Dating chat thread 46

[lubeybooby]

all dating related chit chat here!

off we go

Well I have some crazy news for you all! Exp who is dds dad told me today that he was going to buy an engagement ring and propose to me! Bearing in mind we have been split up for about 2 1/2 years and not even slept together in that time

Bloody Hell moving What did you say?

Moving... um, yikes!

I think?

Well he didn't actually ask me, he told me his plans to ask me and how he was going to go ring shopping soon with his friend! He told me all this by text!

We do both have strong feelings for each other. But I don't want to spend my life with him! Even tho the sex is amazing and we do get on quite well!

He also annoys me and I feel he is very in efficient and I feel that when we are a couple I can't rely on him financially as he hadn't always been steady financially!

Sorry I'm rambling now

Oh fgs.

Mr iPhone has just text saying he's met someone else... rightyo, that explains the quietness then!

At least he told me, I suppose.

I'd find that rather weird to be honest.

How do you feel about it?

That's annoying lubey.

I need to go running tomorrow morning. At the moment I am not feeling that inclined it has to be said

Moving well he'd be better off showing he is financially dependable and sorting out his life, rather than texting he's going to buy an engagement ring. Call me picky, but shouldn't your opinion on any of this count?

Lubey yes at least he told you.

Software man sent me a message tonight saying see you Thursday (for those who've not been following, I suggested Tuesday). At best its crossed wires but he's going to irritate me isn't he

I don't know how I feel about it! I think he would do anything to get me back and maybe he feels that's what he wants! And maybe a part of me wants that too!

But I don't think it would ever work!

Hmm maybe I could get bk with him have another dc then break up again??! Lol only joking, I don't Want to do it alone again

Miranda how much difference does it make when you run in colder weather? I was wiped out and had to come back. I'm being tested for asthma as my reaction was extreme.

Moving... !!!! Did that just come completely out of the blue? What happened in the end with your brother's friend? He sounded quite sweet.

Lubey - late congratulations for TT stumping up the money. Paid up, now piss off!

OWW - I despise LM's friend. Like the idea posted up thread about acting all pitying towards her.

Pom - good on you for cutting him dead. Next! Wish I could be more like that!

Thanks Velvet, OWW, Juliette and 48 for advice. Going round to Mr Full On's tomorrow evening, so nervous. Still wondering what it is I'm doing/saying to make men disappear. I'm sure I act pretty normally, but the disappearing ratio is quite high. Wondering whether I give off a 'not arsed' feeling in my attempts to be aloof even though I sound highly strung on here, I don't think I show it. Or maybe I'm actually needy without realising. Does anyone fancy reading through a text conversation if I PM it and giving honest advice about whether I come across like a loon? Enthralling job I'm sure

Moving My ex was crap with money. For over 25 long fucking years. Never again.

Juliette I think I am OK in cold (apart from my fingers going blue at the beginning) but wind is horrible to run in. Am not that keen on rain either tbh.

Oh and sex was brilliant. We got on great. Most of the time.

Oh no lubey, he seemed pretty flaky anyway. Any more trips to Scotland coming up with work soon?

Hop - Erm yes was quite out of the blue! I sprained my ankle badly, he's been hanging around trying to say he's helping but not very efficiently! We have been getting on well! As he started acting like a puppy in love again and then told me all this!!

Brothes friend didnt call and I didn't call him! He did seem sweet , but no one wants me and loves me in a crazy way like exp does! And I guess they are all just guys that keep me busy to keep me away from exp

48 - hes not just crap with money. I feel like he doesn't have a strong enough work ethic and will never be a good provider! Not that I don't want to work, I will always work. But if I am Married I would Want it to be to someone I can depend on financially as well as many other ways!

Moving - surely you don't want to depend on any man financially? Isn't the better alternative to be financially independent in your own right and to appreciate a man having it about him to also be financially independent?

I think that's what moving means, hop

No one wants to be married to someone useless with money and lazy or feckless with jobs.

Hop - I don't want to be financially dependant, but I Want a man that can help me get to where I want to be in life like buying a house and living comfortably and not struggling! Also if I had another baby I wouldn't want to feel that I have to rush back to work full time and would like to feel my husband can support us for a while and me maybe work part time.

But I would never ever be completely dependent on a man because I like to feel I can spend money etc when I want. And todate I have never trusted anyone enough to let them support me financially!

STBXH was a financial drain and never contributed. I haven't got the energy to carry another feckless man. Can't see myself ever trusting a man enough to allow them onto my mortgage ever again

Moving I know exactly where you are coming from

Hop I think it is very difficult to be yourself with someone you hardly know.
Just think of it as a few hours out of your life. No big deal.

Morning all, ahhh sleep lovely sleep. Only 5 hours but hey better than 1.5

Hop - exp wasn't a financial drain but I just never trusted him enough to hold down a job for too long, even though he has been in the same job for years now! But he never seems to Get ahead, he still hasn't got a car now and is 30! Where as I started driving when I was 20! Maybe he's slow to be an adult. But I can't have that all my life!

Anyway I had a terrible nights sleep last night and was awake thinking about having sex with exp! God I havnt had sex for so long