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TigsytheTiger · 07/04/2013 12:28

celebrating half a century of dating chit chat, all welcome ...

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KinNora · 10/04/2013 09:10

Glad you're having a lovely time Kirsty - is The Boy 23 or did I imagine that ?

( I now have Mad About The Boy playing in my head )

KinNora · 10/04/2013 09:11

Exactly Kirsty - I was wondering about Yoga yesterday, I hope she's ok.

KirstyWirsty · 10/04/2013 09:13

nora he is 22 .. Half my age..

KinNora · 10/04/2013 09:14

Showbiz is the amusing bearded sophisticate whose neck sniff gave me a frisson in the station ( never heard it called that before )

KinNora · 10/04/2013 09:15

How marvellous Kirsty, he was funnier and had more about him than the older bloke, didn't he ?

KirstyWirsty · 10/04/2013 09:22

Yes he seemed to be very switched on .. Quite witty .. His profile and messages made me actually laugh out loud which was in contrast to the 33 year old ( u r pretty u r hot ) who messaged me at the same time ..

I am quite prepared for there to be no spark and for him to look like a 12 year old

A frisson however would be lovely .. Although will you be able to get past the woodpecker kisses?

Pomegranatenoir · 10/04/2013 09:26

Morning all,

Lubes - check you out being all non smokerish!! It's brill!!

Feels like there is a lack of decent dates out there for everyone at the mo. what is going on?!

Right well I am not at work today so packed it full of fun things with my beauties. Making a lemon drizzle cake in a minute then going out to friends and the park.

I still feel a bit flat but a lot better. I'm going to call solicitors in a bit and sort out the reason I feel sad. I am also going to try and give OD a break for a bit. I find it addictive to go online and see if there are any decent men on there but it feels like it is full of chancers at the mo. I'm not even particularly amused by the chat anymore. Same old and I have found that very few men are able to lead an interesting conversation.

Oooh and I had my nails done last night. Picked a bit of a random colour but I love them.

Hope everyone has a happy day and thank you so much for all of your kind words on Monday. You helped me a lot!!!

VelvetSpoon · 10/04/2013 09:29

Kin, you need to bin off Software asap. It's the fairest thing not just for him but for you too. And tell Showbiz where you want to go (was going to write where you want to be taken but thought better of it!).

I have text Cuthbert, not expecting a reply til later today or possibly tomorrow, as is his way. Feeling slightly more cheerful today although significantly fatter (if that is possible? I feel like I've put on a stone overnight!)

KinNora · 10/04/2013 09:29

Ah, no, Software is the woodpecker kisser who left me frisson-less.

I do hope The Boy is just as funny in RL ( and doesn't look 12 becaus that would be a tad off-putting )

VelvetSpoon · 10/04/2013 09:37

Oh, also:

Kirsty, glad you're having a good break, am v Envy of lovely weather!

Lubey, well done, you're doing brilliantly :)

Pom, glad to hear you're sounding more cheerful. OD can be draining, no harm in a break. Have a lovely day with your DC.

KinNora · 10/04/2013 09:39

Velvet no, you've not put on a stone overnight. Have you (and I say this as a fully fledged exercise loather) ever tried any of the Davina DVDs ? They really worked for me and I actually came to enjoy the exercise, which was bizarre.
Fingers crossed that Cuthbert achieves a new personal best text reply speed.

Obviously sniggered at where I want to be taken by Showbiz because I'm very very childish.

Pom really pleased you're feeling a bit better Flowers

ChooChooLaverne · 10/04/2013 09:42

Phew, have just managed to catch up - you lot can talk.

Sorry to hear there have been so many meh dates over the last week. Hope there are some better ones lined up?

ike what is ushering? I'm imaging you directing people at church weddings but I'm sure that's not what you mean and can't imagine why there would be so many 70s throwbacks there.

lubey well done on becoming an ex-smoker. The Allan Carr book worked for me too but only when I was ready to stop.

Nora do you like Showbiz?

Velvet any news from Cuthbert?

Snape have you said the 'L' word yet?

My update on the dreaded condom willy wilt (TM Kirsty) from last week is that it appears to have been a temporary nerves thing Grin Thank you for all your advice when I had a wobble last week.

So I'm pleased to announce that I managed to have actual sex for the first time in years a very long time (my ex was just not interested really) and MrNP is absolutely lovely. Grin

ChooChooLaverne · 10/04/2013 09:44

Sorry, x-posted

SPsFanjoTheBigStickyHaribo · 10/04/2013 09:47

I have no dates lined up but I'm speaking to a very gorgeous man at the moment. Like the sort of man you could sit and look at all day. Just a bit wary of him been a dick due to how lovely looking he is.

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Pomegranatenoir · 10/04/2013 10:22

Cake in the oven and making my house smell lovely.

Must keep myself busy, must keep myself busy, must keep myself busy!!!

Pomegranatenoir · 10/04/2013 10:38

Now making choc chip cookies. I will be the size of a house!!

KinNora · 10/04/2013 10:44

ChooChoo - excellent news on the banishment of WW, I do hope there'll be no stopping you now.

SP - enjoy looking at him, he might be a decent bloke too ( remember Nameless)

Wine you have made me crave a sausage butty - food of the gods.

Pom I've always found baking to have quite a therapeutic effect, helps me when I'm stressed. Plus you get to eat stuff when you've finished.

Snapespeare · 10/04/2013 10:54

pom glad you're feeling a bit brighter - those are all positive steps - and recognising what is making you feel sad is really useful - because by being able to identify what it is and n what you have to do to beat the fucker into submission, then you're starting to win. mmmmm at lemon cake.

fag-free-lubey you're doing so well! Grin well done you!

velvet I am sending my bees of distraction to Cuthbert to make him text you ( I have reasoned that I have bees in the way that dragon-mother on game of thrones has dragons Hmm)

at lovely-rest-of-thread

No words of 'L' have been said, but he made me halloumi last night and I'm reasoning that that?s more or less the same thing. Grin and we didn't 'have sex' last night. Apparently we 'made love' [vom] Grin [vom] and it was amazing, it keeps getting better, which is ridiculous It's funny, when I'm with him I don?t need to hear it, because I can tell just by looking at him- and I still feel a bit nervous-shy when I first see him, because he looks at me and my knees go a bit wobbly, but when I'm not with him all the annoying shitty things like work and DC things and money and annoyances pile up and make me feel a bit scared and worried, because I'm not sure where we are. I don?t think he's mucking me around, I think we'll be together oh! for a long time (we drop into conversations that I'm going to retire with a hundred cats and he say's that's fine as long as he can have a hundred computers and I think 'wow!' we're going to know each other when we're old!)

It's just that no one has said any of this and it makes me a bit jittery when we're apart. I don?t need the carp...I'm just in a period of acceptance that one needs to be absolutely resolutely certain about things before one starts making-free with the 'L' word, because it is precious and it does change things a smidge and it shouldn't be used lightly.

Snapespeare · 10/04/2013 10:58

wait! I didn't high-five choo-choo

KinNora · 10/04/2013 11:15

Blimey Snape, that is all just so completely wonderful, I feel no Envy simply because the way things are with Nameless are what you deserve. Such experiences (not enough, frankly) in life are horribly rare, and should be revelled in and marvelled at. I couldn't be more pleased for you.

( Are we all being bridesmaids ? I can provide my own tiara )

ChooChooLaverne · 10/04/2013 11:16

Snape that all sounds as it should be. Lovely.

I think that all the time and love that you put into the making of the notebook went out into the universe somewhere and came back with Nameless for you . Thank God Voldemort didn't react by declaring his undying love eh?

SPsFanjoTheBigStickyHaribo · 10/04/2013 11:18

I need a man like Nameless I think. No jealousy from me at all Grin

JulietteMontague · 10/04/2013 12:42

Snape Namesless is lovely, you are lovely and you so deserve all this

I thought I'd been very assertive yesterday by telling gsm man that I don't give out my number, I prefer to meet up for coffee to get to know someone and would he like to do that. He's replied yes, great, lets talk first to arrange time and place, here's my number, call me later. To a newbie on a low traffic site, I now can't dodge this without seeming odd. Either I wasn't clear enough or this is a yellow flag.

KinNora · 10/04/2013 12:59

Hmmmm, tricky. I reckon I'd be generous in the first instance, assume he'd genuinely misunderstood and send a lighthearted ' ooh look at the misundersestimating, I don't talk before coffee ' type message. If he's attempting to manipulate you, his response should make it clear and then you can tell him to sling his Machiavellian fucking hook