To be a weeny bit suspicious of DP going to work today?

[TallDwarf]

DP owns his own company along with his business partner. He does sometimes work weekends but its always from home, today he has gone in to work in one of their popular city locations. It was a last minute plan that he announced on Friday. He said he needed a business meeting with his partner, but they're emailing each other every day and see each other at least once a week at work anyway so seemed a bit weird to give up a weekend day for this.

I've emailed him a couple of times this morning but not got a reply, but have had a text from him.

Am I reading too much in to nothing here? Just seems weird to go to work on a Sunday, text me but not read or reply to emails...?

Hope you are OK , OP

Hope the op is ok. I'm hoping she knows a female friend nearby she cn go and get smashed with if she was right

We dont know if op will be back but I hate to think of her in the dark on a bus all alone feeling everything and no support.

Maybe we should have suggested she take a rl friend with her?

Hope she is ok

Sounds suspicious. Hope you are ok OP, good luck... I agree with Piemother - have you got a friend who can go with you/ be nearby?

I am feeling nervous for OP.

Good luck

People do act very oddly when they are having affairs. My old boss (female) took myself and some other colleagues to the same bar where she had started her affair with a married man (and went to regularly) and bought us all the same cocktails that they used to drink. It was very uncomfortable. God knows what the bar staff thought.

I'd think he'd planned a piss up with his business partner. St Patricks day drinks.

Good luck.

OP I would be doing the same in your position, in fact I've come close.
I was totally wrong and it turned out that DP was in fact doing exactly what he said he was and we know laugh about it.
It made us evaluate our relationship and understand that we had problems that needed sorting.

We are very happy now.
I really hope you have a similar outcome

I think you are absolutely wrong to go TallDwarf if you're right, you are going to look ridiculus turning up in a wig and glasses, if you're wrong same applies and you'll probably lose all chance of reconciliation with your DH.

I would be absolutely mortified if I was having a business meal and my DH turned up in a fake moustache and wig and, on knowing his suspicions were wrong, pretended that he'd stalked me as a nice surprise. It would be game over.

I do sympathise with you but you are not acting in YOUR best interests, and anyone who advises this completely nuts behaviour hasn't got your best interests at heart either.

You should not take this action, not unless you're 100% sure, 100%, and even then you should do it without a disguise, and have some support around you. I know, I've been there... if your suspicions are right, you're going to be alone, feeling a twat in a wig and glasses with no support. This will not end well.

OP, please take care .

If you're reading this come back for support and advice, you're undeniably anxious and upset.

Oh dear OP, I am so worried for you. I've been in a similar position too. Do not underestimate how good your instinct is or how much adrenalin will flow through your veins if you catch him out. You can end up very out of control. Dont be on your own and dont be on a bus. It is thoroughly understandable that you want to do it but please call a rl friend.

No what's naive is thinking what OP is doing is a good idea on any level
Like I said originally, this plan will end in tears, the OP's.

aldiwhore I agree one hundred percent and I think those encouraging the op are doing so for their own morbid entertainment and dressing it up as support.

I don't think anyone has been encouraging the OP with the wig and glasses covert operation, in my opinion too, it is not a good idea, but it has appeared the OP has definitely decided on this and already gone to do this, so all we can do now is support her, she must already be feeling terrible.

Op Ive just read thread and im so sorry you are going through this. Please come back and ignore people who are being unsupportive.

OP I totally understand your need for answers but please be careful. As others have said if this is all totally innocent it could completely destroy your relationship. Hope you have someone with you. Please, please come back to let us all know that you're ok.

Hope you manage to read some of these posts OP - hopefully on your phone whilst you are out this evening. You have alot of support here, so please come back.

Do you have anyone you can take with you or if you let us know where you are perhaps a mumsnetter could meet you.

Do come back OP. I don't think you're being crazy at all. I think it's far crazier to sit home going out of your mind. You've been proactive in a horrible situation and empowered yourself, rather than feeling stranded without all the information.

More power to you.

No one has encouraged OP - she decided to do it. She says she has had suspicions for a while, she's hardly doing this for sport. Some of you are rather smug, making her out to be a nutter. Have you walked a mile in her shoes?!

I hope you have a RL person you can talk to, OP. Someone who, preferably, won't judge you (!)

Stay safe. And tell someone where you are. And have money for a taxi.

I hope everything's okay OP.

I think fair play to the OP. She says she has had suspicions for a while, she wants answers and this is the only way she can get them. Good for her.

The main worry, as many have pointed out, is the lack of support. She needs a friend with her/near her if her suspicions are correct. Hope she can get this support from somewhere, quickly, if needs be. Good luck OP.

Good luck OP, please don't leave the thread.