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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Wondering Where The Spring For Their Boing Is!

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Mouseface · 24/03/2013 12:23

Hi I'm Mouse

One of the Brave Babes on the Bus, a Bus full of different posters, some who drink more than they'd like to and are trying to stop, some who don't drink at all now, and some who are somewhere in the middle. :)

There's no judging here, no finger pointing, no rejection, just pure, unconditional, (occasionally tough), love and empathy.

We all share stories of how we got here, to have our seat on the Bus, looking for our own personal sobriety, our own personal happiness. Sometimes we talk about other things too, you know, like cake, cheese Wink and even day to day life, life that can lead us to breaking point......... lead us to hit rock bottom.

So, why not come say hi, take a seat, post, lurk, whatever suits you :)

This is our latest journey with a link to others

And this is the reason we're ALL here, the first ever thread

Hope to see you soon :)

OP posts:
HootyOwl · 17/04/2013 18:54

No wine witch here either; not sure if this counts as a boing, but was making cookies with the DDs earlier and DD2 pipes up "Mum, what's got into you, you're so jolly! Not that you're never jolly, but you seem really cheery!"

Made me feel a bit sad that at this time of the evening I'm usually either eyeing up the clock, pacing about waiting to start drinking or feeling grumpy because I have no booze in the house. Either way DD2 has benefited from me not doing any of the above and for that's given me a boost (even though I still feel spotty, grotty and a bit blergh) Smile

HootyOwl · 17/04/2013 18:56

Greeny feel free to swing by here if you're in the mood for cleaning, I've yet to do washing up Grin

guggenheim · 17/04/2013 20:35

Feck and arse. WW bothering me. I know why and I know I should call my sponsor... arrrgh! Fuck off.

Ok. I can breathe now. It's the thought of never drinking again that's doing my head in.I've got a stupid thought going round and round in my head about booze.

Can I come back later and be polite then?

Fairenuff · 17/04/2013 20:42

gugg no-one really knows what lies around the corner. All we know is right now. How long will it last? An hour or two? That's all you have to do, don't think about any further than that.

Will you phone your sponsor?

Fairenuff · 17/04/2013 20:44

Well done Hooty, keep it So great to get lovely comments from children, they really do speak their minds so you know they'll give an honest opinion. Something good is happening to you, enjoy it Smile

Fairenuff · 17/04/2013 20:50

Sometimes I think, when the WW is flitting about, it's worth getting an actual fly swatter and jumping around, trying to swat her Grin

It might get rid of all the frustration and anger, who knows - we've had naked handstands here before!

SWAT HER WITH THE SWATTER! SWAT HER WITH THE SWATTER! GO GUGG GO!

< realises she may have crossed an actual line here and goes for a quiet lie down in a dark room >

Grin
dementedma · 17/04/2013 21:08

Usual few glasses here.can't be bothered drinking the rest. Why cant I just not have any at all?

greeneyed · 17/04/2013 21:24

Oh Ma I wish I could answer that for you. You can though you are having some AF days now and had loads in January. It can be done x

Isindebusagain · 17/04/2013 21:31

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babyjane1 · 17/04/2013 22:18

No wine witch here tonight, love the fly swat idea, also useful for naughty children and annoying partners, yeah this could work, good night and warm hugs to all x x x

guggenheim · 17/04/2013 23:09

Hi lovelies,

faire lol! You always say the right things. I just held on tight and was fine after I'd eaten. I didn't call my sponsor,even though she's lovely but I'll talk to her soon.Nope,the bus just saved my sobriety sanity once again Thanks

It's best for all concerned that I don't do naked handstands,there's enough misery in the world already. But WHO was the naked handstanding babe? Opal fruits offered as a bribe to name the offender...

ma aww..I dunno. It's hard and annoying at the same time. How's the running going?

isinde Sheeesh- these SAHM types,wanting a night off Grin That sounds like a huge houseful of guests,you'll be glad of takeout you cooked the chilli by friday.Hope it tastes great. Are you a good cook?

baby good to see you posting and I'm so pleased that you are in a positive frame of mind. Best wishes lovely.x

hooty yeah, it's not nice to think that drinking has an effect on dc. Good for you for being jolly Smile enjoy,you've done really well.

Ok- here's my unbelievably stupid reason for wanting a drink. I was tired and hungry but I'd been talking to some of the lovelies at my aa meeting the other night. One of the women had had a slip up, she's ok now, but in my stupid ,alckie brain I thought it might be my turn to slip up next and I nearly gave myself the excuse to drink. Hmmm...wouldn't take much to undo all the hard work that my aa group and the lovely bus have done to help me. I KNOW that I would be back to square one as soon as I have a drink. Can't help wishing I could have a glass or two though! Grin

Night babes x

LRDtheFeministDragon · 17/04/2013 23:19

Hope you're ok gugg - I can totally understand your (twisted, alkie) logic ... sounds very familiar (so I hope you don't mind me calling it twisted and alkie!).

But you can resist it and tell that wine witch to fuck off.

I am doing ok here. Holding out hope for Day 3 tomorrow.

Night night babes, hope you're all well.

Isindebusagain · 17/04/2013 23:19

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LRDtheFeministDragon · 17/04/2013 23:20

Oops ... sorry, isinde, I only saw your post when I scrolled back up.

Yeah ... that's not great, is it? Grrrr on your behalf.

Hope things go better tomorrow.

LRDtheFeministDragon · 17/04/2013 23:20

Don't sray up, lovey. It'll only make it worse.

venusandmars · 17/04/2013 23:29

guggs well done you for getting past that stage this evening. You wrote: Can't help wishing I could have a glass or two though Well, I don't know about you, but for me it was never really a glass or two it was always closer to 3 or 4 or 6 or another bottle.......

isindie I understand EXACTLY where you are. And I also know how shit and horrible it feels when I've gone on to open the 2nd bottle of wine, and the alarm goes off at 6am. Or maybe I've been restless and feeling sick and headachy and hot at 5am, been awake for 40 minutes and only just slumped back into oblivion when the alarm goes off 20 minutes later. I've struggled to hold back from being sick on the train, I've underperformed at training events, I've stuffed myself with high fat, high sugar high salt foods to deal with the hangover.

Go on. Put the top back on the bottle (or the cork back in). Have a mug of tea. And in the morning, say "thank venus I didn't drink the whole of that other bottle."

Isindebusagain · 17/04/2013 23:38

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LRDtheFeministDragon · 17/04/2013 23:47

You're very kind, insinde. It was actually you who jogged me and reminded me to get my arse back on this thread. So thank you so much.

Thanks
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babyjane1 · 18/04/2013 08:46

inside you ok today honey? Morning all, no fuzzy head and off to the gym, wine witch who????? Xxxx

curryeater · 18/04/2013 09:20

Hi all
Day fucking one. grrrrrrrrrr
sorry to crash in all me me me me

I have had 14 drinks this week, counting them today. NO MORE
dd1 didn't get into the school I wanted her to, I was almost sure she would. Gutted.
Bad shit at work.
Reacting badly to the pressure by drinking.
Need to chill out, hold tight and get on with things

Sorry, have a good day all

greeneyed · 18/04/2013 09:37

Sorry curry will you appeal?

aliasjoey · 18/04/2013 10:30

curry sorry to hear that, it must be so frustrating. What happens now?

curryeater · 18/04/2013 12:10

Thanks, green and alias. I don't think there is any point in appealing, it is a church school which we don't meet the criteria for technically (we have been going to church for a year, it needs to be 3). I am disappointed because the vicar approached me about dd1, asked if we would like her to go to the school ("YES!!!"), said he would recommend dd1, and I thought that would be enough. I think he overestimated his influence basically. Or had another think and realised he can't bend the rules. I don't know but essentially there is no point of an appeal as nothing unfair has happened.
I am sad because I had all sorts of hopes wrapped up in that but really the outcome is fine and is actually what I thought was the best possible outcome when I first looked into this as I knew we didn't meet the requirements for the church school. I was sad about it then, but I accepted it. That is what I have to do now. AND STOP JUMPING INTO A BOTTLE

I was educated in Catholic schools up to 18 and had massive problems with it (would never bring dcs up Catholic btw we go to a c of e church) but I am suddenly realising that I am gutted that my children won't go to schools with faith at their heart. I just need to get over this and remember that they are still a part of the church.

The other thing I feel really sad about is that dd2 will meet the criteria for attending the school, I think, and that means that when the time comes I will have to decide whether I will give her something that I can't give dd1 and that is tearing me apart.

greeneyed · 18/04/2013 12:52

Curry how many places do they offer? The school we are going to C of E take 20 last year they took 23 as they took everyone who appealed. May be worth a shot? Also can you call them and go on the waiting list incase someone doesn't accept?

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