To be a weeny bit suspicious of DP going to work today?

[TallDwarf]

DP owns his own company along with his business partner. He does sometimes work weekends but its always from home, today he has gone in to work in one of their popular city locations. It was a last minute plan that he announced on Friday. He said he needed a business meeting with his partner, but they're emailing each other every day and see each other at least once a week at work anyway so seemed a bit weird to give up a weekend day for this.

I've emailed him a couple of times this morning but not got a reply, but have had a text from him.

Am I reading too much in to nothing here? Just seems weird to go to work on a Sunday, text me but not read or reply to emails...?

TallDwarf - i think you are doing the right thing using the information you have but you also need to keep your powder dry.

maybe lay low for a few days/weeks and watch him carefully?
i would be worried about the pressure on anyone in a disguise finding their partner cheating. also he does seem to be hiding something, but there are other possibilities.

Talldwarf: don't go, you'll get support here. Your DP sounds as though he's been awful to you for a while.

My mother walked in on my father with another woman.

She simply said, "don't come home, you don't live there anymore"

That was after 30 years of marriage & god knows how many affairs.

everlong - how would a woman know why men are so stupid - but they do take woman to the same restaurant as their wives. Mine wanted me to give the baby the same name as the ow and

Please take care. I hope you are wrong, obviously, but if you are not, please be careful. You don't know how he will react to your sudden appearance.

sorry that should be some men are so stupid, not all men

Best of luck Op.

Hopefully it's a misunderstanding, but if not then I can see that you need to do whatever it takes to set your mind at ease.

Katy Please tell me you dont mean name the baby after the ow.

Good luck TallDwarf, will be thinking of you.

His behaviour is odd, I would be suspicious but don't know that I would go that far. Depends on background I suppose.
Good luck op.

Btw, men do that sort of thing because they get cocky thinking they can get away with taking the piss.

IvyKaty

OMG there are no other words.

OP, come back and tell us if your were right.

I have a few favourite restaurants, I doubt any of the staff know me or my my dp though.

Favourite doesnt mean that they eat there weekly and are on speaking terms with the staff.

Men often lack imagination, I can easily see that he would take a OW to a restaurant that he knows is nice.

Good luck op I hope there is no OW
Stay safe

Good luck OP

Same restaurants same pubs same hotels same holidays. Some people are total tits, well my friends exp was anyway.

Why do you need a disguise? What if he walks in with his business partner and you are there in your wig? And they both recognise you?

I am totally with you in that it sounds worrying and his behaviour is "off" but is this really the way to go?

Is it really so hard to imagine that he could be meeting a woman for (genuine) business reasons? Why assume even if he is having dinner with a woman that it must be an Other Woman?

OP, if you do go tonight, please don't go in disguise and try to catch him out. I can't see any possible way that will end well

I would do the same thing as you op including wig and scarf over my head.

If ow is there ask her name as your filing for devorce under adultary and that he no longer has a home with you.

If he see you have seen him and ow he cant denie it.

Good luck op

OP, please don't go through with this plan as it's a lose/lose situation if you do-if you're right then it's a fucking awful way to find out & if you're wrong you will have fucked the relationship over for nothing as what you did tonight will come out at some point.
What you should do is ring him & tell him you're not happy with the situation & why & state an explanation in person is required right now.