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Does this sound like he is using prostitutes? :(

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Cabrinha · 28/03/2013 23:48

Would appreciate some advice if anyone has knowledge of how meetings with prostitutes can be arranged - and I'm sorry for those who know for a bad reason :0(

So - background - some years ago I had cause to think my husband may have seen a prostitute. I don't want to post identifying info, but for example local escort sites in browser history. He swore it was curiosity / porn, we had counselling... I thought it probably never led to a booking, but trust was gone. And yes - I should have left him then.

Since then, I have periodically checked his phone - again, yes, if I felt the need to, I should have left (we have a child...). He uses it for work, so not unusual to have text messages with no name. I don't see phone often, but I do remember seeing a few numbers with no text attached (iPhone). It's only recently when I decided to delete a conversation with a friend where I'd bitched about him, that I found that this is what you see when all texts are cleared: the date and number still there, but no texts. There are 14 of these in a 2 year period (his sex drive never seemed high). Each of the 14 is a different number.

3 actually do have a message or two - which it would be easy to interpret along the lines of prostitution. One he says he has to cancel, one says next Thu 12:00 is only slot but he can have first refusal on cancellation, from Liz, and the third one starts from her "got man here can u wait for me x" - "no probs I'm early" - "call me x". As I say v easy to interpret as prostitution.

So... Sorry this is really long! I'll actually ask my question now!

Is this how prostitution can work? You get a mobile number and arrange it that way? All the 14 numbers are different, so I presume different women? I've seen escort ads in the paper, and I think they have mobile numbers? But how about on line?

4 different numbers are clustered over 2 weekend days - a year ago, but I know I was away then - and unexpectedly, so him quickly texting round to find someone free?

Frankly - I think it looks guilty as sin. And the fact I'm even asking this is a good reason to end our marriage - checking phones, FFS?

But I'd really appreciate if anyone could tell whether that's a common way to arrange prostitutes - i.e. via text, and if so, what's the likely source - newspaper, online (wouldn't that be email? Do women put mobiles on profiles on line? ...)

Thanks for getting this far :(

OP posts:
Cabrinha · 01/04/2016 00:33

I love that this got bumped on the eve of my dumpiversary! It's like a sign Wink Nice to read it and think "fuck that shit"!

OP posts:
dairofthehog · 01/04/2016 00:57

Just wanted to say I'm so glad to hear you ltb. Good for you! An awesome role model for your dc.

janaus · 01/04/2016 02:47

have you tried, calling the numbers, see who answers, might be able to tell, then just say, oh, sorry wrong number

Buzzardbird · 01/04/2016 11:05

janaus for the love of all things sacred. RTFT!

DrMorbius · 01/04/2016 11:58

Cab whenever I read about potential prostitute usage, I always wonder if the DW asked her DH why he used prostitutes. Did you ask? Obviously don't answer if it is painful.

Vernazza · 01/04/2016 17:06

Seriously? Ask him why he used prostitutes? Isn't the answer always the same? "Because I am a fucking pig with no respect for you or our life together." Yeah. Bit of a pointless question isn't it.

AnyFucker · 01/04/2016 17:08

Why are you asking, DrM ?

Maybe you could go over to that prostitute review website...there's some lovely fellas on there that I am sure would be happy to help you out.

Cabrinha · 01/04/2016 17:49

I already knew the reason:

I'm hot, he's not.

He couldn't keep up with me or satisfy me, so he paid someone to pretend he knew what to do with his small dick and lack of even basic technique.

Grin
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AnyFucker · 01/04/2016 17:54

arf

AndYourBirdCanSing · 01/04/2016 18:06

Ha! Grin

Seriously, good for you Star I hope other women in similar situations see this as inspiration

Mooey89 · 01/04/2016 18:20

Ha! You are excellent.
When I saw your update I wasn't even annoyed that I spent time reading a zombie!

DeKneesAreDeProblem · 02/04/2016 01:30

I'm hot, he's not.

Arf . Grin

And the Zombie got deleted. All's well that end's well. Smile

SomeonesRealName · 02/04/2016 07:01

That was a great read! Congratulations on your engagement Cabrinha Flowers

PixieChops · 02/04/2016 07:52

Congrats on your engagement! ThanksWineWhat is small penis man doing now I wonder.
Personally I hope his small penis has been ravaged by warts and fallen off.
Cabrinha your thread is inspiring to those who need to LTB and the fact you've had a lovely outcome.

DrMorbius · 02/04/2016 14:34

AF - Why are you asking, DrM ?

Because it seems a very strange thing to do. My best mate travels for business and occasionally while away he will "treat himself", I sought of get that.

But to regularly engage with prostitutes in your own environment, just seems totally bizarre to me.

Buzzardbird · 02/04/2016 17:41

He will 'treat himself'? Ffs. That does not make your skin crawl at all?

Howwouldyoufeel0 · 02/04/2016 21:26

The reason they do it is because they have smAll penises and are shit in bed they to pay someone to pretend they are amazing and fake an amazing time Wine

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