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Last train to Loserville Part 2

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LoserNoMore · 07/04/2013 21:55

After the overwhelming support I've received on my thread I had to start another. Well I didn't have to but I have found all the advice so helpful that even if I only receive one more piece it will help.

I'll try and post the link to the full sorry story. Never linked on my phone before so it may not work.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1722750-This-doesnt-look-good-does-it?pg=40&order=

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mrssmartarse · 15/04/2013 14:26

Sorry about the hijack lnm I've taken a leaf out of your book and I'm taking the high road, I've just packed up all his stuff and dropped it off at his mums! Angry
I took a photo of his phone last night, printed it off and pinned it to the top of his bags Confused

I hope your head is ok? Have you got any arnica I find it really great for bruising?

If only the did a cream for broken hearts eh? Sad Xx

Fluffycloudland77 · 15/04/2013 14:44

When one of Dh's freinds was cheating he used to save the ow number as my dh.

Although how she convinced herself my dh texts at midnight asking if he wants to come out and play.

Predictable, aren't they?

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LoserNoMore · 15/04/2013 15:15

Well done mrss, have you spoken to him at all about it?

My heads ok, a bit sore but I'll live.

They think they are so clever don't they fluffy? They may be able to pull the wool over our eyes for so long but they'll always get caught out.

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dawntigga · 15/04/2013 16:24

Isn't the cream for broken hearts Ben and Jerry's Ice Cream? Wink

TryingToBeFunnyTiggaxx

JaxTellerIsAllMine · 15/04/2013 16:27

Ben&Jerrys Choc fudge brownie is the best cream for broken hearts. Wink

Dawntigga is correct.

MrsS & LNM - pair of dickheads. Is there a collective name for these men? Y'know, a gaggle of geese, a flock of birds - a bunch of twunts?Angry

themidwife · 15/04/2013 16:29

A toss of twunts?!!

Mrs has he given you any excuses?

lazarusb · 15/04/2013 17:29

MrsS - Sorry to hear your discovery. I read it this morning but I've been fuming about it all day. One more pathetic Twunt for the toss Angry Well done on your strength & courage too, it isn't easy. I just don't know what I'd do if I found a text like that on dh's phone. But I hope I'd follow in yours & LNM's shoes.

LNM - Please take it easy tonight, nice easy dinner and a laze in front of the tv?

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LoserNoMore · 15/04/2013 17:36

That's the plan Lazarus. If a certain dick doesn't stop raising my blood pressure.

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lazarusb · 15/04/2013 18:30

Ah...is it because he managed all by his little self ALL weekend with your dds? Has that not been enough to completely change your mind and forgive him? Did you not realise what an amazing person he is really is deep, deep down...

The thing about dicks is, we don't need them! There only useful for a relatively short period of time anyway and even that is dependent on certain conditions...I do hope you can find a bit of peace & quiet tonight.

Loulybelle · 15/04/2013 18:37

Men used to be such kind creatures, what bastard told them that disrespecting for wife/partner was acceptable.

Jux · 15/04/2013 18:47

A pizzle of pillocks?

CabbageLeaves · 15/04/2013 19:01

A pile of pricks?

CabbageLeaves · 15/04/2013 19:03

Loulybelle I think men and women are capable of bad things. It's a shame when they don't find each other but find a decent good person to exploit instead

onefewernow · 15/04/2013 19:07

They always get caught.

Yes, that is the weird thing. They always do, eventually. My h, to my shame as well as his, cheated on me for over 5 years online and always managed to explain away anything I found from time to time. Until he didn't. Even fools like me, blinded by technology and fooled by trust, wake up eventually.

I can't see why they don't predict it.

Loulybelle · 15/04/2013 19:26

Cabbage, shame they dont find each other. i might start a website called
"Cheaterslovematch.com"

Loulybelle · 15/04/2013 19:28

Are you a man or woman?
Are you a liar and a cheat?
Do you suck the life out of decent people just because you can?

Then sign up to CheatersLoveMatch to find your perfect person, and cheater and use each other for life.

mrssmartarse · 15/04/2013 19:53

Not spoke to him at all, he's not txt or called. Pathetic arse, he's got no excuse for it & probably a massive hangover! Hmm so I won't hear from him until it suits? Dc asked where he is and I'm just leaving it as working at the moment tbh he works away a lot or is shagging his ow a lot so they are neither up nor down with it?

Lnm I've seriously got the rage Angry how do u cope with the anger? Wine X

JaxTellerIsAllMine · 15/04/2013 20:01

I think until you roar get some answers you will have the rage. Sad

It would bother me to the point of distraction if I had found a text like you or LNM did and could get any answers. I would be blowing a gasket. Well, thats what I think I would do. But honestly, when I am very very angry I am icy cool. THAT is when DH/family know a line has been crossed and I am not to be fucked over!

You know I am so angry for both of you.

I like a toss of twunts - more like couldnt give a toss. Grrrrr.

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LoserNoMore · 15/04/2013 20:06

Lazarus, I think that's it exactly. I meant to be swept away with his total devotion to dd's and fall in love with him all over again. Aye right.

Not sure I am coping with it mrss, just need to channel the rage into something else.

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mrssmartarse · 15/04/2013 20:08

Jax I expected I would have put my Dcs bat through his head Confused but lnms attitude of moral high ground and Dc first has actually been a total inspiration and is all I'm focusing on Thanks

I think a murder of twunts maybe? X

cjel · 15/04/2013 20:16

I didn't have rage, just sorrow. But I have done everything I can to assist him as I can recognise a broken man who is out of control( loads of other stuff going on for him) I've left and don't want anything to do with him but somehow am filled with compassion for him. Haven't seen him for 8 months and don't need to but just feel sorry for him!! Am I weird?

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LoserNoMore · 15/04/2013 20:20

I don't think that's weird cjel.

At this moment I hate him, I love him, I pity him. Hopefully the love but will die soon and all I'll feel is... I don't know, a tiny part of me will always live him, that's the hardest part. I'll live the person I married, the person he was. He must still be in there somewhere.

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Original poster
LoserNoMore · 15/04/2013 20:21

*love not live

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cjel · 15/04/2013 20:25

Yes I think thats right. I do still love him but now is as a dear old friend who has been badly scared by life and trying his best to cope - not my husband and lover. It doesn't make sense to me as hes a EA and Da idiot who cheats but there it is!!

MummyIsMagic79 · 15/04/2013 20:28

LNM

I have the utmost admiration for you. I discovered my H's horrific infidelity in November last year. I was 34 weeks pregnant and OW was one of my best friends. I still see her every day at school runs. I wasn't brave enough to have left, or made him leave. We are together, but its not plain sailing at all. I don't trust him, and am broken inside.

You are an inspiration.

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