The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Wondering Where The Spring For Their Boing Is!

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Hi I'm Mouse

One of the Brave Babes on the Bus, a Bus full of different posters, some who drink more than they'd like to and are trying to stop, some who don't drink at all now, and some who are somewhere in the middle. :)

There's no judging here, no finger pointing, no rejection, just pure, unconditional, (occasionally tough), love and empathy.

We all share stories of how we got here, to have our seat on the Bus, looking for our own personal sobriety, our own personal happiness. Sometimes we talk about other things too, you know, like cake, cheese and even day to day life, life that can lead us to breaking point......... lead us to hit rock bottom.

So, why not come say hi, take a seat, post, lurk, whatever suits you :)

This is our latest journey with a link to others

And this is the reason we're ALL here, the first ever thread

Hope to see you soon :)

Isinde, sounds like a shit day all round. Try not to dwell on it. Raising small children is so hard on couples, i'm sure ( or so i'm told :) ) it does get easier. X

Oh fucking hell babes I think we have worms! (Sorry new babes this thread sometimes gets manky :), we like to overshare). Haven't seen anything but DS is scratching his behind all the time and i'm itchy too i daren't look for anything. Can i get something OTC don't have time to go to GP. Making assumption here that some of you other babes have experienced this!

Baby Jane, have downloaded it on to
my kindle (don't want anyone to see the book ) but thx so much for the offer, you are all lovely!

Greeneyed, yes you can get an OTC fluid or tablets for threadworms.

Thank you Witco :) on way to chemist now, hope they will give me it as I haven't actually seen anything. Does the medicine make you feel sick? My dog usually vomits after worming tablets!

Thinking about it, could we have got this off the dig, should i treat him too?

Er DOG

Welcome new babes...

I won't name-check today, with these exceptions, but I am listening to you all:

Greeneyed We've all just had to take Ovex (I think it's called) over the counter jobbies. Easy peasy. The tablets didn't seem to upset any of our stomachs. By the way, you have to treat everyone in the house..... (Didn't bother with the cats though)

Bit of a wobbly few days in the Lemon household. My mum has now been diagnosed with osteoporosis and a fractured spine. So, we're on the next bit of our roller coaster ride. I did get to Day 2, but this has thrown me quite a bit. My son is doing bugger all for his GCSE's and that's really, really getting to me. No matter how I try to play it, he's just not interested. My daughter is poorly too, with an ongoing problem, which may be stress related.

She's supposed to be coming on holiday to Italy with us at the end of May for my 50th and my son's 16th birthdays and for the fact she's never been to Italy. We don't know if we'll have to cancel because she's paying for it

Taking Steps I have PM'd you.

Isinde I'd just put it down to a bad day for both of you. It's really, really tough trying to do the right thing for everyone, and sometimes, you just can't.

{{HUGS}} to everybody.

Hey Green We used Ovex on DS2 (as Lemon mentioned) and it was fine - no sickness. Phoned the Doc who advised against the blurb and told me to look out for signs from the rest of the family before treating - otherwise it can get expensive.

Isinde How weird for me to read your posts. After all this time it has given me an insight to how my Ex may have felt. My ex and I were in exactly the same situation. I was a SAHM and ExP worked all hours to pay the bills. We'd both had bad days but each had little energy at the end of the day to show sympathy for the other. He moaned at me about the state of the house and I moaned at him about lack of help with 3 under-five year olds. In hindsight (an exact science!) we were under such stress - work, babies, lack of sleep, money, bills etc - that we retreated into our own 'corner's and ceased being a team - each of us needing to be heard by the other but not having the space, time, energy, willingness to accept that it was hard for both of us. It became a competition of 'who had the worst day'. In the end, the rows that followed were something we couldn't come back from. I don't know if you will identify with any of this but maybe, just maybe, it'll make sense?

Still fighting friggin' dog fleas here (Libby's been gone for nearly 3 weeks now). She's very happy in her new home. A win/win situation for all of us.

DS2's facial sores have finally given up the ghost to the steroid cream, thank goodness. He does, however, seem to have a couple of scars from the experience.

Morning all, still alcohol free, diagnosis of high blood pressure was something I expected but am also being treated for left ventricular hypertrophy (which basically means my left ventricle is inflamed), so drink is definitely out of the equation. Also fags need to be binned (have started on Champix this morning so hopefully this will help me stop).

Am also overweight so need to shift some lard and start walking in the evenings. Am at risk of stroke as have so many contributing factors:(

Phoned the Doc who advised against the blurb and told me to look out for signs from the rest of the family before treating - otherwise it can get expensive.

Purps Wish I'd known that - I bought 2 packs and anti-bacterial handwash and hand gel and everyfink!

ewww, we had worms a while ago. DD came out of the toilet holding something and said 'what's this?' Instead of throwing up I was very calm and said it was a 'sort of nit in her bottom'.. got some tablets from boots, took one each and that was it. It was awful though. I felt so ashamed..especially when a big sign went up at her school and was e mailed out ; THERE IS A CASE OF WORMS IN YEAR 2 !!! argh :(

Well, Lemony better safe than sorry! Anti-bacterial handwash is a good staple for small (boys!) children anyway. xx

Hello all

What an interesting post from inde and what an interesting response from Purple.
I have been in both positions and I can see both sides.

I drank a lot last night. Happy about the spring weather, happy to get home early enough to spend some time with my family, a bit crazy-euphoric about some stressful meetings over.

Need to calm down.

Thanks guys emin that's awful, don't know whether to tell nursery as haven't actually seen any worms. Taking afternoon off to wash and clean EVERYTHING to be on the safe side then dosing us all tonight. purple your description sounds similar to our relationship at the moment, so much resentment building up:( how to stop the slide...

curry ditto yesterday, in meetings till 7.30 so i deserved it right

obrigada good luck with the fags. I've swapped to electronic cig

Green Maybe trying to make the time to talk, to remember why you both got together in the first place, what you liked about him/her remember what made you fancy each other? A date evening, away from all the pressures and time-consuming shit - one night a month? This takes effort, time, money, over-coming lethargy and resentment and a joint agreement. These things aren't easy when you both have so many calls on your time but (says the voice of fucking experience here!!) if you still have some sort of hope and a residue of love, you can find a way. It does take two, though. Hugs, lovely. xxx

Thanks purple we are out tonight actually for a meal (rare) but i sm do tired and grumpy again after night/ early morning duties i'm only looking forward to the food!

Green I think tiredness makes us turn in on ourselves, makes us back into loners fighting work, chores, calls on our time/thoughts and want to crawl into a warm, calm, quiet bed - alone. At some point tonight, when he's chatting about something to someone, take a sneaky peek at him. Do you/can you see the person you fell in love with? Is there something still there that you should try and fight for? Oh, and enjoy the food! That is, at least, a constant!! xx

You are absolutely right Purps, we barely sleep in the same bed anymore. Thank you for your advice. Anyway how's you?

Right, my lovely, long term Bus friend Green! One of the biggest things (in hindsight) that lead to our split was separate beds! He was useless at getting up for the first baby (and the following 2)(but he had been working hard!) and I suffered from being woken up by him snoring (and loo breaks) and the baby crying 6+ times a night! We had a spare room at the time and so, inevitably, he migrated there and, three babies later (10 years + I'm embarrassed to admit that!), was still there! On the occasions that his evil Mother visited, and we wanted to present a 'normal' front, we shared a bed and communication (and sex!) was so much better. Looking back, we should have tried harder, should have seen the difference, should have tried to stay in the same bed. The separation, bed-wise, just exacerbated the lack of 'togetherness' in daily life. The silly things we talked about in bed were, mostly, the cement that made things work. Take from that what you will Lovely.

As for me? Not so good. xxxx

Thank you purple i will make a concerted effort to stay in our bedroom. Sorry to hear things aren't good for you :( do you want to talk about it?