To be a weeny bit suspicious of DP going to work today?

[TallDwarf]

DP owns his own company along with his business partner. He does sometimes work weekends but its always from home, today he has gone in to work in one of their popular city locations. It was a last minute plan that he announced on Friday. He said he needed a business meeting with his partner, but they're emailing each other every day and see each other at least once a week at work anyway so seemed a bit weird to give up a weekend day for this.

I've emailed him a couple of times this morning but not got a reply, but have had a text from him.

Am I reading too much in to nothing here? Just seems weird to go to work on a Sunday, text me but not read or reply to emails...?

Good luck Tall, I can see why you are now very suspicious, going off on one after telling him you can join him is a big red flag.

Ok so I'm with you on trusting your gut. Better to act & look paranoid then to do nothing if he did start an affair today... worst case scenario.

BUT do you definitely know which hotel he is staying in? No use running around panicking, alerting MIL to problems... If you don't actually find him.

I'm still not absolutely convinced it's another woman.I didn't want to say it earlier in the thread when I first posted,but seeing as it's rapidly unfolding I will say it.

I know 2 people who checked into hotels,having decided they were going to commit suicide.Both succeeded.

I don't say that to alarm you,but just to put another possible explanation out there.It would explain why he is so agitated at those plans being foiled,it would explain why he has distanced off....it would explain a lot.

Don't go in there filled with rage,expecting to find another woman.Keep your mind open until you hear his explanation face-to-face.Something is obviously going on,but it might not be adultery.

good luck op.

Sorry not been able to get on here much, got DC wanting attention and trying to sort this plan out. I'm very close with MIL, I know she won't tell a soul.

Someone asked why I haven't spoken to him about his recent attitude - I have, we've spoken argued about it a couple of times. It's my problem according to him. We've been through a lot together and I really know almost everything about him. I'm pretty sure it is another woman. I've seen his attitude when his business has been in trouble and it is quite similar to what he's like at the mo, but slightly different iykwim.

Wtf do I do if I'm right? I don't think I could do a big scene in public. Sorry if I don't get back on here, will be setting off soon.

Is it not more likely something to do with St Patricks day? Staying away, suddenly has to stay overnight...sounds like a night out drinking to me.

Hope everything is ok OP

It does sound dodgy. Hope you find nothing amiss. xx

Jesus, that's so awful, Hilda :(

You come home and think about a plan. No big scenes. Im another to trust instinct but I hope it's wrong. Good luck.

Good luck OP. I'm hoping it all turns out ok and not another woman.

Hope it all goes OK TallDwarf.

If it is another woman, tell him "Dont bother coming home" and leave, that will kept your dignity intact.

If its not another woman, then you both need a serious talk about where your relationship is going.

Another one hoping you are wrong OP. What a horrible situation for you. Better to know though.

Hilda. I have known similar. Either way OP is concerned and I hope gets reassurance

Good luck op, i hope it isnt what you are thinking.

Oh and when a man gets uncharacteristically snappy over something, its normally because they have something to hide, IME.

I'm really not sure you are going to find anything now. Swap it around - if you were having an affair and DH phoned to say he might pop by, you wouldn't take any chances of bring caught would you. His heart must have been racing when you rang. If you do see anything, you will have to walk away to gather yourself. Will you be able to do that if you travelled by public transport?

This definitely sounds like something's amiss. I'm not usually the suspicious type, but this is odd.

Your plan is not the action I would take, but I hope it works out for you.

I do not think this will end well.

Of course she won't be there as you gave warning so there will definitely be no scene. You just turn up and have a nice time with him.
He will know for the future he is not going to be able to get away with anything and that can be the end of that.

Blimey, that wouldn't be the end of it for me xenia!

good luck OP, i hope you're wrong.

I can't decide if you're brave or bonkers for going to the hotel. I'll go with brave.

Good luck to you. I hope it's entirely innocent.