Dating thread number 48 :-)

[MirandaWest]

Here's the latest thread for everything dating related. All welcome :)

Totheteeth, when have I ever said I was in a relationship with c? In fact, in practically every post about him, I say we are not in a relationship. Because we aren't. I am quite well aware of that and have never made out anything different. As to why do I think he will have a relationship with ne, well why not? Or is that some sort of implied dig at me? I don't know how long you've been lurking, but go back to posts of mine a few months ago, or last summer. I am massively happier now. I don't really care if it comes across like that. I know how I feel - and friends in RL have commented on it too. And thanks for the offer but I don't need 'realistic' advice. I'm quite well acquainted with the harsh realities of life.

Velvet I thought about engaging with Teeth but decided not to bother, in the past there have been other posters who've de-lurked, chucked in their own two pennyworth, caused offence and then disappeared again, I seem to remember someone doing it to Snape.

Are you ok 48 ?

Yes he is Kin I am just going to leave him be.

Yes I am fine. I want to tell him I love him. I will if he says anything I want to hear.

VS the relationship comment isn't a dig. I'm just confused why you seem to think he might decide he wants a relationship with you one day. Why not you ask? Well why isn't he already? The time to decide if he wants a relationship is now. How many people do you know who have dated someone v casually for months and months and one half has suddenly decided that they want a proper relationship, after not taking that initiative for so long. If something is going to change and he has to get his shit together it ain't going to happen while you're dating him.

Ok 48, I take it you wouldn't feel happy telling him that by text or email ?

48 perhaps you should just tell him you love him anyway. I bet he's been going through agonies since yesterday and if your texts were a bit non-committal (happy Easter or how's your day type stuff) he could be fearing the worst.

I want to tell him that when things are right, I don't know why they aren't.

I know he wasn't happy last night. I was honest. Told him how Mr OZ felt, that I felt awful about it. No response

Teeth, everyone on the thread wants the best for velvet. Everyone hopes Cuthbert will either realise what he's missing out on, or that she'll meet someone who makes her happier than Cuthbert does. I think she knows that we all wasn't get to be happy. Just appearing on the thread, slating our advice and chucking in a couple of choice insults doesn't really endear you to anyone.
If you want dating advice or regale us with your amusing dating stories then go ahead. Velvet is perfectly aware of her situation and I don't think your comments are helpful.

I agree with OWW - I'd be tempted to write him an email telling him the things you've told us, how you've never had butterflies each time you've seen someone before you met him and that you love him.

Did you tell him you had no interest in Mr Oz? Saying you feel awful could be misinterpreted very easily. I think he could have got the wrong end of the stick.

< applauds Bant >

Morning all - had friends stay over after all last night. Many beers. No sex (Mr Flirt was ill! Couldn't make it)

urgh + grumpy + more urgh

I said I shouldn't have gone. That I wished he was here. Should I tell him?

48 I agree with OWW... just tell him. I'd need to hear it if I were Mr R&R

48 he may well be sulking and pissed off, and there's some justification in that. If I was seeing someone and she told me she was meeting up with an ex, especially one she broke up with because of logistics rather than the relationship going bad, then part of me would be thinking 'is she just seeing if he's better than me? If so, will she drop me for him?' the fact that you didn't doesn't mean it's all okay, there was still a risk that you took, which isn't a nice feeling. You could have gone the other way. It's like going on a dating site to see if there's someone better. It's hurtful when feelings are involved.

I hope he calms down. Tell him you love him.

48 Mr R&R is most likely doing that thing that is so easy to do when you're away from someone you love - he's sitting there constructing a whole 'she felt a lot for Oz before she met me, now he's turned up and he's said he loves her, she's bound to ditch me and I'm hundreds of miles away ' story in his mind.

At the risk of the thread turning into a Richard Curtis film, I'm joining the chorus - 48 tell him you love him

I have told him.

Good.

I agree 48 tell him you love him.

I'm getting a teeny bit annoyed with the nice one.

48 doesn't he also have really bad reception on his phone in Yorkshire? Could just be a signal problem, but I'm glad you've told him. You are very honest with him but that has to include being equally honest about the good feelings (which is often harder) [busmile]

am on my phone on the train so can't post at length (just typed and lost last post) but just to say:

Bant - and Wff earlier - thank you for what you've said.

Teeth, I do think it's a dig, however you dress it up. And one of my oldest friends dated someone for several years. He eventually decided he wanted a relationship with her, they celebrate their 10th wedding anniversary this year. That's just one example.