To be a weeny bit suspicious of DP going to work today?

[TallDwarf]

DP owns his own company along with his business partner. He does sometimes work weekends but its always from home, today he has gone in to work in one of their popular city locations. It was a last minute plan that he announced on Friday. He said he needed a business meeting with his partner, but they're emailing each other every day and see each other at least once a week at work anyway so seemed a bit weird to give up a weekend day for this.

I've emailed him a couple of times this morning but not got a reply, but have had a text from him.

Am I reading too much in to nothing here? Just seems weird to go to work on a Sunday, text me but not read or reply to emails...?

So, so sorry that your suspicions were right. As others have said he doesn't deserve you. Please look after yourself and come back here if you feel you need to talk (( hugs ))

God, I'm so sorry Dwarf. What a bastard. Hope you take every penny you can. Change your locks and secure all financial paperwork you can.

Oh no, I am so sorry to hear your worst fears were confirmed.
And I also feel bad that you've had some mean posts upthread. Your idea to go in the wig & glasses was great, I'll always remember it.
You smelt a rat, you asked for information, were fobbed off and were left to do your own detective work - and you did a great job. Just so sorry you were on your own.

What is your MIL's take on this? Do you have good RL friends?

Sorry OP, it doesn't get much worse than this. x

Hope you are okay op well done for slapping him. What a bastard. Don't get too drunk though.

You will get over this TD.

He's so not worth your tears - hard to believe right now, but it will get easier.

Don't leave MN, there are so many people on here who will have experience and will be able to help you.

really sorry.

I can imagine you are feeling very alone, but many women on MN have had the same experience and, with time, they have gone on to live happy lives.

Katie if you have suspicions it's best practice to report to HQ instead of upsetting the op further with false claims of trip trap posted on the thread.

I have no issue with the thread and think its vile to post directly when the op may be in genuine need of support.

Oh TD so so sorry your instinct was correct. Please lean on some RL people but we are all here if and when you need support. Massive hugs to you

How awful. Instincts are usually correct in my experience.
I'm glad you have a fab MIL.
Look after yourself. Remember, this misery will pass eventually.
((Hugs))

Katie, I don't think there is anything wrong with your instincts.

However far fetched and unbelieveable this may have sounded as the thread progressed,I really really hope you're ok op.

(on a side note,sydlexic might have won my vote for most clever username)

I'm sorry op. What a complete and utter shithead.

Hope you're ok OP

Oh

What a fucking shitbag. Hope MIL is understanding and ashamed of her son.

Oh dear, I'm so sorry your instincts were right Talldwarf. don't get too plastered, you'll need to get your head clear for the morning. Un MN to you.

So sorry for this outcome. I had really hoped he'd gone on a bender. Hope you have some good friends that you can lean on. Ultimately you'll be better off without the wanker.

Katie - well done on making the OP feel even more shit than she already did

Ok so let me see if I've got this;

Op has been suspicious of H for a while.
H suddenly announces he needs to work on Sunday.
Op sends e-mail but only gets a reply via text.
H then says he needs to stay the night in a hotel.
Op rings H to say she can come stay the night, but H is outraged by this.
Op then plans for MIL to look after DC so she can go investigate.
Op decided to go in disguise with a natural wig and glasses.
Op knows where H will be eating by phonin favourite resteraunts.
OP arrives at said restaurant to witness scummy H with OW ariving, she dlaps him and leaves.

All I can say is, I am truly sorry that your H has treated you like this, and offer sympathy

To those questioning OP's credibility its not your place to do so, if ot is TRUE its a rather sad story, if it isn't TRUE then that's that but you can't go around pointing at people shouting LIAR!

But why wear a wig and glasses? Surely he wouldn't see you before walking in with someone else if you were tucked away in a corner anyway? You'd only want to wear those if you were following someone, no? It does sound a bit like a potboiler, my sympathies if it's real though.

Truth is stranger than fiction sometimes, and I believe the OP.

Rather then preparing business papers and sorting out his briefcase, he could have spent a long time getting ready, slapping on the aftershave, admiring himself in the mirror and wearing his fanciest clothes...and then leaving his laptop at home. He could also have spent the last few weeks glued to his phone etc etc.

What a b**stard!

I'm sorry it turned out this way.

God, you are well rid of hm. Well done for confronting the bastard. Good luck TD.