Dating chat thread! Number 47

[lubeybooby]

Here we go again folks, all dating related chit chat here.

Juliette - if I get bored with mailing someone, I generally don't bother meeting them in person. Whilst someone can be far funnier by text and email than they are in person (everyone has more time to think up witty one liners behind a keyboard) I don't think I've met many people who are far better in real life but come across as boring via mail. Some, but not many.

Buffy mailed me back, we're meeting tonight. I withdraw my earlier 'humph'

She's also introducing me to a couple of her friends across from the US. Oh the pressure of being witty and charming in front of several people at once.

I got to thinking about kissing. Buffy is a good kisser. The Artist was, and the Vanishing Historian was (although there wasn't a huge amount of that before she vanished).

Safrican wasn't. MedStudent was too bitey. My ExW was a really bad kisser, and I never told her, which I suppose I should have done, gently, in the early days.

So is it just that there are styles people are comfortable with, so a bad kisser for me might be a good kisser to someone else? Or is it just that some people are 'good' and some aren't?

Kirsty, I never got anywhere with okc, a handful of messages none of which were worth replying to!

Western glad you had a great evening (and you too lubey)

Hello and happy friday to everyone.

Am still feeling happy re C and haven't stopped smiling, probably more because I actually for once manned up and attempted a grown up conversation. I'm maybe not as happy as I would be if he'd said this was a relationship, or he wanted to be my boyfriend or whatever, but for now knowing he likes me very much and wants to keep seeing me will do. Hopefully in time it will become more. He said that liking me, and now knowing how much I like him, is lovely but terrifying at the same time. So, we'll see :)

There are definitely different kissing styles - found this out years ago kissing a friends Ex (who she said was a great kisser). I thought he was terrible.

I bit C last night, slightly harder than I intended to . He didn't mind too much...I said it was actually his fault because I hadn't seen him for weeks so was now all over excited

Hello, I've been told I am a very good kisser by lots of men . I don't like bad kissers.

re kissing, I dont know if it's a case of incompatible styles, or just being bad or good at it, I think some people are more into kissing than others.

It might be in part do do with 'chemistry' in that saliva varies according to a persons biochemistry, so kissing one person might feel more right because of that.

In my experience good kissing doesnt always lead to good fu(king.

I think I'm getting weary. Perfectly nice corporate type 'liked' me on gsm, I did same and then I get fed up of waiting so mail him. Couple more days and he's replied telling me he is a great conversationalist and will make me laugh blah, then hacks me off by asking one of those standard 'and what makes you passionate Juliette?' questions. I feel like saying 'its on my profile you twat'. Just feels condescending but he's a newbie so... It's me isn't it, someone else would be enthralled

I can't keep up with you lot - have missed about 2 threads I think, though have tried to read up.

Bant I've been thinking about kissing a lot too as have been seeing lovely man for a few weeks who is the best kisser I've ever come across. I could easily spend hours kissing him - it's a revelation. My ex was a terrible kisser but I think he just wasn't interested. Maybe it wasn't so much that we weren't compatible, it just held no interest for him.

Velvet I'm really pleased for you that you managed to get C to speak about what's going on. Did you find out anything about the FB woman? I really hope it works out for you.

Waves at everyone else and goes back to lurking.

Oh dear Juliette I would of replied 'A man that has read my profile'.

Sorry Bant kissing, some people just have no passion, some have no idea how to respond to the others cues, stabby, sloppy, mouth like a goldfish, or washing machine tongue are all no nos for me. I've been blown away by a handful of great kisses, has always meant good sexual chemistry.

I love great kissing. Mr R&R is a fab kisser. We do a lot of it. I knew the first time we kissed I had to have him. There are several types I really dislike. Wet and sloppy. Too soft and wishy washy.

48 oh yessss. I just know he's going to be patronizing, must give him a chance very rarely do these men see my lighter side because they do the humor, then they mistake my wtf face for 'do carry on talking about yourself'.

velvet goodoh for the chat. glad it went well. :)

WFF hope you have a fab weekend! it's bloody freezing - hopetheres lots of nice warm pubs

bant hope you have a nice evening with Buffy.

scumbag it's OK to think about these things. it's not OK to think about them too much. very early days :) i also think it would be difficult for me to share a living space with someone and like the idea of possibly thinking about it when Dcs have flown nest - which hopefully will be reasonably soon... I don't want any of that 35 years old and still at home mullarkey.

CRASH CARP! hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahah!!

i wasn't too sure about kissing nameless the first time - now i think it's amazing. Think it was an acclimatisation issue.

OWW so pleased you had a great night yesterday, yay for LM!

Velvet you too, good news that you have a smile on your face and have made positive steps with Cuthbert, seeing more of each other, even if it is just for a few hours will help move things forward

I love kissing and it is really important to me, good kissing has always led to good fucking for me, but then a bad kisser never got beyond the kissing stage, so maybe that was self fulfilling

I have just had a very entertaining morning, I have a big circle of gay male friends and have just been having coffee with a couple of them. We got into a debate about men letting themselves go, once they are in their mid forties and I maintained that gay men had better pickings in that age range because they look after themselves more and take more pride in their appearance. They totally dispelled that myth by taking me through a gay dating website. Full of spuds, bathroom pics, men claiming to be 40 but looking at least mid fifties and a very off putting cock shot from a 60 year old man! The grass aint greener, guys and gals

no fish pics though - maybe gay men don't define themselves by the size of their carp

Oh God no to the washing machine tongue bleugh, not keen on biting either ...slow sensual with just the right amount of urgency...

Slow but urgent...no mixed singles there then guys ...get it riiiiiight!

I think my pet hate is being attacked by an eel. Anyone can be a bit slobbery when drunk, although it's not great. Bitey is a bit off too, but being stabbed to death by a pickled gherkin is just horrible.

Yeah, I really should have told the ex that..

Bad kissers - first boyfriend, like being assaulted by a giant flobbery eel, exh-didn't like kissing, had all the sensuality of a Roy 'Chubby' Brown gig, best kisser ever- that ginormous turd, Spud.

I think many people equate accomplished kissing with writhing tongue exchange whereas I've always prefered a more sensual, responsive approach, and any man who kisses up the back of my neck is onto a sure thing indeed.

yeah TR was quite good nice soft sensuous lips...oh well...

Mr Cheeky was a lovely kisser .. I'm with you on the neck and shoulder kissing Nora

I like a bit of tongue action. When done correctly

Tongues are fine, at just the right time.

I like a bit of tongue :)

Am feeling just a tad frustrated at the moment - no sex for 12 days so far and have to wait another 6 days for some . A few years ago I wasn't having any sex at all and didn't miss it. Think it's a case of use it or lose it for me.

It is so cold here

It's freezing here too! Snuggled up with ds under a blanket as he is always warm. Dd is always a bit chilly so she's my summer snuggle.

I went for years (literally) with no sex whilst I was with my ex and after we split up and like you Miranda I didn't really miss it, just got used to it. Now I'm back into it I think I could happily do it every day if I had the chance! Love kissing too and just sitting holding hands or with our legs touching or whatever.

Best thing about last night was being in bed with LM afterwards, both happy, dozing, lying on his shoulder with our arms and legs wrapped round each other, lovely and warm listening to the horrible weather outside. Perfect. Then the poor bugger had to get up and go home , don't have him stopping all night when the children are here. I am daft about this blooming man.

Mr Nice hasn't ever stayed here when children are here yet. I haven't stayed with him when his DS is there either (he did ask him but his DS said "absolutely not" or something like that as it felt a but too weird to him. He will be going to university in the autumn though.

As Mr nice is hoping to come and stay with us on holiday for a couple of nights I am hoping he may sleep here at some point when children are here. There is a greater distance between rooms in the holiday cottage though (have been there before)