Caught my husband out he has been seeing someone else.

[Inrealshock]

Name change for me as i am so devastated. Hes on a business trip at the moment but was sent random texts between her and himfor the prior 48 hours which somehow i think maybe because if icloud landed on my ipad including a naked phot of herself which she had sent him. He replied shes a 10/10 and perfect - shes a good 10 years younger than me. They were planning to meet in a restaurant and go on to a hotel room. The last year I have suffered from breast cancer and had various operations and i know that it all strted in December when i was just bck from hospital after my fourth operation. He knows I know and is getting a flight home this morning. I hardly slept last night and am holding it together for the kids. I have though in a fierce rage cut up numerous suits ties and shirts. From the conversations we have had he is blaming the cancer as having affected him. I have done my best to make him happy we do have a sex life but my body and breasts are scarred from all the operations including a mastectomy and reconstruction. I felt i had turned a corner with the cancer which was only diagnosed last July - his fling with her started in December - he assures me it was just kissing but i know they had a hotel room lined up. Sorrybfor the rambling - he gets back at luchtime - what shall i do ?

De-lurking to say you are amazing, Inreal.

No chance, I suppose, that he has got sucked into a 'go-compare-ad-style' black hole on his way home. No? Pity.

Have just written on another thread that there are some lovely posters on Relationships to whom I would like to give a shotgun and a get-out-of-jail-free card, and you, Inreal, are one of them. Have some instead.

What an absolute scumbag of the highest order. Urgh. I'm so sorry you're going through all of this.

Hopefully he's had an accident on the way back that has resulted in the dismemberment of his penis and testicles and that is why he is late.

Inreal, sorry to say this but YelliwTulips raises a very important point above. There's no telling what kind of STI your husband has exposed you to. This is something you are going to need to see your doctor about, unfortunately.

Just seen this and wanted to add my support, he is a vile selfish prick.

Whereabouts in the country are you Real?
I feel inspired to come round, give you a hug and a cuppa, look after your children and punch that knobhead. (i am generally speaking very non-violent.)

Hope your okay OP

I was going to say the same thing... Where about are you?

If you lived close to me i would be over straight away!!!!!!!

Wow. Just wow.

I bet he's deliberately delayed coming home so that the kids are back and you therefore can't cut his balls off.

He's losing his hair is he?
If he'd care to venture round MN towers we'll relieve him of his cock with a blunt knife too.

Using a rusty cheese grater would be my weapon of choice on the cheating b***d

Nail scissors.
Tweezers.

OP hasn't posted for a while... I'm wondering if the rat has turned up.

His behaviour and choices are very poor.

Passing it off and using the cancer as an excuse really cowardly.

What I will say is that he needs to be sent a clear message that he is in all likelihood about to lose you and that sending him away immediately will get this message across.

I don't know but I would hazard a guess that this affair isn't anything to do with the changes to your body but a form of escapism for him. Not everybody has the same level of coping skills. Perhaps his lack of maturity is to blame. I think what he has done is unacceptable.

This is all tremendously sad. I hope you are okay.

The STI check is even more important because of compromised immunity through cancer treatment.

OP _ I am so sorry you are going through this. Totally undeserved, especially on top of what you have been through. If anyone needs to explain anything to your DC it will be him. As for him paranoid about other people finding out, how dare he. Looking out for himself yet again, because he know he will look like the biggest lowlife scum to his friends and family, which is exactly what he is.

Wishing you all the strength to get through this xx

wtf is it with stupid bastards like this that when the going gets tough in thier marriage they find someone else.

I'm so sorry OP xxx

I hope your ok op! You will absolutely find someone else who will treat you the way you deserve, with respect and dignity x

Hoping you have managed to find a friend to send your DCs to this afternoon to play or whatever, and that you are now busy belting him with the heaviest frying pan you could find.

I just wanted to say I'm sorry this is happening to you. You sound like a strong, courageous woman - it is a shame that you're having to use some of that strength and courage to deal with this immensely shitty situation but there is surely a brighter future waiting for you without this man in your life (other than as far as he needs to be for your children). Wishing you well OP.

This really is one of the most shocking, heartbreaking threads ive read on here. He is a vile, disgusting piece of fucking shit, i hope the cunt gets everything he deserves.

I hope your ok OP, if this was me his stuff would be in the garden and he wouldnt be getting anywhere near me, because i dont think id be able to control myself.

What a fucking twat, you are amazing op, youve been through so much but youre still so strong. you deserve much better than this

I hope he's at least had the guts to show himself by now. Hope tonight is. Ok for you x

Ok so hes back and i have even punched him slapped him and pulled his balding hair
Yes he did sleep with her
I am ok but feeling exhausted
I will post back tomorrow with an update
I will get through this

You WILL get through this. Love "pulled his balding hair" - not generally a violent person but he certainly earned that, I think.

HUG.

Poor you.

I hope he has taken his bags and left. And that you will be able to take his pension.