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To be a weeny bit suspicious of DP going to work today?

403 replies

TallDwarf · 17/03/2013 11:09

DP owns his own company along with his business partner. He does sometimes work weekends but its always from home, today he has gone in to work in one of their popular city locations. It was a last minute plan that he announced on Friday. He said he needed a business meeting with his partner, but they're emailing each other every day and see each other at least once a week at work anyway so seemed a bit weird to give up a weekend day for this.

I've emailed him a couple of times this morning but not got a reply, but have had a text from him.

Am I reading too much in to nothing here? Just seems weird to go to work on a Sunday, text me but not read or reply to emails...?

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NaturalBlondeYeahRight · 17/03/2013 18:11

We do support you OP, I think you have convinced yourself that this is the time you catch him at it (suspicions for some time I see). This might feel quite exciting/an adrenaline rush. You need to think about what you will do if its all seemingly innocent.

Bluelightsandsirens · 17/03/2013 18:11

Goodness, please stay safe.

mum11970 · 17/03/2013 18:11

Good luck op, hope everything works out ok for you.

AvonCallingBarksdale · 17/03/2013 18:12

Good luck , OP and don't feel that you can't come back for support.

SilverSnake · 17/03/2013 18:12

Also take photos on your phone as evidance.

If its his business partner and they see you laugh and say you came to suprise dh and a little roll paly and hotel stay was a sex fantasy of yours Wink

scaevola · 17/03/2013 18:13

Families it is hard to think a woman is the business contact, when OP has posted that she knew this particular business is being conducted with a man.

scaevola · 17/03/2013 18:14

Though, Families I suppose adultery doesn't have to be heterosexual.

ivykaty44 · 17/03/2013 18:14

Yes Sad I was three months pg and he suggested ow name if it was a girl - I didn't know he was having an affair at this point, she has a more unusual name and when the affair was found out by me and I then found out her name....

Loulybelle · 17/03/2013 18:16

Wow Katy, what an arsehole.

SilverSnake · 17/03/2013 18:16

Ivykaty Sad Angry

MsIngaFewmarbles · 17/03/2013 18:18

Good luck TD, I hope it goes well for you.

ivykaty44 · 17/03/2013 18:19

Op please be careful, you are running on a lot of emotions at them moment so it may be wise to put the brakes on and stop, slow down a bit and think about what yo are doing.

If there is something wrong and I think you are right - what will it acheive going there tonight? As others have said it is a lose lose situation.

Could you instead phone the partner and ask him a couple of awkward questions?

AndFanjoWasHisNameO · 17/03/2013 18:19

Sad Oh TallDwarf poor you. I know what you meant by a thrill-it's just pure adrenaline.
I'd probably do the same fwiw and have done just stay safe , do you have a friend that can come with you or even sit in the restaurant rather than you ? Whereabouts are you ? If you're near me I'll bloody meet you Sad

travailtotravel · 17/03/2013 18:19

OP, please come back and tell us. You do what you feel you have to do in life. In your situation, I'd be too coward to confront this so good on ya!

DontmindifIdo · 17/03/2013 18:20

OP - I don't think you sound crazy, I think you sound determined. If you are certain that it doesn't sound right, then go for it.

He's lying to you, the question is, what about. I think an affair sounds about right.

That said, if he rolls in with a bunch of guys, all hammered dressed in Green singing "oh danny boy" try not to be too annoyed...

ivykaty44 · 17/03/2013 18:22

please don't be sorry - it was a long time ago a now as she is nearly 16, plus she has a beautiful name

I was trying to make the point for everlong that men/woman having affairs do the most awful things along with their deceit that as a normal person we think - don't be silly they woudln't do that!

Loulybelle · 17/03/2013 18:24

Katy, oh i know the idiocy men going too, its so obvious sometimes you nearly miss it.

QOD · 17/03/2013 18:24

Good luck op. hope its nothing!

LondonNinja · 17/03/2013 18:27

FWIW, I don't think you're crazy. You know your DP best, after all. It always annoys me when people on here are slated for following up suspicion when given good cause! And the assertion that TD should simply ask what's up, having been treated with such anger, is very naive.

Good luck OP. Hope you're ok. Please let us know.

mum382013 · 17/03/2013 18:28

good luck op xxxx

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AnneEyhtMeyer · 17/03/2013 18:31

IME everlong it isn't cloak and dagger. Regular customers we would chat to would come in with their wives and then their OW. It was shameless. They are cocky and know waiting staff are hardly going to jeopardise their jobs by outing them.

ivykaty44 · 17/03/2013 18:32

everlong - no usually it isn't clock and dagger - it is a mixture of the two which makes life a buzz and exciting, it is living life on the edge for a lot of men/woman that gets the adrenalin mixed up with the lust and they think it is love Sad

ivykaty44 · 17/03/2013 18:34

Can we get back to supporting OP please as I think that is what is needed tonight

everlong · 17/03/2013 18:35

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