Dating Thread 50 .....

[TigsytheTiger]

celebrating half a century of dating chit chat, all welcome ...

Juliette,

He's playing along with what you said, you said you don't give out your number, so he's given you his so you can 141 and call him.

He may be secretly concerned you're a truck driver called Kevin, he may have had a date before where someone sounded like pat butcher or tweety pie, and he wants to avoid that again.

To be honest, refusing to talk on the phone, whilst understandable, could be seen by some as a red flag. I've spoken to people before and just gone off them because if their voice or accent (pat butcher doesn't do it for me) so meeting them in person would have been a failure.

I say call him. You may hate his voice and realise its not worth it. Surely better to find out now?

Juliette, heks either a bit dense or a bit control-ly. I'd be slightly wary of either.

I have had 2 texts and a whatsapp so far today, my phone is almost aflame with activity. None from C of course. I suspect I have jinxed it by looking at my phone earlier and willing a text to appear but not specifying the sender

Meeting Mr R&R at my horses field after work. He is going to repair my shed roof. This is a new development, offering to do DIY for me

Then back to his for food, bath, new undies and love sex

48 - I am jealous. A man that does DIY and all the rest!

Juliet - I like bants take on it. Sounds like the sensible option to me. I hate the phonecall thing too but I suppose it cuts out the bad date scenario. I will defo do the call thing if a man is ever remotely interested in me ever again!!

Cookies are a bit delish! Must stop eating them or I won't be able to fit out of my door!!

That's my problem, I think if the situation were reversed I would be very wary. The yellow flag is because I think he has chosen to misunderstand as he is insisting on talking first which could be controlling or entitled or simply a reasonable request.

I also have double standards, I suspect he wants to hear if I'm Pat Butcher as he looks classic Posh Boy from Kensington, and I get that because if he spoke like Sid James I would run too. I think because of the previous interviewing I went through with the 'have you got a British passport' etc I am feeling a bit defensive (literally). I will park it and call and be nice.

As you know, I blocked Wanky Irish Bloke over this kind of malarkey, I am also hugely stubborn and someone attempting to make me do something I don't want to do would put my back right up but I fully accept you're all way more reasonable than me ...

Tom Hardy is on POF! He messaged me under a different name obviously. He types in broken English too but they are his pics. Obviously has to be him

If only!

Kin I'm fine too until I'm pushed. I'm irrationally irritated already. I'll get some pictures of tiny cute puppies to look at whilst I call

Well, I have got a very forward one on Match! I contacted him before Easter, first message he suggested a drink, I messaged back about a week later and ignored suggestion about drink, just had another message asking if I would like to meet next week complete with mobile number. Is this a bit much a bit soon? Or should I just do it, sod it there's no-one else banging on my door?

Apart from

1 the Engineer (back again in apologetic mode but still ringing LM-type alarm bells. Being busy with your family and work is actually quite normal but LM had so many excuses for everything using these reasons that it makes my teeth itch as soon as anyone says this sort of thing. And then I go and say it myself)

2 the Italian (who is an engineer)

3 another engineer who I think works at the same place as the Italian engineer

4 the property developer

5 the one I thought was promising who has totally changed his profile so that it is now the work of a deluded fool (age has changed from 40 to 32, he has four racehorses and is looking for a laydee with nice teeth and nails)

6 a grandpa who wants to take me to happy hour at Wetherspoons

7 Cakey (still looking at my profile)

8 another cage fighting fan, also younger, also an engineer

9 various assorted odds and sods (even odder and sodder than the above).

Blimey. Living the dating dream here.

Thank god you've said that Juliette, I thought it was just me being a git like my mother always claims anecdote

What is it with bloody engineers? I have checked my profile very carefully and nowhere is there anything that could be taken as code for "I desperately want to shag an engineer".

Is your portfolio the cast of a particularly dodgy sitcom OWW ?

Or indeed 'antidote'. FFS.

My life is like a dodgy sitcom, Nora

Have caught up at last, my 'saved' button wasn't helping by not saving, so I had to keep recapping to find where I was before proceeding.

Work has got better, and in any case haven't heard back from my job applications

Lab is easy going, I am having fun, not thinking past each time we meet up helps me not to get too scared.

His wagging tail does indeed knock everything off my Coffee table Kin .

Below is evidence of my having read the 26 preceding pages:

Lubey well done non-smoker, I am impressed, you are doing great, keep going.

Miranda It may take a little while before having MrNice over will feel ordinary, but I am sure that it will soon enough, children adapt surprisingly quickly.

OWW maybe your name is mentioned on an engineering website or something?

Juliette, so have you dates lined up with Dutchman and Funnyman?

Scatty, I am glad you are moving towards feeling better, Fireman sounds lovely and kind, I am resisting the urge to go green...

Sunday Hey!

Scrazy,SPs, Velvet, Kin, Bant, Bill,Tigsy, ChooChoo (have I missed anyone...apologies)

Hello WFF ( what's going on at work then ? Is it the usual carry on ? ) glad Lab is displaying the energetic friendliness so typical of his breed.

OWW think WFF must be right, you're being featured as Playmate of The Month in Precision Tools for Erect Engineers or somesuch publication.

Work have been messing around with my shift pattern at very short notice ie less than 48 hours. I realise that in the long term I may need to look for other employment, as I can't really do shifts now that I am a single parent.

Sadly that doesn't surprise me, there is similar fuckwittery going on where I am. They'll get to the stage where they lose all their dedicated, experienced, caring staff and wonder why it all goes tits up.

Thanks Kin that will do naicely. We are wimmin so will generally be considered stroppy by our mothers if we are not compliant and we'll end up on our own with only ourselves to blaim

WFF Funnyman is gsm phone call man, the Lab does sound rather good

Off to Ikea with DS. Unlikely to end any better than it's started hmm]

Thanks for the well dones and congratses and all... I really am happy

To anyone wanting to stop... was it winefiend? just do it! It's actually brilliant.

Don't be scared like I was. What a narna. I should have remembered from last time that it's actually really not that bad, and the benefits are just freakin amazing.

Don't call it giving up... as per the allen carr book, there isn't anything to give up, you're not losing anything. Honestly. Read the book and ditch the patches! I'll send you the link for the pdf if you want? or just google easy way to stop smoking pdf and it will appear. I have to say that instead of typing my fave paragraphs out here that made it all click and make sense in my head... this message would be waaay too long. but please do read, no book buying involved either.

Sooo... I've got about ten days of work done in half a day for a start, because I'm not stopping to smoke every three seconds. And my house is tidy! and I have energy! :o :o :o actual real lasting energy!

I could actually cry with happiness. I do honestly really know I have done it for good this time.

No lurrrve interests for me at the moment but if this energy keeps up then I might actually be able to concentrate on more than one thing at once (work AND sex life)

So we'll see....

OWW I am giggling at all your engineers lined up! God knows why it's happened like that but it is funny :o

Jules tis early days, very early days, but he is a nice chap.

Kin, what pisses me off is that there is only about a dozen of us to work the rota out for, we are not part of the emergency services, don't work through the night, so how hard can it be exactly to do?

On completely other news...(hopefully you will take this in the spirit in which it is meant)

My eldest DD opens door to Jehovah Witnesses, she says 'Oh we are too busy doing Satan's business in this house, I might consider converting once I am done with that' Shuts door..I have trained her well.

Hurrah for Lubes ! Sounds like you have well and truly nailed it.

WFF I think it's the current overarching mindset of the organisation, it gets very wearing.

Are you busy doing Satan's business ? I do hope so.