Dating thread no 51

[JulietteMontague]

All tales of online and real life dating here!

Have just Google 'neotantra' ... How'd he slip that into the conversation?

Ike pack a flask and sandwiches, not only does it go on for a long time Wikipedia says there is an instructional video to watch

oh its on his profile along with all sorts of other hippy dippy shit and his cunnilinguistic abilities...whatevs....eh! Seems like quite a sweet guy though...

Oh Christ....I am really a strictly mish kinda gal and the quicker the better too what with my propensity towards cystitis and thrush.....

God knows what chaffing might occur...

I always get the feeling that tantric sex would be a bit dull, you'd be arsing about for a couple of hours doing all that breathing stuff, secretly thinking ' Get a bloody move on, I want cod and chips and BGT's on in fifteen minutes '

That's it Kin ....exactly....let's cut to the chase....go for gold and have a nice cuppa...

Poor old Trudy Styler, no wonder she always looks a bit miserable, she's had that lute playing twonk rutting away at her for hours.

yeah they absolutely deserve each other those two, really!

'Not a-bloody-gain, Gordon'

Kin speaking from personal experience with a alleged tantra-ist, it was mind-numbingly dull. I mentally wrote whole shopping lists, planned my packing for holidays etc. At certain points I thought it might actually go on forever (and not in a good way!)

I think there's a school of thought, for some men, Velvet, that going on for longer equates to being sexually skilful, whereas in fact it just gets a bit tedious after a while, I have occasionally thought ' will you just stop mucking about and get on with it ' - ah the heady romance of it all.

Kin that sounds about right. He was in his mid-40s (I was mid-20s at the time). I did think that he should've made more effort but with hindsight he probably was.

Scary thought that he is in his 60s now...I doubt his technique has improved!

Good morning thread!

My closest friends don't have children so I thought you'd be the best people to ask what I should do: date 7 with Mr Coach on Wednesday and his team are playing their biggest game to date on Sunday. He's put two tickets aside for me for that one but ds and two of his mates, all of whom love & play rugby, want to go to it. Pretty much no chance of meeting / introductions but times when I've gone, I've bumped into Mr Coach's boss and colleagues - all very nice to me, etc - and it feels weird... I am concerned about bringing the most important part of my life into this (ok, it's just a game!) but also people making assumptions about me being overly keen or us being 'serious' based on the fact that I've brought ds to the game... am I making any sense at all?

I already felt quite uncomfortable having coffee with Mr Coach and his peers / team after my lecture yesterday... I still haven't worked out whether it's due to him bringing me into his social and work circle or me worried about my own reputation when it was him texting me asking me to come down and say 'hello' before going home...

Have a great day everyone!!! xx

Quick answer Stella. How you feel is important, if you feel he is rushing you into a full blown relationship and you are not ready then don't keep doing everything he is asking. It might be that you are not ready or it might be that you are not that keen and he is.

If you were keen you might be delighted that he is including you and DS. Maybe someone else will have better advice. I don't have DC's anymore but was never shy of including them if I met someone I liked, mainly because I wouldn't have had chance to build a relationship up any other way. I don't think she has be scarred .

Were none of you mumsnetters tempted by my looking for a date thread?
I was totally underwhelmed by the response.
Perhaps I didn't sell myself well enough.
Perhaps I won't mention the seven kids by different mums next time.

Stella if you don't feel comfortable, you don't.

A bit concerned you feel you need to worry about your reputation, is this an inbuilt thing to do with being a naice girl/watching too many US college movies or something to do with not feeling particularly 'secure' that he is on the level?

Do just what you want to do, fwiw I don't think his colleagues would think anything at all, thit's not going to be their focus, they are there for the game.

Hello everyone! A couple of quiet days from me due to being busy with children and work, but I've been lurking and reading when I've had a moment.

Well done Lubey - looks like you have well and truly cracked it. Fantastic stuff.

Stella if you're not comfortable with it, don't do it. There's no need to rush things and if you don't want to be part of his wider life at the moment then that's fine.

Ike you are getting some real hippy types at the moment. Not sure if I would meet this one, the tantric stuff would put me off a bit.

Nora how's the Showbiz texting going? I quite like him from your descriptions. How are you feeling about him now?

Well, I have one engineer fewer. This one was being a real pest, angling towards sex talk but I wasn't going to do it with some random off the internet and logged off. Then the next morning I woke up to a text from him apologising for his message and saying he was a bit drunk when he wrote it but just being honest. I thought it would be a load of pervy nonsense but actually it was a bit of a rant calling me conventional and boring, too encumbered with responsibilities and he couldn't see it going anywhere. Charming. As if I am going to want things to go anywhere with someone who starts name calling and abuse when he's drunk or doesn't get his own way. Narrow escape there I think but glad he showed his true colours.

In danger of needing CrashCarp with regard to MrIndie who on paper is very much my cup of tea (and me his). We write lovely long messages to each other, seem to have a fair bit in common and a similar set-up with regard to work and children, which is good, as he understands that I need to plan things a bit and can't do all the spontaneous weekend away stuff that other people can. He wants to meet! Hooray!! It is so easy to get a little bit carried away sometimes so meeting soon would be good. But he could really be a possibility. Keep your fingers crossed for me.

Not very excited about pending date with Rick (Thursday) but will go - you never know!

Still chatting with the Italian who is back in Italy next week, might actually meet up with him when he's back here if things don't click with the other ones.

My car broke down again this morning. Damn thing

Managed to get it to my mechanic. He is going to give me a lesson on water and oil levels

Fingers crossed I get it back today. No work/money without it.

Hi everyone! After my divorce last November I'm ready to jump back into it all. I'm bored as hell! And seeing as the divorce was at my instigation after two years of dithering I'm not having the super long mourning period.

A friend I mine convinced me to sign up for Plenty of Fish two days ago. Being a plump (that's kind) almost forth year old woman I've been surprised at how many men I'm getting interest from. Never having done Internet dating before, I'm quite skeptical that it's just of the "let's hook up" variety of interest. Although I'm messaging with one man who seems real and we have a lot in common. We'll see how it goes if we meet.

Ah well. I don't have many people to talk about this with, and I suddenly remembered this thread and thought I must join it!

*forty

MrIndie sounds a real possibilty OWW everything crossed for you

Yes you might as well meet Rick. Lucky escape from the other wanker.

OWW the mere mention of Rick, the gift that keeps on giving. In my head already

What a total knobber other engineer was, how dare he. Good he revealed himself early, were there any other signs before that? Twat. Onwards to Mr Indie

Welcome Raffaella have you checked out 'the rules' at the beginning of the thread? very helpful

I had my first long, long Skype (messaging only) with Dutch last night, his personality and sense of humour is coming out more now. All good. I really want to see what he looks like on cam now.

48 hope your car gets well soon.

Welcome Rafaella! The rules are really helpful but I am not good at keeping to all of them, especially the investing too soon. This thread is great for just chatting, letting off steam, getting advice and loads of brilliant support.

Juliette ooh sounds good with Dutch! But what are you going to do if you really like him? I jib at anything more than twenty miles or so away so you're playing in a different league here.

KnobberEngineer had seemed okay beforehand, maybe a little brusque sometimes but it can be easy to misinterpret tone when you're messaging and texting. So glad he outed himself before it went any further.

I do like MrIndie, he is ticking a lot of boxes for me, and he likes me too. I am stopping myself here from typing a load of stuff about him in a silly teenagerish fashion.

Morning all!

Still talking to GoodLooking. In fact I met him for a few minutes last night. He was at a friends round the corner and he met me in street with a few cigs as I was gagging

He is in fact as good looking in real life as in pictures! No awkwardness as we spoke and think might be seeing him tonight depending on if my toddlers dad has him.

Still getting strange messages from strange men. No decent messages at all fir past couple of days.