I am 36 and have one ds of 17 months. I have left this motherhood think late but LOVE it and now passionately want a decent sized family. Ds pregnancy was perfect but his birth was extremely traumatic, due to hie, meconium aspiration and born flat and had to be hypothermically cooled for 72 hours and separated from me for 10 days in an incubator. He is now the nicest toddler you would like to meet, and has come through pretty much unscathed, apart from some high frequency hearing loss, for which he will need a hearing aid.
I would love another child, by my relationship with my dh has deteriorated quite badly - I think through lack of sleep on my part, lack of time to spend together, we have always been a bit argumentative (but never in front of ds). He also has problems showing me emotion and sleeps in a loft room (never in my bed) this is largely his choice, but it also works with cosleeping. He uses the fact I would like another baby against me in an argument and says 'but we never sleep together' (his choice)
I feel torn. Part of me feels I should leave and start again, plan an escape strategy and cut my loses, but what if I don't meet anyone else before age 40.... Also I don't like the complexity involved in two different fathers if I can avoid it (though I know loads of people make it work well).
Has anyone experienced this. How did they get through it?