Dating chat thread 46

[lubeybooby]

all dating related chit chat here!

off we go

Going round to his at 8.30pm. My hair looks yellow, I am uber pale.

Hop - it will all be fine. I can guarantee that you are not sounding or acting like a loon, there's just a high ratio of disappearers on OD, and this happens for many, many reasons which are nothing to do with the other person. If you'd like me to read through your text then I'm happy to, but honestly I think you will be fine. Just relax and be yourself. I do the thing acting like I don't care or making a joke of things too but I'm finally starting to stop that and be able to be honest about my feelings but it's taken months and certainly wasn't something I'd do early on. No need to let down all the barriers until you feel you are with someone who's trustworthy.

Moving - blimey, what a bolt from the blue! Hope it doesn't make things too awkward between you. Did you reply to him?

Lubey - well, at least he was honest with you which is all we can ask, really. Onward and upward.

Hello my lovely darlings !!! Hope everyone is tickety boo today! Still creating havoc on POF with my two profiles and kicking married men up the bum. Love you all. Mwah.

I-phone and Irish can toddle off, annoying little men. Still chatting to Mr Herbalist who seems lovely and has cut back the messages considerably. Thank the lord as Juliette can attest to.

I have now added Mr Marine ecologist to the list of 2...brainy with tattoos. Close run in with Mr Stoner Rock last night ...great banter but a little too mad for my liking and then waaaaaay too insistent on having my number so I blocked. Am ill with sore throat today though. Boo.

Aw ike hope you feel better soon!

I feel ever so meh today. Think its the waiting to hear from C, plus am waiting for something else which is slightly stressing me out but trying not to think about that as sure is just my age and no other reason

Oh Velv...is it what I think it is??

I expect it is. But honestly its far more likely to be age related than anything else, so I am telling myself not to worry. Esp as stressing about it will probably not help!

Velvet I was in the same boat a couple of months ago - best thing to do is just find out, set your mind at rest.

Hope you hear from C soon. So very, very frustrating especially as you want to talk to him about how things are progressing! I think you've been incredibly patient with him but now he needs to consider your feelings too.

Velv! You have to poas... I won't say for peace of mind because that's why I poas that time but, you know just get it out the way, much better than stressing!

I agree Velv...oh gulp. Good luck!

If nothing appears today, I'll do it tomorrow. Rationally I suspect I am peri-menopausal, I have missed a couple of periods over the last year so I'm sure its simply that and that I don't really have any cause for concern.

Ike the herbalist and Marine Biology Man (my best friend at Uni was a marine biologist and we made up a song of that title sung to the tune of "Leader of the Pack" - they don't tend to be a terribly physically pre-possessing bunch if I recall, but maybe things have moved on since the early 90s) are both sounding good . . .

Since my upset with LM a couple of weeks ago, I've been thinking about why I'm tempted to look on the dating sites when I'm feeling insecure and low. I think part of it is a bit like looking on Rightmove which I also do even though I have no intention of moving house/dating, neither of which are in my plans for the foreseeable future. It's pure nosiness. It also helps me to remember that LM isn't the be all and end all, even though I think he is most of the time, and that there are other men out there who could make me happy even if things don't work out with LM. I know a couple of people commented on me doing this and it made me think about why, and that's about it. Actually messaging and contacting people would be something else, though, and not okay, but I'm happy with my motivation for having a quick look on occasion.

Good luck velv

OWW but what if you got a message from someone who seemed amazing, or at least really tempting...

Best to just stay totally away no matter what the motivation, you wouldn't and none of us would like the possibility of the above scenario happening to LM if he looked for the same reasons...

I have just sold my wedding ring for more than I paid for it. This is a good thing :) I guess the price of gold has gone up.

Have also cancelled my phone contract - feel I deserve a medal for repeatedly saying "no I do not want another offer I want to cancel the contract". Finally he listened .

Is sunny. I did reasonable running. Need to dry my hair and go out and pretend I want an iPhone 5. I do actually want one and if I do enough mystery shopping maybe I'll get one eventually

Yes, I've stayed away since then! I was just thinking about why I did that instead of eating cake or whatever . . . No-one would message me as I don't have a proper profile or anything so there is no temptation there at all. But I take your point Lubey! I will content myself with being nosy on Rightmove instead.

And good for you Miranda on all fronts!

And the money has appeared in my account - I like faster payments :)

OWW I sort of understand the looking at dating websites thing - a few months ago I had a brief look with a completely blank profile (unsurprisingly no one messaged me) and I wasn't going to message anyone. But thought about it and realised was a bit of a crap thing to be doing really.

Got cross with DD this morning when we couldn't find her bookbag. We were late for school, I shouted, she cried etc. Went into her classroom with her and it turned out it never came home yesterday (we were dashing off to doctors and then swimming and I just didn't notice). Felt bad. But as school is only 2 minutes away I went and saw her at playtime and she was fine :) she and her friends were playing a game where they were all 18 "or maybe one of us is still 17). Am interested in what they feel 18 year olds do

Sure it will all be fine Velvet. I had a Mirena coil fitted for my horrendously heavy periods last autumn and since then they have been all over the place with the timing (but very much lighter yippee) so it's difficult to keep track. The nurse said that my periods might stop altogether - I'm glad they haven't as how on earth do you know if you're pg if that happens? A couple of months ago it got to around six weeks which was a bit worrying when I realised!

velv channeling positive thoughts for you - I don't believe in all that woo, but - you know.

ike 'RRrrrr!' at brainy and tattooed marine biologist.

hop hope you have a lovely date. :)

lubes yay for faster electronic payment. now buy yourself something lovely.

you'll be pleased to hear nameless got the all-clear for his sexual-lurgy tests,. so I feel happy..just need to get my results, don't think they'll be ready yet and I more or less know what they'll say (unless I've been cured!) so I've got that to look forwards to. had nice evening last night, he was a bit fuzzy-headed, but I'd been talking by text about being worried because I couldn't quite believe that someone i like, liked me... so we had a nice adult chat about it and all is well. he's just lovely. [/vom]

Snape that was Miranda with the payment... got mine yesterday though. Overdue council tax paid which was a massive relief! That's good enough for me for now

so it was - glad everyone is getting faster payments (except me! I'm not overly concerned with material matters at the moment, the council tax can stuff itself.)

Hi everyone. Is there any good dating websites that you pay for, but are not as expensive as Match.com?

I've been getting a bit wound up lately, and so I've decided I'm going to make a huge effort to get things under control. I was doing pretty well before all this business a couple of weeks ago and I need to get back to where I was.

So ... Could I please ask you that if I come on here whittling about shit (not the Little Friend stuff but the random anxiety stuff) you remind me of what I've said and tell me to give over?

And a huge thank you to people in here whi've given me so much support and understanding, on the thread and off it. It means so much. Thank you.

OWW we'll just go if you go off on one okay?

That will do nicely thank you!