Dating chat thread 46

[lubeybooby]

all dating related chit chat here!

off we go

YES! Congratulations Lubey

That's great news :)

Yay thank goodness lubey

Lubey I do hope you are going to be bad and spend it on another dating dress

High five Lubey!! :o

Haha, Juliette I wish I could! I'm online paying my council tax right now... starting to get just about caught up to where I should be now. Such a relief. I'm a sure a new date dress won't be too far in the future from this point and things can get back to normal.

That was a loose end you really didn't need, so glad it's all sorted.

Yes, Juliette very definitely, me too. I'm glad I swallowed that needless sense of pride and chased it up.

lubey brill news!!! Tara TT!!

Brilliant news Lubey! (And great advice from posters on this thread too).

Oh well done Lubes...and also the might of Mumsnetters! Guess who else is enjoying a spot of revenge today! Have had a thoroughly fun half hour sending sharp rebukes to all the married guys on POF asking to meet up...basically telling them to sort out their relationships or leave and that they should be ashamed. I then block. Hey feels good!

Winefiend I can't be arsed with PoF either right now... hid profile and ran away screaming a couple of days ago.. gahh @ local men.

Thanks everyone re TT. The bunch of very switched on, brilliant women nest of vipers just can't be messed with.

I have slayed many dragons today, including him. Ahhh feels good to be getting somewhere.

OWW hope you're feeling a bit better, deep breaths if not, I'm sure all is fine and he did call last night and all that

There must be something in the air lubey .. I've had a suspicious lump checked out that I've been worrying about for weeks.( just a cyst phew!). Filled in a ppi complaint for a mortgage that I had 10 years ago that I've been meaning to do for months .. Looked into a bank account to put my financial settlement in (once stbxh signs the blasted thing) .. And completed 3 appraisals (7 still to do) and all my week's reporting

Nice one Lubey. It turns out this thread is like the A-Team.

I've been exchanging a few more emails with Buffy, on the subject of such diverse things as why doors used to be in rooftops, why there used to be a tobacco-pipe and set of bellows on the banks of the Thames in victorian times (she's never seen QI so I sound like a genius) and things like that. I'm having dinner with her on Wednesday night when I'm back over there.

I feel a bit strange about the financial disparity. I know I shouldn't, but I'm on British pay in a decent job, and while keeping two flats going and flying back and forth to see my DC every 8 days or so is expensive, I don't have to worry about money too much. She earns about 300 quid a month. So I want to take her to nice places, eat good food and stuff but I'm just a bit worried about whether it'll make her feel weird. Should I take her to nice places which I can afford, and which are - well, nicer, or less nice places so it doesn't seem like I'm trying to flash the cash?

In the meantime, I haven't dropped MedStudent yet as I haven't seen or spoken to her apart from a couple of brief emails. She just Facebooked me, and I've accepted, but I'm going to cancel date #3 (which hadn't been fixed) saying that I met someone else... Seems like the best thing to say..?

Advice, anyone?

bant I thought you'd already decided you didn't want to go for date 3 as she was going to jump your bones? Probably best to let her know soonest I'd have thought?

Kirsty - yes, (although these bones haven't been jumped since the Artist, months ago) - but I last saw her when she was flying back to the US to go to a wedding as a bridesmaid, and I really didn't want to upset her just before that. I think I have to do it tomorrow. Part of me wants to see how Wednesday goes with Buffy first, give them 2 dates each and then choose, but...

Bant, why not ask her?

The only time I would feel uncomfortable after being paid for on the first date (which is always fine by me) was if these nice places kept happening and I knew I couldn't afford to go dutch.

This sort of happened with BC and I and after feeling a bit uncomfortable while he kept paying I think he noticed and we spoke about it. I said yes as long as long as I could pay sometimes and so I would do when we went someone reasonable to middling and he would pick up the tab for the places out of my league that were his choice to go to.

Hello, just popping onto say hi, still not dating quite happily single with just couple of friends around me. xx

Calling all Vipers, calling all Vipers ... Can you help me sort out the situation with LM's Little Friend? It looks like she is coming up to stay with him again soon (comment on FB asking him to book her in for an appointment next week). He's not said anything to me that he's arranged this but to be fair I've not seen all that much of him recently.

I am fed up with this. It seems like he is spending more time with her than with me and obviously has made arrangements for her to come and visit yet again. I'm not happy about this on several levels - I have a strong gut feeling that she's after him, and I don't like him spending all this time with her doing nice stuff when it should be me! I don't want it to sound like I don't want him to have friends, of course I do, but this is just getting silly.

Bad time to find this out as I'm already feeling very wobbly today.

Please advise, what should I do?

Bant I think you need to be honest with the Med Student - its only been a couple of dates, so a nice text saying you've met someone, good luck etc should be fine. About the meal, why don't you send her a message asking where she'd like to go, making it clear it's your treat, then you can get all those issues out of the way beforehand?

Viper reporting for duty!

OWW I really wouldn't be entirely happy either even though you've explained about why she is around and that.

I reckon hang fire til you can talk face to face though? As for what to say, not really sure apart from maybe just saying she makes you uncomfortable and ask for some understanding about that and wanting to feel important and that you have just as much of his time and attention? That's probably the angle I would use.

It might be a tiny bit unreasonable, but you are allowed to be after his behaviour before, you need to feel a bit more secure in the relationship and he should be happy to reassure you.

Do you think it would be a good plan to ask him to arrange something for us all together so I can meet her?

OWW that's aggravating. I think you need to talk to LM about this - whatever is going on its making you feel uncomfortable and that's not good. A few months ago I felt that Mr Nice was being rather at the beck and call of his XW and we talked about it. He started being in touch less and I understood more and stopped feeling worried about it.

Yeah I do think it's a good idea. friends close, enemies closer... and all that.