if he lets them down then they will sadly get used to it and as they grow up they will learn to expect less from him.

If you can't agree on access then you may be able to sort it through mediation.

Well I'm under strict instructions via a text from friend to meet her in the pub at 2.30. If I don't go she'll never speak to me again. Hair of the dog it is then!

good! go and enjoy yourself

definitely might be a day to bother with your appearance. anyone who sees you can confirm you're looking well thanks gossip pants.

Yeah! And what SaF says

Have fun

Some weekends I doss around looking like a bag lady and others I do hair, make-up, matching nice undies, (even if its jeans and working in the garden sort of day). It's all about how you feel. I rarely regret looking nice. I have regretted looking unkempt ...at the supermarket bumping into absolutely everyone I know!

Yeah, I'm on the case, I've even shaved my legs. Just as well I bought some new clothes yesterday, I've lost 12 lbs since he left! Stress diet really works.

i bet you're looking great. go out and enjoy yourself and show the world you're not curled up in a ball crying to have him back.

woohoo! to the pub!

Wear your new clothes, make sure you feel good, look good and have a fab time. And do eat something too. Boozing on an empty tum = a short day boozing and pukesville.