Dating chat thread! Number 47

[lubeybooby]

Here we go again folks, all dating related chit chat here.

No...that's it for us now OWW ..shame in some ways because I really did enjoy his company and we were very comfy with each other but we had to let each other move on...we would always be having these periodic rows and sulks otherwise. Plus we would probably be a bit jealous if the other got 'lucky'...

velvet stbxh showed his true colours after about 2 years .. I thought 'I deserved him' due to previous misdemeanours and was stuck with him for another 5 years till he cheated on me .. Talk about doing me a huge favour

OWW it wasn't that long ago when we were both coming to realise that no matter how much we wanted them to be the men we wanted them to be LM and MrCheeky were never going to be those men.. You've been so brave today.. I think you are right he was a transition to get you to the point that you would know you could have a relationship and also that you could call a halt when it wasn't giving you what you wanted or needed xx

It was always me who got in a sulk and kept breaking in off, he would be happy to carry on having his cake and eating it. Deluded fool, although to be fair I think he's realised it wasn't fair on me hence leaving me alone. It was me who got back in touch as I was nosy and wondering if he was coupled up with one of his many women. Curiosity Killed The Cat as they say.

Scrazy I just knew what time his flight was so went there and looked out for him. His ex was waiting too for the same reason. He turned up with a thirs woman. I recognised his ex from pics he had on his phone. we chatted and showed each other texts from him etc. he had proposed to her a week before.

when he showed up i confronted first and then she had a go... we both gave the third woman our numbers. me and his 'ex' then went for a coffee and she gave me a lift home. all ended up friends for a while. He refused to believe me and his 'ex' hadn't arranged it like that, but i did just recognise her and approach her and asked if she was the one going on holiday with him.

I didn't want to give up my house. I knew as soon as I split with the Ex I'd never see a penny (how true that was!). I couldn't have afforded to pay my mortgage and childcare, so I stayed put til they were older. That was my particular deal with the devil...

OWW I've PMd you with one of my tales, I started it here but it's too embarrassing for the entire internet to know .

God Lubey 2 women turning up at the airport independently to catch the cad. Did it last with the 3rd woman do you know?

she still went on holiday with him scrazy but don't think she had much choice as would have been a bit stranded otherwise... thinking about it with hindsight we should have offered to look after her but I think we were all in too much shock to think beyond swapping numbers. but then she called us when she got back and had dropped him then - so nope just a week from that point.

Some of these stories are awful, really awful. It makes me angry how these men think they can play us like this.

I am totally taken aback by what has happened this evening. I never thought he would be such a lowlife as to refuse to even have an adult conversation. I do feel low but he has shown me that he's not who I thought he was. Kirsty you have it spot on, these two have so much potential if only x,y and z were different, and that's never going to happen.

I also stayed with someone for years as everyone told me I was unhappy with that nice, polite stepdad to DS because I was depressed. As predicted (by me) I felt so much better once he'd gone 5 years.

Or the cretin who looking back may well have been a sociopath or narc, his extended family and everyone in the village avoided him but not me. 3 years. Took him back twice.

The thing is, none of us at stupid, its like boiling a lobster in cold water and so difficult to work out what is going on at the time.

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When we fall in love, we hope against what we know, and experience that somehow, they will realise what a cunt idiot they have been and change.

We are not stupid, we just love a little too long.

Yeah or cant see a life beyond the habit (I think this was me because while I enjoyed TR's company and fancied him I didnt love him, he wasnt nice enough or supportive enough for the affection to deepen.)

Yep ( I have told this one before, just not on this thread ) when I started in labour with my first child, worried, scared, I couldn't sleep so went downstairs. Anyway after trying to read and watch telly to distract myself for an hour or two, I went back upstairs and said that I couldn't relax and was feeling lonely. ( brace yourselves ) his reply, completely seriously was ' Well why don't you take the dog with you next time you go downstairs then ' .
Yes, indeedy, stayed married for another 14 years and had another two kids with him.
That is how stupid I am and that's only one of the stories.

Look at all these tales of woe OWW none of us are stupid and we all deserve better. You're going to be fine without him.

ps I'm coming up north at the weekend, would you like me to poo in his shop ?

Kin that is a classic.

Just catching up after a really busy weekend.

oww sorry to hear what has happened but I think it is for the best. He made it too difficult to have a relationship with him. The lovely ladies on here have got it spot on. I hope you are still feeling strong. The next few days will be tough be sure he will still have been in your plans but it does get easier. And you are strong!! Very strong. And brilliant!!

Hello to everyone else. I'm back on pof and match. Nothing that interesting going on. Anyone fancy reading my profile and giving me some pointers. Not sure how I come across...!

Haha Nora yes please!

You're right Pom it is for the best and I'm just glad I've not wasted more time here. I have learned things from this and next time it will be better.

I am too much of a laydee to do it really but the thought of it did make me laugh ' Ha, you bastard, thought the bailiffs were bad ? Well cop a load of this then '

Just caught up with today's events, and OWW, I'm sorry this has happened. You deserve so much better than a cowardly little man who can't be bothered to even tell you face to face that he wants to end the relationship.

I'm another who has previously put up with shit in relationships. This thread is full of intelligent, successful, caring, beautiful women who've made mistakes, often over and over again. We all deserve much better, and we are the ones who can make sure we get it, by finding out why we make the wrong decisions, and changing that. We owe ourselves that.

By the way, thread, you are awesome.

Welcome, new daters!

pretty sure most everyone, guys & gals, feels that they've been a fool in some relationship or other...bloody sure I have loads of times.

awful as it makes you feel it's just the nature of the beast

And hello to the Lurkers, you know who you are!

Right folks, let's get out on the dating websites and get some (dating) action! Roar!!!

Sorry, am still in the weekend spirit...ignore me....WFF attempts to 'carpe diem' Oh only and hour to get thank god for that then.

only an hour to go...

Some things just don't get better with time, my typing is one of them.