Dating thread no 51

[JulietteMontague]

All tales of online and real life dating here!

what does the KW stand for, Kirsty?

Morning all
OWW hope are you ok? it is surprising how unsettling it can be. Generally these are the people we would avoid sitting next to on a bus yet there we are having a drink with them.

Exactly Juliette - would have made a wide berth around him if I'd seen him anywhere irl. Just something not quite right about him, difficult to put your finger on, but I wouldn't have gone anywhere on my own with him or got into his car. Very lacking in social skills. I've never had anyone actually ask me if I like them let alone after five minutes.

Will just put it behind me and I know it's one I will laugh about in future. No harm done.

Bant KW is me!!

I got a message in the middle of the night from someone who looked like a serial killer .. Gave me the creeps and I felt quite unnerved .. I can imagine that is how you are feeling OWW

Remember the persistent surgeon from last year .. Hadn't met but he kept phoning me and when I didn't answer my phone he emailed me , texted and sent me a POF message within 5 mins? He emailed me yesterday to say sorry he was a bit full on .. Can we build up a rapport again by email ?? Eh no!! Now in junk folder

I think I will call him Kiltykilty instead .. He seems really quite lovely

does he have two kilts?

Ooh Kirsty sounds good! Is he coming to yours on Sunday?

He is coming to mine on Sunday afternoon . I'm not sure if he really knows what he's letting himself in for ( although I have tried to warn him)

I've never had a thanks but no thanks, prefer to be ignored or fobbed off.

Mercury, you can eat on fast days. I have a banana mid morning, couple of slices of low fat ham with cherry toms and cucumber, bit of lettuce (OK splurge of low fat salad cream). A 25 cal cup a soup in the afternoon. Weight watchers soup for tea and a low cal biscuit later. Drink tea with skimmed or green tea. This is a typical fast day. It keeps me going when I feel faint and has worked OK for me.

So, I am going to Dutchlandia on Wednesday. Vair, vair excited

I had a "Thanks but you're not what I'm looking for" and I didn't like it at all. Would prefer something like "I'm looking for someone more local" or whatever, or just nothing.

Wednesday Juliette??! As in six days? Blooming heck missis that's fast work! How very exciting. What's the plan?

That is very exciting Juliette :)

OWW agree I wouldn't like a thanks but no thanks. I've had one and it pissed me off even though it was perfectly polite.

I'm flying early morning, its a couple of hours from the airport and he's picking me up. Hopefully breakfast then who knows! I haven't booked the flight back yet but I'm planning on staying until Saturday. We've skyped every day, he's thoughtful, does exactly what he says he's going to do, and I get butterflies. I'm conscious that skyping can be quite intense and might give a false sense of connection in a sort of cyber bubble but the only way to find out if it could be more than friendship is to do it. I am counting the sleeps

Scrazy, ah OK, but then strictly speaking it's not fasting:o
No matter, I guess the underlying principle is that some days you are in calorie deficit and some days you arent.

I tend to eat according to appetite but in practise that means pretty much eating the same amount every day.
I like to train/exercise on an empty stomach and so do frequently not eat for around 15 hours.
I find that hunger (for me) is alot to do with the body expecting to be fed at certain times.

Sorry that was way off topic, I have no dating news, I still have the same two ongoing arrangements, neither of which is entirely satisfactory, but I'm hopeful that things will improve:o

Very exciting Julliette, and quite 'fairytale' :o
you're surely seeing glittery sparkles in the air :o

I have a very silly grin on my face every time we chat, not at all cool. He is no better, lots of blushing on both sides, lots of giggling. I should probably have the fish, but right now I'm just enjoying it.

sounds great and isnt it good having skype to facilitate these sort of things!

How long until we have a kind of hologram version of skype so you can sort of project the other person onto your sofa?

Thanks for the cool points Bant

So the general consensus is ignore rather than politely reject. Yeah, I would much rather just be ignored myself, so I will do that.

Have had an interesting reply from the man I messaged last night, and want to send him a photo . Is there anyway I can do this on OKC? Is it only via IM? Or shall I stop being a tosser and just put my pictures on my profile.

Dutchlandia sounds very exciting Juliette, Skype gives you much more of an impression than just pics, so to still have butterflies is most promising.

Sorry you still feel unsettled OWW, I like the sound of Indie as he just seems normal and decent. I've got a lot of time for normal and decent folk.

Juliette . I look forward to the updates, hope it turns out to be wonderful.

Mercury, the 'fast' days are 500 cals, so it's not fasting in that sense. Anything happening with the one who wants more? My on going thing has been going on a few years now. Oh well it is what it is and is satisfactory until something happens and I get the hump.

Hey yes I would say put your picture up. If you don't like how it goes, you can always take it down again, nothing to be afraid of. The problem with withholding your picture is that there are lots of vanishers and you risk the idea that they don't reply because they don't like your photo when they would have vanished anyway.

Why do you worry about the picture, are you worried someone will recognise you at work or something?

I've been online dating forever, and haven't had butterflies even once so yes, promising. tbh I wouldn't do it if I didn't think this was worth finding out about.

It sounds really promising Juliette and very exciting. I love thinking of you both blushing and giggling, sounds just great.

Hey publish and be damned, just get your picture up on there. I know it can feel like you're really putting yourself out there when you do that, but I think otherwise it's going to make things a bit more difficult than they need be.

Indie is nice and normal-ish (I think), keeping my fingers crossed about babysitting for Sunday! I am getting a bit of butterflies about this. Funny, I didn't have any butterflies or nerves at all about the Italian! All quiet on that front today!

I go to work for the day and look what happens, Juliette reveals her plans to see Dutchy and OWW is getting butterflies about Indie. I think the way this thread is heading, I shall soon be sitting here by myself with some cats and a crocheted blanket over my knees.

Hey bite the bullet and put your photo up, it'll be fine, at first I lived in terror of someone recognising me while I was out and about or at work, now I couldn't give a toss, they can go fudge themselves.

Jule I am in awe of your go getting 'tude!

ARGH after an hour of panicking I have just put up my photo! .

This is a big deal for me, I have major shyness / self image / face hating issues. Eek! Thanks ladies for your wise words.

I am currently in terror mode kin, but am looking forward to reaching your non-toss giving mode .

Need to go and breathe calmly somewhere.