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Original poster

Dating thread no 49

999 replies

JulietteMontague · 01/04/2013 15:17

All daters welcome here.

OP posts:

48howdidthathappen · 05/04/2013 22:50

Castro If you want to know anything about OD. This is the place to be

SPsFanjoTheBigStickyHaribo · 05/04/2013 22:51

It helped me but wont be the same for everyone.

ike1 · 05/04/2013 22:58

Hasnt Kin done the BIG reveal yet??? FFS woman! Hurry up!!!!

Scrazy · 05/04/2013 22:59

Castro, honestly don't worry about being a time waster etc, most of it is crap and you are not committing yourself to anything at all by putting a profile up. Take with with a pinch of salt and see the guidelines posted at the beginning of the thread.

CastroIsDead · 05/04/2013 23:10

thanks. i want to know what ' wants to date but nothing serious' actually means? i overthink things really. i did have a rl date which was a good distraction but didn't work out. i don't want a relationship yet but if i have a free night to go out with someone interesting and maybe some sex in the not too distant future

Scrazy · 05/04/2013 23:13

It means that you are not wanting anything serious. Which it doesn't sound like you do. Disclaimer though, men can use the options and it might mean they are fishing around for one night stands. Who knows!

CastroIsDead · 05/04/2013 23:17

thanks no im not into one night stands and definatly not bothered about sex to be doing it on a first date so waiting should weed those guys out right?

CastroIsDead · 05/04/2013 23:18

but then if you go on lots of dates with the same person doesn't it just naturally get serious?iyswim? all very confusing. i don't think i will be very good at it

Scrazy · 05/04/2013 23:20

Castro, as I said, who knows and don't overthink it all. Read the guidelines .

mercury7 · 05/04/2013 23:22

Castro re: 'posting on fb about dinner and sexy time'

ewww, is there a more naff and cringe inducing form of over-sharing??

he must be sooo desperate to score himself some points

CastroIsDead · 05/04/2013 23:26

yea i know mercury. he is a dick

Scrazy · 05/04/2013 23:28

Block him from fb then you won't see it.

CastroIsDead · 05/04/2013 23:30

i did for a while but we are trying to be friends. i go off the idea more everyday its more for my ds sake. hate that he is still taking up head space hence the reason for wanting a distraction

lubeybooby · 05/04/2013 23:50

all ok :o shaky start but getting on like a house on fire now :o he's in the loo! so v quick update. back tomoz

48howdidthathappen · 05/04/2013 23:53

Lubey

mercury7 · 05/04/2013 23:54

oh the classic bait & switch, his profile pic is a ripped athletic torso....do I want to chat?
sure, but e-mail me a face pic first
and there he is, a bloke with bad posture who looks much older and waaay less 'fit'

mercury7 · 05/04/2013 23:59

it's about as misleading as me using Dolly Partons torso from when she was in her boobilicious prime

ohmyrainydays · 06/04/2013 01:08

Just finished date number 2 with a kiss. Not a snog just a peck. I still really like him.

KinNora · 06/04/2013 02:40

Tried to post from phone, is taking a bloody age so just in case, here's the shortened version.
Dinner, cocktails, snog no shag. Mehhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

WarmFuzzyFun · 06/04/2013 07:36

Merc, why do men do that? Do they think that we won't notice

Rain, aww , sounds like something good might be beginning....

KinNora, the snog, any sparks or stirrings? Painting?

Lubey

lubeybooby · 06/04/2013 08:27

Bant :o at your accidental zen post

Snape I too think the L thing can't be far off...

Mercury yeah that was my thought re: dinner and what made my twat radar twitch a bit... the possible angling just to come straight here or something. Thankfully that wasn't the case though.

SS haha thanks :o

Castro nothing wrong with making a profile and seeing who is about, maybe chatting to a few people... you don't have to immediately make up your mind what you want and it's your prerogative to change your mind as/when/if you want to, too. If you feel it isn't for you at any point you can hit the delete or hide button and try another time :)

WFF sorry to hear about the job crap :(

Kin!! Oh no @ the 'meh'

Ok... soo... my date rundown.

Gosh. What an odd one.

I relaxed my height rule, even suspecting he would, like so many, fib on that one... and indeed he did the classic at least two inches worth of lying. Said he was 5ft 10 but was more like 5ft7 or 5ft8. I'm 5ft 9 in my (smallest) heels.

First impression wasn't great because of the height fib and the slight confusion over dinner.

His body language was really defensive at first, and he drank water which made me a bit uncomfortable sat there with a huge glass of wine and an urge to neck it. Although we talked quite happily I was starting to think of just cutting and running, but the conversation kept getting better so I decided that even if no sex was going to happen he was fine to spend an evening with and would be welcome to my sofa if there were no trains back.

Meal was really nice.

Back at mine, he finally seemed to relax and we shared a bottle of wine. I got the first indication that he actually fancied me when he put his hand on my knee at one point and I thought oh! OK :o having been convinced nothing was going to happen

we talked and drank rather a lot more and then out of nowhere there was snogging and leading upstairs.

The sex was a bit meh, which surprised me after the snogging, which was lovely. He then clung to me and cuddled like a limpet most of the night... nice at first but I can't sleep all wrapped up with someone, eventually managed to wriggle free and get some kip :o

I've just waved him off to his train.

Overall verdict - meh. He would have relationship potential if I could be arsed to persevere. I did enjoy that big brain of his, he's very open, fascinating and honest and has a lot of good qualities. However I don't want a relationship and can't be arsed to persevere

If this was a couple of years ago when I really wanted a relationship I'd definitely have wanted to see him again and see if we could perk the sex up a bit over time, getting more comfortable with each other, etc etc (even though he breaks my height rule!) But as it is now... nope. I don't think we'll meet again or have a regular thing.

Ah well... back to the drawing board..!

KinNora · 06/04/2013 08:30

A brief good morning from me before I scoff the rest of my breakfast and then go back to sleep. (Hangover)

He's a sweet man, he really is but no, no spark. Dinner was quite pleasant, cocktails were good, we took a taxi back to the hotel and I asked him if he wanted to come up to the room. We kissed, he tried manfully on repeated occasions to get his hand down my knickers, yeah, I don't think so, pal.

The earth was very much not moving, in fact as we were kissing I thought of typing 'reader, my gusset remained un-moistened' on here and when a snog is sub-standard enough for me to be thinking of jokes, it ain't a good snog. I had more of a frisson from Showbiz's neck sniff than Software's ( yes 48 he did transform into hardware ) kissing and nipple stroking.

We're supposed to be going sightseeing later, wooooh, can't wait.

I did try to upload the photo of the painting last night but it wouldn't work, I'm not sure if it's the wifi here or because I couldn't reduce the file size so if anyone would like it emailed or texted to them, just let me know.

KinNora · 06/04/2013 08:34

Lubey - Software is almost a foot taller than me, at one point he was having to bend his knees to kiss me, it wasn't exactly movie snogging.

ike1 · 06/04/2013 09:00

Oh nooooo Kin...I just know that my date with Mr H is going to go a bit like that...are you disappointed lovely? Lubes....at least the itch was scratched.....for now....

KinNora · 06/04/2013 09:04

Why do you think that Ike ?

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