Caught my husband out he has been seeing someone else.

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Name change for me as i am so devastated. Hes on a business trip at the moment but was sent random texts between her and himfor the prior 48 hours which somehow i think maybe because if icloud landed on my ipad including a naked phot of herself which she had sent him. He replied shes a 10/10 and perfect - shes a good 10 years younger than me. They were planning to meet in a restaurant and go on to a hotel room. The last year I have suffered from breast cancer and had various operations and i know that it all strted in December when i was just bck from hospital after my fourth operation. He knows I know and is getting a flight home this morning. I hardly slept last night and am holding it together for the kids. I have though in a fierce rage cut up numerous suits ties and shirts. From the conversations we have had he is blaming the cancer as having affected him. I have done my best to make him happy we do have a sex life but my body and breasts are scarred from all the operations including a mastectomy and reconstruction. I felt i had turned a corner with the cancer which was only diagnosed last July - his fling with her started in December - he assures me it was just kissing but i know they had a hotel room lined up. Sorrybfor the rambling - he gets back at luchtime - what shall i do ?

I had big fat tears rolling down my face reading your first post, he's a cunt.

Op just found this. Another one adding support.

I just saw this on another thread, it seems appropriate to add here...

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Whatever you do, please please please put your health first. Food, sleep, child care /domestic help, and daily counselling if necessary.

Many of us who have experienced infidelity know that these would be ideal needs for anyone in your situation.

For you, a necessity.

One of us is bound to be nearby if you need something or someone to help... Can't believe anyone could be so shitty. What a cunt. Selfish selfish cunt.

This is just awful OP, he is beyond lowest of the low.

We are all here, collectively behind you. I hope you can feel the strength of support for you.

{{FentonHug?}}

OP, don't let him stay under the same roof. It will drain you. He needs to sort out a couch somewhere for himself.

How did the woman get your phone number? What country is she in? What a cunt he is. I hope your treatment is going well. Anyone who takes the piss like this I struggle to understand.

I would kick him out op. Big hugs and stay strong x

whatever you do , DO NOT BE ALONE. Get someone to get the kids out for you so you can have a proper cry and a scream. it is up to you if you will forgive ( some women do) but either way you need to embarass him big time.

My guess is that now the OW's given him an earful for lying to her about your illness, he'll suddenly change tack, start sobbing and pretend to have a breakdown because 'he's ruined it all'.

his life, of course, not yours

You are a strong woman and you can rebuild your life.

You have your children and it sounds like a lot of support.

Continue to be brave and hold your head up high.

Good luck

O.P. I understand how furious you are but you don't need a criminal record on top of every thing else.

You know you have crossed the line here don't you?

You should have just not let him in and avoided this. I hope your children didn't witness this.

There is a reason everyone has been saying take some time out and remove him from the home- it's to avoid these extremely emotional confrontations and help take some of the heat out of the situation.

I don't think now is the time to be lecturing the op. The situation is far from ideal all round, we all know that, the op knows it.

Also delurking with for the OP.

Actually it isn't a lecture it's good advice. O.P really shouldn't repeat this in the interests of self preservation.

Her H could very well hold her to ransom over this and she needs to be in control of both the situation and herself.

I don't often post but had to as am truly shocked by his behaviour. How can he not be eaten up with guilt and disgust at himself. Look after yourself as you're the only one that matters. For better for worse, in sickness and in health - clearly means nothing to him. What a selfish c**t.

Ok, so violence isn't great, but quite frankly I admire your restraint OP.

I think I would have been tempted to relieve him of his manhood.

But you know what...he isn't worth it. Indifference and apathy are the only emotions he deserves.

Don't feed his ego - it's big enough already. It's ALL about you now and what you want and need.

He's not the prize here - you are.

Sending you strength OP.

He's not worthy of you.

You will get through this.

It is poor advice to suggest anyone ever has been right to get into a confrontation.

The OP needs to remove herself from the crap, frankly.

You will get through this, and when you do you'll be a better, stronger version of who you are today, he'll still be a middle aged balding cunt untrustable unloveable bastard [ grin].

You really will get through this

Oh love - what a pathetic twat he is. I am so sorry he's done this to you on top of everything else :(

I hope you have sent him packing.

Just when I thought that nothing on MN could shock me anymore

Wow. I don't usually post in the relationships section as I have very little helpful advice, but I am just so appalled at his treatment of you. Beyond contemptible. I hope you kick him straight out. You need to put all your energy into your own wellbeing and not waste any more of it on such a pathetic, cowardly two-faced idiot. :( and and for you

Each cheating husband seems to be getting more and more evil on MN. :(

He needs to leave, not just for you but what an example to your children, I am so sorry you're suffering. This cunt didn't even take into account STI risk or the effect emotional well being has on serious illness!

Also demand the truth about this OW. I mean Yugoslavia?! WTAF?!!!! IT HASN'T EXISTED FOR OVER TWENTY YEARS!!

As if all this wasn't enough, something is extraordinarily suspicious about the OW.