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To be a weeny bit suspicious of DP going to work today?

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TallDwarf · 17/03/2013 11:09

DP owns his own company along with his business partner. He does sometimes work weekends but its always from home, today he has gone in to work in one of their popular city locations. It was a last minute plan that he announced on Friday. He said he needed a business meeting with his partner, but they're emailing each other every day and see each other at least once a week at work anyway so seemed a bit weird to give up a weekend day for this.

I've emailed him a couple of times this morning but not got a reply, but have had a text from him.

Am I reading too much in to nothing here? Just seems weird to go to work on a Sunday, text me but not read or reply to emails...?

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everlong · 17/03/2013 17:40

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mum11970 · 17/03/2013 17:40

If he's got an iPhone you can track him on the find my iPhone app, if he's got location services switched on. Hope it turns out ok and he doesn't spot you.

Chavvytastic · 17/03/2013 17:41

So he refused to tell you which hotel he was staying at?? You actually asked and he refused to say???

Thats confirmation for me, if thats the case.

Why wouldnt someone say which hotel they were staying in on business to their spouse when asked???

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TallDwarf · 17/03/2013 17:41

I did stuffez but he kicked off and told me not to come. I backed down and hung up in a mood.

My plan is to hide in the corner of the bar and wait for him to come in. Hopefully he will arrive with the OW and that will be proof enough. If not I'll have to wing it.

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MrsKeithRichards · 17/03/2013 17:42

This all sounds fucking bonkers. How stupid will you look, sitting there in a wig and glasses? What the fuck will he think? That you're crazy and don't trust him.

Mental.

Loulybelle · 17/03/2013 17:42

Oh refusing to say the hotel, thats an a red flag.

cocoachannel · 17/03/2013 17:44

Following the wig and glasses post I broke a golden MN rule Blush and see that you have had problems in recent months with DP, OP, to the extent that it really surprises me that you describe your relationship as good. Whatever is going on I hope it works out for you OP but this all seems much more complex than this thread suggests taken as a whole Sad

StuntGirl · 17/03/2013 17:44

I imagine the wig looks real and is not a Dolly Parton-esque number...I have one to cover my unatural coloured hair for work, it looks like my own hair.

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tiredemma · 17/03/2013 17:45

Marking my place for tonight.

Loulybelle · 17/03/2013 17:45

I think OP, that you really to assess your relationship, hes being suspicious and your going out in a wig and glasses to catch him out.

Your relationship sounds like its dying a slow death.

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TallDwarf · 17/03/2013 17:45

I won't look crazy in a wig, it's a nice expensive wig and it suits me.

I came here for support but being called crazy isn't helping. I'd like to see how you'd react in this situation

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SoldAtAuction · 17/03/2013 17:46

when you asked where he was staying, and he wouldn't tell you, did he give you a reason why?

MrsKeithRichards · 17/03/2013 17:47

Not like a bampot that's for sure.

loopylou6 · 17/03/2013 17:47

I was sympathetic till your last post, that actually does sound barking mad, big wig and glasses? You suspect your dp is having an affair, but you're getting 'a thrill' Confused

AKissIsNotAContract · 17/03/2013 17:47

Hope you don't mind me asking OP but is this the same DP who kicked you out a few months back or a new one?

AnneEyhtMeyer · 17/03/2013 17:48

everlong Well he isn't going to rock up to your favourite restaurant with another woman is he.

You would be surprised. As a student I worked in a little Italian restaurant and we frequently had men bringing their wife one night and the OW the next. Some people have very little imagination.

StuffezLaBouche · 17/03/2013 17:48

I apologise for reacting in a less than supportive way to the wig thing OP, it was mean. I don't know how I'd react if I were you but suspect I'd be just as desperate to find out the truth. But please do consider how awful it would be if he clocked you sitting there wearing a disguise.

MrsKeithRichards · 17/03/2013 17:48

And I also think there's a lot of crazy fuckers here who like to egg other nutters on, thus making you think your acting rationally.

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TallDwarf · 17/03/2013 17:51

It's the same one.
I'm going now and won't be coming back. This is hard enough without the scepticism on here.

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TidyDancer · 17/03/2013 17:51

Quick history search shows OP is NOT hairy of hand. And seems like her DH has been a bit of a tit before.

OP please just be careful.

AKissIsNotAContract · 17/03/2013 17:51

Ever long: my dad did, same restaurants, same holidays.

ChocolateCoins · 17/03/2013 17:52

Op Sad hope you're wrong and it turns out okay. Even though the wig idea sounds crazy I can understand why you're doing it. If it does turn out to be a man what will you do? Reveal yourself or just leave unnoticed?

ivykaty44 · 17/03/2013 17:52

Some people have very little imagination.

others don't realise that the waiting staff have eyes and notice the difference between all the different woman they bring along to dine with....